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I definitely think after chatting with someone for a year, a connection is formed and along with that comes trust, regardless if it is a romantic interest or a friendship. Your action would be a red flag for me too. It would have been better if you were honest and tell him you're not comfortable sharing your photo. Honesty is best.
So here's your picture showing people what you look like:
Here's a pic of Katherine Webb:
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/406872147557403440/
Looks pretty deceptive to me!
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Kaycie,
Soooo...this is a little awkward, huh? You say you felt insulted that your friend didn't believe you, but maybe you're really just upset that you got caught in a lie?
I tried the whole fake pic thing once, years ago, in yahoo chat. It turned out pretty silly, really- I found a picture of a petite, gorgeous brunette, and used it as my own. I got quite a bit of attention from it, which, at the time, felt like a soothing balm on open wounds. I was so tired of being ME, you know? This face, this body, this hair...I'd gotten myself into some pretty serious trouble, and I just wanted to be somebody else, someone better, someone without a neon sign on their forehead flashing 'worthless' for the world to see.
It was so wonderful, for a few days, to have people treat me like I mattered just because of how (they thought) I looked. But then...well, somebody caught me, and told everyone, and I was mortified. I had one friend from there who had seen me on webcam and knew what I was doing, and he stayed quiet- he let me pretend to be this other girl, but when I was outed as a fake, he was there. He asked me why I'd done it, and I explained about feeling worthless, damaged, ugly.
He told me that as long as I believed I was worthless, I would live it out and make it true.
He was right. Using a fake photo online (even if it has your real face, or "kind of" looks like you) is deceptive, regardless of your reasoning, and it's ultimately...well, silly, and a waste of time. Connections online built on lies are, in the end, worthless. Honesty is best, whether that means explaining that you aren't comfortable sharing your (real!) photo, or sharing your photo and accepting that *gasp* someone will see what you really look like.
I hope you'll step away from photo shop and accept yourself for who you are.
Soooo...this is a little awkward, huh? You say you felt insulted that your friend didn't believe you, but maybe you're really just upset that you got caught in a lie?
I tried the whole fake pic thing once, years ago, in yahoo chat. It turned out pretty silly, really- I found a picture of a petite, gorgeous brunette, and used it as my own. I got quite a bit of attention from it, which, at the time, felt like a soothing balm on open wounds. I was so tired of being ME, you know? This face, this body, this hair...I'd gotten myself into some pretty serious trouble, and I just wanted to be somebody else, someone better, someone without a neon sign on their forehead flashing 'worthless' for the world to see.
It was so wonderful, for a few days, to have people treat me like I mattered just because of how (they thought) I looked. But then...well, somebody caught me, and told everyone, and I was mortified. I had one friend from there who had seen me on webcam and knew what I was doing, and he stayed quiet- he let me pretend to be this other girl, but when I was outed as a fake, he was there. He asked me why I'd done it, and I explained about feeling worthless, damaged, ugly.
He told me that as long as I believed I was worthless, I would live it out and make it true.
He was right. Using a fake photo online (even if it has your real face, or "kind of" looks like you) is deceptive, regardless of your reasoning, and it's ultimately...well, silly, and a waste of time. Connections online built on lies are, in the end, worthless. Honesty is best, whether that means explaining that you aren't comfortable sharing your (real!) photo, or sharing your photo and accepting that *gasp* someone will see what you really look like.
I hope you'll step away from photo shop and accept yourself for who you are.