I think churches have a type of person they're designed for but that type is heavily influenced by culture. Those of us who don't fit that type find church difficult or all work and little getting back. Doesn't mean we should quit but it does mean that for many of us who've been in church for a while it's not been all the front of house propoganda makes it out to be. Also it's possible that for some of us we've been in church so long that the benefits of church have blended into our expectations of normal and are harder for us to see.