What are a person's RED FLAGS that say, "don't date me."

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(grrrr at the editor limitation thingie) I'm a very affectionate person and it's pretty much the only term of endearment I really like. :)
 
p91 said:
My red flags:
1) Ethnocentrism. Not willing to get to know my culture is a giant no-no for me.
2) Homophobia, but we don't need to discuss this here.
3) Unwilling to learn new things. One of the things that attracts me in a guy is if he likes to learn things voraciously. If he is not eager about anything, we might not have anything to talk about.
4) Has no extra-curricular activities outside of church.
5) Immaturity. If he stomps off or hangs up the phone after an argument, he is clearly not capable of an adult relationship. Fart jokes are also not funny.
6) Drug or Alcohol abuse filled past.

I am sure a lot of other things irritate me, but I am accepting of almost all fault except the ones mentioned above. Everyone has something that they are not proud of.
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This statement. :p
 
1. A lack of intelligence and wisdom.
2. A sweetness that indicates disingenuity.
3. A worldview that doesn't match my own.
4. Intolerance of sarcasm, dark humor, and playful absurdity.
5. Typical female College Republican behavior (gossip, pretension, drama, hair-brained scheming)
 
I'm sure that I have red flags but I really can't think of them at the moment. I usually don't notice anything other than the very obvious. I wait till I get to know them a bit I guess.
 
Too masculine.

Obsessed with being manly and/or having big muscles.
 
I know for me, someone sent me a message once that said, "Hi! How are you today? My name is _____. If you would like to talk, my home number is _____ and my cell phone number is ______. Oh, and here is my personal email _______ and this is my messenger ______. Can I have your number, or is it too soon for that? Would you be willing to relocate ..." etc. This is a red flag for me because it shows desperation (perhaps) and more longing to say they are in a relationship rather than actually wanting a REAL relationship.
 
CHCSurvivor said:
I know for me, someone sent me a message once that said, "Hi! How are you today? My name is _____. If you would like to talk, my home number is _____ and my cell phone number is ______. Oh, and here is my personal email _______ and this is my messenger ______. Can I have your number, or is it too soon for that? Would you be willing to relocate ..." etc. This is a red flag for me because it shows desperation (perhaps) and more longing to say they are in a relationship rather than actually wanting a REAL relationship.
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Maybe he saw you and instantly fell in love with you...

OR

he's just desperate and this is equivalent of job hunting for him. Which makes ^that^ a sort of application.
 
Liamson said:
Maybe he saw you and instantly fell in love with you...

OR

he's just desperate and this is equivalent of job hunting for him. Which makes ^that^ a sort of application.
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The first part would have to be a pure miracle, I think, lol but always possible, I suppose. Still too forward for me, I guess, that's just how I am, ya know? The second one ... hmm ... Isn't that still a bad sign though?
 
CHCSurvivor said:
The first part would have to be a pure miracle, I think, lol but always possible, I suppose. Still too forward for me, I guess, that's just how I am, ya know? The second one ... hmm ... Isn't that still a bad sign though?
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yeah, still a flag. :)
 
LightningClap0002 said:
What does that mean?
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Meaaaaning i wouldnt date someone less than 200 pounds.

A red flag for me is a guy obsessed with what he looks like, the always working out blah blah blah wont eat this or that. So if hes skinny that to me is saying he is overly concerned with his self.
 
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