What are your most important qualities in a mate?

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What are your most important qualities in a mate? Check them off.

  • physical attractrion (cuteness, hotness)

    Votes: 20 46.5%

  • confidence/charm

    Votes: 27 62.8%

  • purity (virgin)

    Votes: 10 23.3%

  • clean past (no alcoholism, crimes, drugs)

    Votes: 8 18.6%

  • no kids (sorry, I had to ask)

    Votes: 12 27.9%

  • financially smug (doesn't have to worry about money)

    Votes: 6 14.0%

  • financially sufficient (gets by but can't afford expensive things)

    Votes: 12 27.9%

  • financially sound but not smug (makes enough to support a small family with 1 income)

    Votes: 10 23.3%

  • someone who likes to stay home

    Votes: 14 32.6%

  • someone who likes to go out and have fun

    Votes: 17 39.5%

  • someone talkative

    Votes: 21 48.8%

  • someone whos mostly quiet

    Votes: 9 20.9%

  • non-drinker

    Votes: 17 39.5%

  • non-smoker

    Votes: 27 62.8%

  • adventurous (camping, traveling/exploring)

    Votes: 20 46.5%

  • brainy/nerdy (reads, likes dramas and romance )

    Votes: 22 51.2%

  • likes to play video games

    Votes: 8 18.6%

  • does not like video games

    Votes: 5 11.6%

  • makes you laugh

    Votes: 37 86.0%

  • good fashion sense

    Votes: 6 14.0%
  • Total voters
    43
That they strive towards God and know the meaning of unconditional love and forgiveness.
 
Hi Zero,

Nice poll. :) It was hard to pick though because I "think" I know what I'd like, but as a friend always tells me, "God won't send you what you want (necessarily), He'll send you what He knows you need." I've also found in life that some people who have qualities I never thought I'd like turned out to be some of the best people for the situation I was facing.

Other things were hard to choose because I'm very middle of the road--if he plays video games, who cares? As long as it doesn't interfere with his everyday life... I don't really mind either way if he's into those kinds of things or not.

And, the old standbys--faithfulness, loyalty, commitment, openness (doesn't keep secrets), and a willingness to pray together about ANYTHING--certainly have to be there as well.
 
When the time comes for me to be with someone, it's important that he is capable of loving as completely and deeply as I intend to love him, and I would like for him to be all of the things that I am not so that if I am stumbling in some area, he will be strong, and vice versa. To me, this is what it means to be "one" with him...whoever he is...someday :)
 
I guess this has been my biggest problem. Its not the qualities that a person possesses which MAKES me love them, it is their capacity to experience the entire spectrum of what Love is. Almost in a sense like the way children see the world is the way I want it to be, where everything means nothing and the slightest nothing means everything. Like when I was throwing mud at the girl I liked in school and if she threw mud back, I knew it was for real.

The stuff the poll talks about is cool and I find it interesting that everyone hates smoking more than anything. Well, that doesn't bug me nearly as much as Ladies who are obsessed with horses.
 
Liamson said:
I guess this has been my biggest problem. Its not the qualities that a person possesses which MAKES me love them, it is their capacity to experience the entire spectrum of what Love is. Almost in a sense like the way children see the world is the way I want it to be, where everything means nothing and the slightest nothing means everything. Like when I was throwing mud at the girl I liked in school and if she threw mud back, I knew it was for real.

The stuff the poll talks about is cool and I find it interesting that everyone hates smoking more than anything. Well, that doesn't bug me nearly as much as Ladies who are obsessed with horses.
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I was sent home in 4th grade for punching a boy in the stomach who pushed me into a mud puddle. :)
 
Liamson said:
I guess this has been my biggest problem. Its not the qualities that a person possesses which MAKES me love them, it is their capacity to experience the entire spectrum of what Love is. Almost in a sense like the way children see the world is the way I want it to be, where everything means nothing and the slightest nothing means everything. Like when I was throwing mud at the girl I liked in school and if she threw mud back, I knew it was for real.
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I totally agree with you!! Love should be something special, not a compatibility checklist.
 
I did! I was wearing a new outfit my mom made for me and he got it all muddy! He said I could punch him cos I was pretty mad, so I did...and the teacher sent me home. My mom said he probably liked me, but I don't think he liked me much after that. :)
 
Jullianna said:
I was sent home in 4th grade for punching a boy in the stomach who pushed me into a mud puddle. :)
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Jullianna, I have an entire list of people you could knock out for me if you're interested... :D (I'm semi-kidding, everyone!) :) Or am I? :p
 
Jullianna said:
When the time comes for me to be with someone, it's important that he is capable of loving as completely and deeply as I intend to love him, and I would like for him to be all of the things that I am not so that if I am stumbling in some area, he will be strong, and vice versa. To me, this is what it means to be "one" with him...whoever he is...someday :)
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Julianna..That is soo nice of what u have said about havin someone special in ur Life
someday...I truely Hope that for me as Well..I agree with you soo..4EverGodsBeauty..
 
Someone who is willing to wake up at 3 AM for me because I want to take pictures outside and don't want to walk alone.
 
To me what is most important is honesty and someone who shares my values/morality/religion. Without those two things, how can you hope to make it through problems and struggles together? Without honesty, you can't even know what the problems are or count on anything. Without shared morality, you may not even see the same most basic things as "problems" to begin with.
 
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