What is a Gentleman?

[de-emerald]

Women starve themselves for control issues, and to not be judged by other women. Most dudes aren’t attracted to scrawny women. Generally overweight people wouldn’t starve themselves. Normal looking people starve themselves because they think they’re fat.

sounds more like ocd lol to me in the case of being a drama queen perhaps. but in other cases when it comes to your shape and body i have developed ocd because i put on 2 stone in weight.. i was freeked out when i saw the scales.. thankfully im almost back to normal

 

[Lynx]

I think its a good idea and maybe it should say under your avatar when you make posts that your a male or a female,, because lots of times i have mistaken female posts for male posts.

We used to have something like that. User names of males would appear in blue while females would have pink user names.

Alas, that was lost with the last forum update.

 

[Lynx]

my next novel is called Shop Girls of Harpers, set in 1912

Oh good. I can't wait to hear all the things you disagree with in that novel.

 

[de-emerald]

We used to have something like that. User names of males would appear in blue while females would have pink user names.

Alas, that was lost with the last forum update.

lol i wonder why

 

[Lanolin]

Women starve themselves for control issues, and to not be judged by other women. Most dudes aren’t attracted to scrawny women. Generally overweight people wouldn’t starve themselves. Normal looking people starve themselves because they think they’re fat.

wht happens is overweight people starve themselves for a few hours at a time (put themselves on diets) during the day but they totally binge eat at night, when nobody is looking.

I never got why they did that, but Oprah actually confessed she did that, like she would pig out at midnight.

I would see women who thought themselves overweight, pick at meals and then complain they were hungry afterward, and then no doubt they would go home to secret stashes of candy bars etc.
Instead of just eating normally and been satisfied with a regular meal.

The other thing they do is vomit it up afterwards. This is how some girls stayed skinny.

For someone who is naturally skinny, it was always insulting to be asked by another how I stayed thin, when I just ate normally and DIDNT vomit up my food. Not sure what the correct answer to that is, or what people wanted to hear. Fast metabolism? Just the way God made me? Or "I dont know' . what if I answered well I was malnourished from a baby, so, thats how I grew...

 

[tourist]

We used to have something like that. User names of males would appear in blue while females would have pink user names.

Alas, that was lost with the last forum update.

Yeah, listed the number of posts written too as well as rep power number.

 

[Lanolin]

apparently Audrey Hepburn was starving during world war 2 and ate tulip bulbs. she was part of the resistance, and when liberation came along with food packages from Unicef which included CHOCOLATE she was forever grateful.

Which is why she became their ambassador. Im guessing that poverty during the war made her quite thin. Though for most of us, we think shes just elegant.

 

[true_believer]

wazza? wasnt this the same guy who said 'all the worlds a stage' and back in the day, men dressed up to play women....

https://www.answers.com/Q/Why_did_men_only_play_in_Shakespeares_plays

 

[Lanolin]

answers.com doesnt want to give me any answers

If I recall in my shakespearean studies, it was because women werent allowed to do anything in the middle ages except cook and clean or have babies.

Maybe in their spare time when they were not cooking, cleaning or having babies they had time to play dress ups? But that would have been very rare.....

 

[Lanolin]

I found a book called True Ladies and Proper Gentleman, which the author had cribbed from some Victorian Etiquette books...by Sarah A. Crisman

People that arent ladies or gentlemen are said to be 'ill-bred'.

I hadnt really thought about breeding.
One of the things I read...was about how a gentleman walks with a lady. But nobody I know would walks pace with a lady. Youd be lucky if you got ANYBODY even to go for a walk with you. Men today want to drive a fast car and tailgate. They not going to wait for you. Or they are so unfit they dont want to walk. Ive known guys who think its ok to just ditch a gal on a date and not even see she gets home safely.

 

[Pureness]

To me a gentlemen is somebody who respects women. If you don't respect women how could you marry one?

 

[Lanolin]

To me a gentlemen is somebody who respects women. If you don't respect women how could you marry one?

a lot of men dont actually even marry women, they will just use and abuse.
A lot of people used to call living together as a couple without being married 'living in sin.' When or if they did get married, people would say that the guy made an honest woman out of his missus. Although some women dont want to marry either. It shouldnt be assumed that every woman wants marriage.

Gentleman, it seems, dont do this. They'd maybe court, get engaged and THEN marry and live together. A gentleman would respect boundaries I think. If the lady didnt want to marry, because he respects her choice, theyd just stay friends.

 

[true_believer]

To me a gentlemen is somebody who respects women. If you don't respect women how could you marry one?

A lot of men(and many women) marry out of cultural and familial obligation. Others will treat a man or woman as a resource and not as individual. The latter is all too common now.

 

[Lanolin]

I saw this book in the library, dont know when it was published...but it was meant for female readers..and it was called
'A man is not a financial plan'

One I saw in the bookshops this year was for men and it was called 'She is not your rehab'