What Makes a Woman "A Lady"?

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Lynx

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I'm sure I don't qualify.
Then you might just qualify.

All the women I have known who thought they were definitely ladies, were nowhere near such. Much too haughty and proud to be true ladies.
 

Desdichado

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Margaret Thatcher said being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to say you are, you are not.

Then you might just qualify.

All the women I have known who thought they were definitely ladies, were nowhere near such. Much too haughty and proud to be true ladies.
 

kinda

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We find a true lady in one very well-known chapter of the Bible -Proverbs 31.

A lady:
-is not boisterous
-does not seek inappropriate attention
-honours and respects authority
-treats others with kindness
-is a willing worker
-is not afraid of being judged/looked down at because she is different than other 'redneck' women.

These are a few things that I believe everyone should look for when they are looking for a real lady (especialy those of you gents who are out there lookin' for a good wife!).
Tend to agree.

Proverbs 31:10

A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.



A ruby can cost up to $400,000, so the verse indicates multiple rubies or at least more than one ruby. :)

https://www.gemsny.com/ruby/basic-search/
 
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I think every Christian lady should aspire to be a proverbs 31: 10-31 woman. That to me sums up what a lady should be. As well as a few other factors.
A woman should be demure, delicate yet strong willed, definitely feminine, and kind.
That all spells "lady" to me.
 

Lanolin

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I wonder who the elect lady was in 2 John....?
 

EnglishChick

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I think every Christian lady should aspire to be a proverbs 31: 10-31 woman. That to me sums up what a lady should be. As well as a few other factors.
A woman should be demure, delicate yet strong willed, definitely feminine, and kind.
That all spells "lady" to me.
Yes it's all about the character

some Christian women fret over the fact that they can't make their own clothes or bread and that they have to work full time but my response to this is that the Proverbs 31 woman was about character . Hard working, diligent, a good other, strong and dignified, a blessing and help meet to her husband.

The making own clothes, bread etc buying fields and stuff won't apply to every good Christian woman and that's ok. What matters is that she has the good character. A 21st century western proverbs 31 wife could be a stay at home mum or an office executive or an Amazon warehouse employee or a rich lady who has.plenty of leisure time, it doesn't matter, because the character qualities can be applied in any of those situations.
 

ankagirl

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I wonder who the elect lady was in 2 John....?
I think it was Mary the mother of Jesus. Remember that when Jesus was on the cross, he asked John the disciple to care for her. Maybe, maybe not?
 

love_comes_softly

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"Little ladies" brings me back to my childhood. I'd say my understanding was a lady could be anyone that is polite, proper and considerate.
 

Anthony55

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Hey Everyone,

With a few discussions going on in the forums about what makes a man a "gentleman", I thought it would only be fair to gather a few thoughts about what makes a woman "a lady."

I can't help but think of an old country song that proclaimed, "I'm a redneck woman; I ain't no high class broad." (Gretchen Wilson) She then goes on to sing about her talents for whiskey, leaving her Christmas lights up year-round, and standing on her front porch with a baby on her hip.

Now I am in no way criticizing anyone, man or woman, who lives this way. I happen to have an artificial palm tree swaggering with Christmas lights, and I happily turn it on any time I need a boost (never mind the multi-color glow that my neighbors probably all wonder about.)

But with the other discussions giving us some very clear opinions about what a gentleman is, I'd be very interested in hearing what people in this day and age would consider to be "a lady."

I was in a store the other day and heard a mother call out to her two young daughters, "All right, little ladies, it's time to go."

And it got me thinking:

* What lessons, events, and expectations take an "ordinary girl" -- and turn her into a "lady"?

* What is the difference between a lady and any other kind of woman?

* What place do "ladies" have in our society? Is the term "lady" in itself an outdated concept?

I don't think there are necessarily any right or wrong answers to these questions. I'm just very interested in people's modern-day perception of this term.

"Ladies... and Gentlemen -- The Honor of Your Replies Have Now Been Formally Requested." ;)
What are the qualities of a lady?
The traits of a lady include: A lady is generous with her time, wisdom, and resources. She is a woman of her word and follows through with her commitments, whatever the cost. She willingly serves others and extends a hand to those in need.
I cheated and googled the answer. However there were more definitions but I like this one.

Lord of Lord and King of Kings. What a wonderful savior we have.
 

Lanolin

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Amazon employee?
are they hiring?

Look amazon makes mega bucks but it doesnt build community like a library does.

sorry amazon, I dont like you.
 

Lanolin

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#33
Im trying to think if amazon actually employs ladies at all or if they just employ robots and algorithms.
 

I_am_Canadian

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Hey Everyone,

With a few discussions going on in the forums about what makes a man a "gentleman", I thought it would only be fair to gather a few thoughts about what makes a woman "a lady."

I can't help but think of an old country song that proclaimed, "I'm a redneck woman; I ain't no high class broad." (Gretchen Wilson) She then goes on to sing about her talents for whiskey, leaving her Christmas lights up year-round, and standing on her front porch with a baby on her hip.

Now I am in no way criticizing anyone, man or woman, who lives this way. I happen to have an artificial palm tree swaggering with Christmas lights, and I happily turn it on any time I need a boost (never mind the multi-color glow that my neighbors probably all wonder about.)

But with the other discussions giving us some very clear opinions about what a gentleman is, I'd be very interested in hearing what people in this day and age would consider to be "a lady."

I was in a store the other day and heard a mother call out to her two young daughters, "All right, little ladies, it's time to go."

And it got me thinking:

* What lessons, events, and expectations take an "ordinary girl" -- and turn her into a "lady"?

* What is the difference between a lady and any other kind of woman?

* What place do "ladies" have in our society? Is the term "lady" in itself an outdated concept?

I don't think there are necessarily any right or wrong answers to these questions. I'm just very interested in people's modern-day perception of this term.

"Ladies... and Gentlemen -- The Honor of Your Replies Have Now Been Formally Requested." ;)
I would say that a woman is a specific gender, while a lady is a woman with godly character.

I personally think that a lady is one who puts God first in her life, is family oriented with traditional values.

Is family oriented not career oriented, works hard to maintain the home, does not partake of immoral behaviour, like sex out side of marriage with her husband, does not drink alcohol, does not smoke at all, does not use illegal drugs. Does not gamble and does not have tattoos, she makes a concious effort to live a Godly life.

Looks after herself and her family, doesn't use cuss words or swear words.

And yes I would say the same standards apply to differentiate between a man and a gentleman
 

1ofthem

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Well she's all you'd ever want,
She's the kind they'd like to flaunt and take to dinner.

Well she always knows her place.
She's got style, she's got grace, She's a winner.

Well she's never in the way
Always something nice to say, Oh what a blessing.
You can leave her on her own
Knowing she's okay alone, and there's no messing.

She's a Lady. Whoa whoa whoa,
She's a Lady.
 

Lanolin

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maybe it really is in the way you speak

Remember in my Fair Lady where Eliza is at the Ascot races and she has bet on a horse and she gets very excited, but totally loses it at one point and blurts out 'come on Rover...move your bloomin' a.....!'

shocking all of British high society...
 

Lanolin

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apparently

a lady is a title
along with duke, marquis, earls, viscounts, barons.

But the wikipedia article is so long and confusing that my eyes were drooping.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peerages_in_the_United_Kingdom

If scroll right to bottom you might get to the good part, where if you are nobility you yet to wear robe lined with fur, wear a coronet, and a have a heraldic crest.


obviously this is a tradtion that goes way beyond back in history where they first designated dukes and princes etc if I recall in the Bible it did talk about dukes being the sons of Ishamel..though Im not sure if it now applies to all the descendants of Abraham being co-heirs and then kings and priests with Christ.

In Nz we have a new years honors list but I dont know if its the same as having a heriditary title, though apparently we DO have some ladies in nz. Wives of very prominent businessmen were often referred to as ladies.