Why Aren't You Married?
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gloria14r
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Even I am asked this question both young and old. The only answer I could tell them was - God created me and he knows what to do with me more better than me and you. And also God asked me not to worry about anything in this world and he is there to worry for me. But I feel bad inside if the same question is asked by believers, not because it hurts me, but for the reason of them being believers and asking that kind of question. If getting married is the right thing and God wants that in my life, it will happen for sure. And If thats not Gods will, God knows how to teach me things and serve him better being single.
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Robbinette
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I always say I haven't met anyone I'm interested in or I haven't met the one that God made for me. I not one of those girls who always has to be in a relationship and I'm not going to date someone just to be able to say I'm dating someone :/
From the women: Why haven't you gotten kids yet? From the men: You should go and spread your wild oats.
I just think that I'm in no position to rush anything. I'm in no hurry to gain a family or start a relationship that may have the possibility of failing. People grow apart all the time and from what I'm seeing nowadays, the virtue of patience is scarcely limited among the young. I don't want to be a burden to anyone, nor do I want to be over burdened with anything I can't handle. I can easily see within myself that I am not ready for anything serious.
I just think that I'm in no position to rush anything. I'm in no hurry to gain a family or start a relationship that may have the possibility of failing. People grow apart all the time and from what I'm seeing nowadays, the virtue of patience is scarcely limited among the young. I don't want to be a burden to anyone, nor do I want to be over burdened with anything I can't handle. I can easily see within myself that I am not ready for anything serious.
The thing is everything has a chance of failing. You could have a girlfriend or wife that cheats on you, decides to leave because she's not a christian any more, or your children could walk away from God, drugs, etc. The list goes on and on. Failure isn't the enemy. The fear of failure shouldn't keep any one from doing something. I am completely one to talk. There are many things I don't do because I'm scared. And the idea of being married to someone who may actually love me for me is terrifying, but my desire for a Godly husband out weighs my fear. Just barely, mind you, but out weighs it just the same.
I often reply that they can ask God why and if they find out from him...then maybe they can let me know!
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Powemm
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Draw a triangle
Write god at the top
Write your name on one bottom corner
Write partner at the other bottom corner
Now erase the line going from you and your partner..
This is how each relationship begins ..
Just like our relationship with god begins
If both people are moving towards their relationship with god ..Growing in christ together .. look what happens to the gap in the middle of that triangle ... if one partner is working on their relationship and moving towards god and the other is not .. the gap in that triangle can be as separated as when the relationship started ..feeling distant from
Your partner ? Check the growth chart on the triangle.. How's the relationship between each person going ? Growing together in him can be exciting and fun! It doesn't have to be miserable when both minds are in christ..
We are made different for a reason .. Only "one" of you has ever been made, never again will there be another piece of Goda art displayed like you again.. we do not appreciate and value this in one another enough.. He tells us
"I created you for my enjoyment , you are a "display" of My splendor . I would think the unique qualities of all men is the strong side of God women are missing we need men and their attributes to balance us out .. I respect and honor that god had made such a tangible thing like that for me.. And for men , just like gods gentle whisper inside your souls ? god made women to be the gentle side to help balance you out .. all eb and flow .. eb and flow.. karate kid kickin and plucking each others eyeballs out ? That's fun when playing and the gloves are in and no below the belt hitting .. I'm all about wrestling ... Anyway that's my two scents on the matter ...
Write god at the top
Write your name on one bottom corner
Write partner at the other bottom corner
Now erase the line going from you and your partner..
This is how each relationship begins ..
Just like our relationship with god begins
If both people are moving towards their relationship with god ..Growing in christ together .. look what happens to the gap in the middle of that triangle ... if one partner is working on their relationship and moving towards god and the other is not .. the gap in that triangle can be as separated as when the relationship started ..feeling distant from
Your partner ? Check the growth chart on the triangle.. How's the relationship between each person going ? Growing together in him can be exciting and fun! It doesn't have to be miserable when both minds are in christ..
We are made different for a reason .. Only "one" of you has ever been made, never again will there be another piece of Goda art displayed like you again.. we do not appreciate and value this in one another enough.. He tells us
"I created you for my enjoyment , you are a "display" of My splendor . I would think the unique qualities of all men is the strong side of God women are missing we need men and their attributes to balance us out .. I respect and honor that god had made such a tangible thing like that for me.. And for men , just like gods gentle whisper inside your souls ? god made women to be the gentle side to help balance you out .. all eb and flow .. eb and flow.. karate kid kickin and plucking each others eyeballs out ? That's fun when playing and the gloves are in and no below the belt hitting .. I'm all about wrestling ... Anyway that's my two scents on the matter ...
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Powemm
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Oh one more thing
If there's any part of the relationship not working with God "first" (as He wants the first of everything ) you can bet your life savings nothing outside of it is going to work ... He will have no other gods before Him ... It's all about the relationship ...
If there's any part of the relationship not working with God "first" (as He wants the first of everything ) you can bet your life savings nothing outside of it is going to work ... He will have no other gods before Him ... It's all about the relationship ...
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SeatBelt
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Wow.... just thinking how often God TEACHES FIRST HAND when we ask for something. For example, who here Hasn't made the mistake of asking God to make you more patient. Hmmm, absence of hands in the air... Yeah, remember how He taught you to be patient? You're plesantly cruel, Traveler.
a couple of my coworkers keep asking me why I'm not married yet and if I'm trying to be an old maid and I tell them I'm just really shy and haven't found the right guy yet I'm not in any rush to be married just haven't found the right guy lol.
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hmmmm the reasons im not married...
Im probably far too picky, and since I dont want a divorce i refuse to settle. Also the things i look for are sadly qualities you probably wont find in just one woman.
I really really really enjoy my freedom i have now and i see that quickly fading in a marriage
but more so the first one than the second
Im probably far too picky, and since I dont want a divorce i refuse to settle. Also the things i look for are sadly qualities you probably wont find in just one woman.
I really really really enjoy my freedom i have now and i see that quickly fading in a marriage
but more so the first one than the second
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adekruif
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No, I know he can give me better than a car. If the best God could give me was a car, life would be pretty pointless.
I'm not pessimistic, I'm not stupid either, I'm just trying to be realistic.
There's a difference between having a car, and having a nice car, a car that you spend (lots) of time and money on. And yes I know God can bless me with more than a nice car. But for me nice cars are awesome, and also can be allot of fun.
^^ If that was the longest sentence one would be drawn to the simple conclusion the the Guinness book of world records should be contacted (for validating such a claim) and if not already contacted, they should be contacted immediately to verify the statement that on February 23rd of the year 2013 at approximately **:** PM ET, a female user on the Internet (aka Interwebs) claims to have written the longest sentence ever.
I still have a hard time believing that the car and the lady would be happy together. I just don't see it happening, despite what numerous people have posted. I've seen it happen to lots of people, and it has happened to a good friend of mine (Christian couple) as well. I guess we won't know for sure until/if I get married which might be years down the road anyway.
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Donkeyfish07
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christiancollegegirl
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I was actually asked that THIS MORNING right after service when my wedding was. I told her that I haven't gotten the OK from God yet. When God tells me it's Time, I'll get married. The people at my church have known me since I was 9 and they'd love nothing more than to plan me a wedding! In fact, my pastor will even do it for free.
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SeatBelt
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arwen83
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I'm not usually asked why I'm not married, I usually get asked why I'm not dating. That's what all the cool, young people are doing now, I suppose. My honest answer (that I've never been pursued/asked) is usually met with pity or disbelief. I usually respond to that with, "I'm fine with that now, really." To which the response is usually, "That's what they all say!" That's when I start to get annoyed.
As a side note, why can't a guy have nice cars and a woman? I like nice cars! With the one I have now, it's nice, but in a pretty nice, not a "Whoa. Nice." nice. I have to make my own "vrrrrrrooooommmm VRRROommmmm" sound effects when the need arises. Which a "Whoa. Nice." car does on its own.
Or when they list your good qualities and say, 'don't worry you're this and that, you'll meet someone soon' (annnnnd 6 years later...), or 'the guys around you aren't worth your time, if they aren't pursuing you' (so then the whole christian male population at my uni? haha). Blah blah blah and more unhelpful blah.
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Relena7
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Whenever I'm scrolling through the forums, and my eyes flicker past the title of this thread, I always think of this response...
"Because I don't wanna grow up right now! Get off my back!!!"
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"Because I don't wanna grow up right now! Get off my back!!!"
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arwen83
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Whenever I'm scrolling through the forums, and my eyes flicker past the title of this thread, I always think of this response...
"Because I don't wanna grow up right now! Get off my back!!!"
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YES! I was thinking the EXACT same thing, and meant to post about it! When I scroll down and see the title, I think of my response being, "UGH! Stop asking me already! I already told you, I don't know!" hahahaha