Why women like men lol....
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In the last thread, 7 pages later, no woman posted what she likes about men. At least in this thread Butterflyyy answered her own question. I have to give SimpleSheep credit for agreeing with Butter that she likes aftershave. That's a scrap.
I guess, except for Butterflyyy, apparently women feel it must not be said. A better thread would be "Why women won't say why what they like about men?"
I guess, except for Butterflyyy, apparently women feel it must not be said. A better thread would be "Why women won't say why what they like about men?"
This post made me smile!
I would like to answer this question from the perspective of friendship rather than romance. I was thinking of 3 guy friends here on CC whom I have known for years and things that I admire about them.
Just in case they would like to remain anonymous (maybe they don't want to be incriminated for talking to me, lol,) I will just describe them as:
1. Friend #1 -- Almost every single day, he takes the time to send me a few comics he thinks I will enjoy and will brighten my day. But he's also very no-nonsense and not afraid to tell me, "Hey, you need to stop hanging on to this (situation) and just let it go," as he did very recently. It had nothing to do with him, he just listened to how I was reacting and had no qualms about telling me that he thought I was going about it the wrong way.
2. Friend #2 -- I actually wrote him the other day to tell him thank you for something he had done that I had forgotten about, but was reminded as I sorted through some old keepsakes. Not only is he kind, God-fearing, and funny, but he once took the time to write out the alphabet (and English translation) of his own native language. Communication, especially handwritten, is precious to me. He even took the time to make a recording of him reading the Bible in his own language, which is an absolute treasure.
In the midst of today's crazy gender politics, I have a running joke with my friends that yes, I have indeed developed an attraction to men who are bi... As in, Bi-Lingual!
3. Friend #3 -- This is someone whom I admire because he's slightly older than me and has a lot of life experience. I have often asked his advice and opinions about various social issues, political news, life circumstances, and things like car repairs and home maintenance. I really appreciate that he's been through a lot, but is always willing to share and does so in a kind, humble way. Even when I ask what must seem like the most obvious or naive questions, he always answers in a way that never makes me feel stupid for asking.
He does what I would call the exact opposite of "mansplaining," and that's one of the reasons I respect him so highly.
Now of course, I appreciate my female friends, too, but since this thread is asking why women like men...
These are just a few of the many amazing qualities some of the men I am blessed to know have, and they keep my hopes alive that somewhere amidst the insanity of this life, men and women can still edify and complement one another -- which is what God intended.
I would like to answer this question from the perspective of friendship rather than romance. I was thinking of 3 guy friends here on CC whom I have known for years and things that I admire about them.
Just in case they would like to remain anonymous (maybe they don't want to be incriminated for talking to me, lol,) I will just describe them as:
1. Friend #1 -- Almost every single day, he takes the time to send me a few comics he thinks I will enjoy and will brighten my day. But he's also very no-nonsense and not afraid to tell me, "Hey, you need to stop hanging on to this (situation) and just let it go," as he did very recently. It had nothing to do with him, he just listened to how I was reacting and had no qualms about telling me that he thought I was going about it the wrong way.
2. Friend #2 -- I actually wrote him the other day to tell him thank you for something he had done that I had forgotten about, but was reminded as I sorted through some old keepsakes. Not only is he kind, God-fearing, and funny, but he once took the time to write out the alphabet (and English translation) of his own native language. Communication, especially handwritten, is precious to me. He even took the time to make a recording of him reading the Bible in his own language, which is an absolute treasure.
In the midst of today's crazy gender politics, I have a running joke with my friends that yes, I have indeed developed an attraction to men who are bi... As in, Bi-Lingual!
3. Friend #3 -- This is someone whom I admire because he's slightly older than me and has a lot of life experience. I have often asked his advice and opinions about various social issues, political news, life circumstances, and things like car repairs and home maintenance. I really appreciate that he's been through a lot, but is always willing to share and does so in a kind, humble way. Even when I ask what must seem like the most obvious or naive questions, he always answers in a way that never makes me feel stupid for asking.
He does what I would call the exact opposite of "mansplaining," and that's one of the reasons I respect him so highly.
Now of course, I appreciate my female friends, too, but since this thread is asking why women like men...
These are just a few of the many amazing qualities some of the men I am blessed to know have, and they keep my hopes alive that somewhere amidst the insanity of this life, men and women can still edify and complement one another -- which is what God intended.
I was joking earlier...
I agree with Pipp, that's just the way God made us.
We ladies can be a little too emotional sometimes...or at least I know I can. When I'm stressed, I like to have my brother around to help me calm down. I notice that when my brother or stepdad are nearby, I feel safer. I imagine that safe feeling is something women who are married get from their husbands too. Unfortunately, not all wives feel safe with their husbands...but that's not the topic here.
I also don't like the responsibility of being a leader. That should be reserved for men. I think it would be nice to have a man who is a good leader...not controlling but someone who can lead.
I agree with Pipp, that's just the way God made us.
We ladies can be a little too emotional sometimes...or at least I know I can. When I'm stressed, I like to have my brother around to help me calm down. I notice that when my brother or stepdad are nearby, I feel safer. I imagine that safe feeling is something women who are married get from their husbands too. Unfortunately, not all wives feel safe with their husbands...but that's not the topic here.
I also don't like the responsibility of being a leader. That should be reserved for men. I think it would be nice to have a man who is a good leader...not controlling but someone who can lead.
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I DID answer and list some of the things I like about my male friends in the other "What Women Like About Men" thread -- so yes, we do answer.
I just felt it would be redundant to repeat it all again here.
Of course, maybe a lot of women refrain from saying anything because they know it causes less trouble.
I just felt it would be redundant to repeat it all again here.
Of course, maybe a lot of women refrain from saying anything because they know it causes less trouble.
You mentioned, "maybe a lot of women refrain from saying anything because they know it causes less trouble." What trouble might they think it'll cause?
You mentioned, "maybe a lot of women refrain from saying anything because
they know it causes less trouble." What trouble might they think it'll cause?
they know it causes less trouble." What trouble might they think it'll cause?
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Oh yes, I saw that. It was very sweet. It was about what you appreciate about 3 people you know... who happen to be men. Very, very cool, just not the same thing as saying what you like specifically about men. I started to read it, but I felt like I was reading somebody's private mail, made me uncomfortable so I stopped. Thats just my weird thing.
You mentioned, "maybe a lot of women refrain from saying anything because they know it causes less trouble." What trouble might they think it'll cause?
You mentioned, "maybe a lot of women refrain from saying anything because they know it causes less trouble." What trouble might they think it'll cause?
You said that my answer was about 3 people I know who happen to be men, and that it wasn't the same as saying what I like about men.
That's because men, like women, are individuals, and it's hard to just throw out a slew of mass descriptions that are merely a loose fit at best. It's like saying, "What kind of sea creatures do you prefer?" and then throwing out a net the size of the ocean.
Maybe it's just me, but time and experience have taught me how individual my attractions are. For instance, I mentioned that I'm drawn to guys who speak another language besides English, but it's not a necessity and it's not an instant guarantee. A guy might speak another language but also be from a culture that's very chauvinistic, so it would depend on what his personal values were and how he lived them out.
I might be attracted to shyness in one guy and boldness in another, a shirt and tie on in one case, tattoos and the story behind them in another. It's all about how the package of who he is as a whole person. I've also found attraction to be more complicated as I get older, so it's also much more difficult for me to list in one lump sum. I personally find describing individual interactions much easier.
As for me saying that maybe some women keep quiet because they know it causes less trouble, I was mostly just joking, but I really liked Magenta's answer about vulnerability. I would agree that's a big part of it, too.
Maybe it's part of the Christian culture (men leading and pursuing women,) but sometimes you have to be careful about what you put out there because sometimes you might get someone pretending to be just that.
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At some point though you need to realize that you too are online. People are going to be weird
whether you meet them in the real world or online. I know. I'm weird in both worlds
whether you meet them in the real world or online. I know. I'm weird in both worlds
is creepy/stalker/verging on criminal weird. I prefer the former
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Yes, but there is fun/interesting/enjoyable weird, and then there
is creepy/stalker/verging on criminal weird. I prefer the former
is creepy/stalker/verging on criminal weird. I prefer the former
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I was not disagreeing with you...
The opposite of cyan is red, actually Magenta is the opposite of green
In light rays, that is...
The opposite of cyan is red, actually
Magenta is the opposite of green In light rays, that is...
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Been here many times lol but I don't know if I understood the question well 🤔
I like men because...the way God created them...straightforward,masculine,protectors,handsome, providers,gentlemen,they are strong they carry your things, they treat you special,they give up their seats for you,they fix things, they are not scared to dirty their hands.
I like men coz they are simple they only need shampoo and soap to take a bath and a comb for their hair some don't even need a comb so you can save a lot lol ☺
I like men because...the way God created them...straightforward,masculine,protectors,handsome, providers,gentlemen,they are strong they carry your things, they treat you special,they give up their seats for you,they fix things, they are not scared to dirty their hands.
I like men coz they are simple they only need shampoo and soap to take a bath and a comb for their hair some don't even need a comb so you can save a lot lol ☺
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Yes, but there is fun/interesting/enjoyable weird, and then there
is creepy/stalker/verging on criminal weird. I prefer the former
is creepy/stalker/verging on criminal weird. I prefer the former
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Hey Gojira
There is a phenomenal difference... I have found it is much easier for people to conceal things about themselves and their character online. I think the other crucial point highlighted by Magenta & SoulSearch is that we can unknowingly make ourselves vulnerable to those who are not genuine, by disclosing information they can use. I know I have previously made it easy for someone to analyse me, from what I said I appreciated in a potential mate; and having a few paragraphs to keep referring back to, was probably useful for this person to make himself fit the criteria I had described. He was strategic, calculated and manipulative for months online, gaining my trust and building a friendship which, would not have got that established had I met him in person.
I have met a number of people online who were very different in person, because they were trying to conceal something physical initially, by using an online approach.
I have also noticed there are those who are not able to interact in a normal manner in real life, and masquerade as something they are not, until they think they’ve clinched the deal so to speak.
There’s nothing quite like real life, because you instantly get an impression of how someone is. Admittedly there are no guarantees when dealing with criminals, however, I have found there is less vulnerability generally.
There is a phenomenal difference... I have found it is much easier for people to conceal things about themselves and their character online. I think the other crucial point highlighted by Magenta & SoulSearch is that we can unknowingly make ourselves vulnerable to those who are not genuine, by disclosing information they can use. I know I have previously made it easy for someone to analyse me, from what I said I appreciated in a potential mate; and having a few paragraphs to keep referring back to, was probably useful for this person to make himself fit the criteria I had described. He was strategic, calculated and manipulative for months online, gaining my trust and building a friendship which, would not have got that established had I met him in person.
I have met a number of people online who were very different in person, because they were trying to conceal something physical initially, by using an online approach.
I have also noticed there are those who are not able to interact in a normal manner in real life, and masquerade as something they are not, until they think they’ve clinched the deal so to speak.
There’s nothing quite like real life, because you instantly get an impression of how someone is. Admittedly there are no guarantees when dealing with criminals, however, I have found there is less vulnerability generally.
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