it is sad that you are going through such a painful situation. i have gone through that, the pain is sometimes unbareable but only Jesus can heal the pain, only He can truly understand what you are going through. Since your wife says she loves the other guy we won't call him your friend because he isn't, staying with her any longer will cause you more pain. Do not worry what people will say it does not matter what matters is God loves you, what hurts you hurts Him. Vengeance is the Lord's, my ex left me when things started going well for him I had invested so much in him, and forgave him the times i caught him cheating until he told me it was best we separate. The pain was intense, embarrassment for so many reasons, how would I take care of our son alone, after everything I had invested, I asked God questions, and went into depression. Nut when i started praying and spending time the presence of God, I discovered the pain had gone and what used to trigger the pain didn't have an effect on me anymore. God had healed me, and saved me from a lifetime of pain. Somehow, I do not understand how, God made my son understand what was going on, he is fine a happpy boy now. My ex and the woman got married after dissolving my marriage, but since then they have had one problem after the next, three weeks ago he contacted me asking me to pray for him that things were not OK with him.