Honestly I would say God cares very little about our law. Don't get me wrong all the things you mentioned that men used to be able to do, and now can't are bad things that should never have been done, but the bible says that as well. The concept of it being allowed in the law is rather irrelevant because the law of a country is not in charge, rather the teachings of Christ as well as the OT teachings to an extent (we don't follow the law of the OT, but there is some teachings in it which we follow). I don't mean to not follow your country's laws, rather if the country laws allow rape, but the bible clearly does not, then don't do it. On the other side, if your country's law says to pray to Zeus, don't do it because the bible says not to. When it comes to things such as raping wives and well all the things you mentioned, I don't think God cares much about what a nation's law says.
This is because the followers of Christ would follow the bible's teachings. Only husbands who are not believers would do those types of things. (And I mean a true follower of the Word not a hypocrite)
Also that is just my opinion though. I think feminism is on such a rise because of how poorly men did treat their wives. I would say a true Christian wouldn't have "made sure their wife was in their place" rather the reason feminism rose was because how non-believers treated their wives. In this aspect the non-believers wouldn't have followed the "love your wife just like christ loves you" aspects of the bible, they would have followed what was permitted in the nation's law. Feminism rose because of men and women (in this case just men) leaning on the law for right and wrong, and not on the bible.
This is just my opinion though, but it seems to make sense in my head.