Would You Date Someone With Kids?

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The Lord leads. The answer is 'yes,' there's nothing unbiblical about dating someone with kids. The story behind the kids is the key, and, that, too, ultimately, is a story for the Lord to decide for me :)
 
I'd rather not. I've done that in the past. It is a very tricky circumstance. You have to realize you're walking into a pre-made family, and just as if you had kids too, you have to realize you don't have the same freedom and time to spend together you would if there were no kids. It can be somewhat frustrating to enter a relationship and already have the restrictions of children. And then you also have to consider what if the kids don't like you. Then there is the mothers battle over her wanting/needing a man in her life, and considering her children's happiness.
That being said, it's not to say it can't work. It can, and does, work out. But it is definately a trickier prospect.
Though, for me personally, at this point in my life, i'd rather not date anyone with kids. I'm 37 and spent a lot of my life in depression, or illness. I just want to enjoy marriage, and have freedom of the financial and time constraints of children and try to enjoy the last bit of my life with someone. Perhaps if the kids were teens and able to be more independent, and have lives of their own, instead of younger kids, i might consider that. I don't know. I have my preferences, but, in the unlikely event, i find anyone, who knows what i will ultimately decide.
 
Yeah, I would. I found a nice Christian girl that is incredibly gorgeous, and she does have a 4 year old son. I like kids and I want kids and would happily take in someones kid(s)
 
Jomaty said:
Yeah, I would. I found a nice Christian girl that is incredibly gorgeous, and she does have a 4 year old son. I like kids and I want kids and would happily take in someones kid(s)
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You just lost any chance with every single woman on this forum, hahaha. Good luck on here after that.
 
Ugly said:
You just lost any chance with every single woman on this forum, hahaha. Good luck on here after that.
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Well being that I will probably never meet any of them, I'm fine with that lol
 
I have kids of my own, so it would kind of be weird not to date someone else who had kids.
 
I'd date someone with kids. Kids love me. I've had children I don't know come running up to me and want to be held. It's happened on several occasions. If I marry a man with kids they would become my children. I don't believe in step children. Even if they never call me mom, they would still be my baby.
 
Since I myself have a little girl, I'd be a hypocrite to say no. :)
 
Nope. Never.


....well, okay.
I've noticed that, while there are many wonderful men of God who say that they would date/marry a woman with kids, actually going through with it seems to be intimidating. Or maybe I'm intimidating....hmm
 
Done it before no biggie. At my age I'd rather not have to deal with kids but I'd be hard pressed to find any christian woman that doesn't have at least 1 or 2 already. In the back of my mind I think if a christian woman is wanting to be with me & she has kids,then thats why she wants to be with me...because I can watch her kids for her. lol I'm entertaining,and while I don't particularly desire children I am really good with them & they seem to like the fact that I enjoy coloring books & the cartoon network without judging them.lol
 
I'm conflicted about this, I love kids, but not sure I'd want to enter a pre-made family and then you have the worry about if the kids don't like you... yikes. That would be pretty bad. But, if the guy is amazing and the kind of person I would want to spend my life with, I could work through it. But overall, I just don't know.
 
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