I will do my best to bring light to submission biblically.
No one can force submission and say God said to submit. Godly submission is a voluntary act. If a man loves his wife like Jesus loves the church and she is a godly woman submission is automatic. Rather we like it or not we all submit to someone, be it home, work, or law. People who do not understand God like submission for the most part are afraid they are no longer in control which no one likes to feel someone else is in control of them. It does not mean that the wife has no opinion ( a good read on godly submission of the wife is proverbs 31). Godly submission is not giving another person control over you but permitting them to care for your well being. That is what the husband is to do for his family, care for them so much that he will give up his life to make them safe.
No one can force submission and say God said to submit. Godly submission is a voluntary act. If a man loves his wife like Jesus loves the church and she is a godly woman submission is automatic. Rather we like it or not we all submit to someone, be it home, work, or law. People who do not understand God like submission for the most part are afraid they are no longer in control which no one likes to feel someone else is in control of them. It does not mean that the wife has no opinion ( a good read on godly submission of the wife is proverbs 31). Godly submission is not giving another person control over you but permitting them to care for your well being. That is what the husband is to do for his family, care for them so much that he will give up his life to make them safe.
Christ came to have us follow Him, and even though He is our King, He did many things for our sake, and not for His. If a man wants to lead a family, he should definitely consider "what would Jesus do?"