get it it's nice to be treated well but notice the slant. It's all about how everyone effected me. Now think of this. There's a church which isn't a loving church. They didn't treat you well at the doors. They walk in carnality and certainly aren't good wonderful and perfect people. So....where do you go. Yeah well the good friendly chruch yeah that's the place for me! Could be. But consider God might tell you NO I want you to go the the unfriendly church. or the unlovingly church, and here's why....so you can help those people. They are your dear precious brothers and sisters in the Lord, and God wants your maturity to help bring them out of their weakness.
I would much rather be involved with a church that didn't pretend to be nice and then forget about you 13 minutes after you arrive for the first time. I require authenticity.
Case in point, I started going to this tiny Southern Baptist church near my home several years ago. There was only one Sunday service, and afterward, we would all bring a snack and share what we brought (kinda like a mini pot-luck).
Well, this older lady (really old) was in charge of setting everything up. She would scold me every Sunday, reminding me to leave enough food for everyone else (I'm not a pig, really!).
Added to that, the pastor's wife openly chastised us youngsters for not tithing nearly enough, the person in charge of the music hated Chris Tomlin, and one of the older men in the congregation would purposely try to run me over in the parking lot.
But I still wanted to become a member. Why? Because everyone was who they were, and no amount of phoniness could change that.
Unfortunately, I was rejected for membership because I didn't have a referral letter required by the denomination.
Oh well, just one more reason to rail against the institutional church that Satan delights in.