Though have already done that many times, I'd be happy to if it might mean that you would understand this truth. Below is an example of scripture using the word "apoleia" translated as "destrucion."
"Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to
destruction, and many enter through it.
Below is the definition of the word "apoleia" according to Strong's and HELPS Word-studies:
Strong's Concordance
apóleia: destruction, loss
Original Word: ἀπώλεια, ας, ἡ
Part of Speech: Noun, Feminine
Transliteration: apóleia
Phonetic Spelling: (ap-o'-li-a)
Definition: destruction, loss
Usage: destruction, ruin, loss, perishing; eternal ruin.
HELPS Word-studies
Cognate: 684 apṓleia (from
622 /apóllymi, "cut
off") –
destruction, causing someone (something)
to be completely severed – cut off (entirely) from what could or should have been. (Note the force of the prefix,
apo.)
See 622 (
apollymi).
684 /apṓleia ("perdition") does not imply "annihilation" (see the meaning of the root-verb,
622 /apóllymi, "cut off")
but instead "loss of well-being" rather than
being (
Vine's Expository Dictionary, 165; cf. Jn 11:50; Ac 5:37; 1 Cor 10:9-10; Jude 11).
The noun "apoleia" is from its verb "apollumi" which as you can see highlighted in red does not imply annihilation, but means to be completely cut off (from God and life). Below is another example of the use of the word:
"When He got into the boat, His disciples followed Him.
24Suddenly a violent storm came up on the sea, so that the boat was engulfed by the waves; but Jesus was sleeping.
25The disciples went and woke Him, saying, “Lord, save us! We are
perishing!”
The word translated as "perishing" in the scripture above is the word "apollumi." I think that you will agree that the disciples were not saying to Jesus "Lord save us! We are about to become nonexistent or annihilated!" Below is another example of the meaning of this word:
"And no one puts new wine into old wineskins. If he does, the wine will burst the skins—and the wine is
destroyed, and so are the skins."
Just as with the first example, the word "apollumi" for the destruction of the wine and wine skins does not refer to them as becoming nonexistent or annihilated, but completely ruined, which is the same meaning for those who enter in through the broad gate which leads to destruction/apollumi. Destruction (apollumi) is not annihilation or extinction, but complete loss of well being in separation from God in the lake of fire.
I will continue to pray that God will reveal the truth of this to you.