You failed to mention AGAPE LOVE even ONE TIME in your explanation. It appears you are expecting to be reward for your efforts.
1 Corinthians 13:7-8 (GW)
7 Love never stops being patient, never stops believing, never stops hoping, never gives up.
8 Love never comes to an end. There is the gift of speaking what God has revealed, but it will no longer be used. There is the gift of speaking in other languages, but it will stop by itself. There is the gift of knowledge, but it will no longer be used.
TRUE AGAPE LOVE IS THE SINCERE MOTIVE for EVERY DEED, or it is worthless to GOD.
1 Corinthians 13:1-6 (GW)
1 I may speak in the languages of humans and of angels. But if I don't have love, I am a loud gong or a clashing cymbal.
{Just a BIG NOISE and nothing else.}
2 I may have the gift to speak what God has revealed, and I may understand all mysteries and have all knowledge. I may even have enough faith to move mountains. But if I don't have love, I am nothing.
3 I may even give away all that I have and give up my body to be burned. But if I don't have love, none of these things will help me.
4 Love is patient. Love is kind. Love isn't jealous. It doesn't sing its own praises. It isn't arrogant.
5 It isn't rude. It doesn't think about itself. It isn't irritable. It doesn't keep track of wrongs.
6 It isn't happy when injustice is done, but it is happy with the truth.
Everything on earth is not a reflection of God's agape love, God also hates.
Salvation is by grace alone, to those God has chosen to do so.
Romans 9 (ESV)
13 As it is written, "
Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated."
14 What shall we say then? Is there injustice on God's part? By no means!
15 For he says to Moses, "I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion."
16 So then it depends not on human will or exertion, but on God, who has mercy.
As you rightly say, salvation, and discernment of the fruits, would be the presence of God's agape love, for those he elected and loves (the non-chosen he hates) by providing them grace.
If God is not working in your life, he hates you and there is no agape love of God for you.
If your life bears fruits (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control - is all obedience to God's commandments, as God's law is not against such things),
then God's agape love is working in you.
Galatians 5 (ESV)
19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality,
20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions,
21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
23 gentleness, self-control