Now I'm seeing the difference between between what they and I believe and practice.
For me, Christ is not my identity, but the one with whom I relate; the one with whom I have a relationship.
For me, Christ is not my identity, but the one with whom I relate; the one with whom I have a relationship.
In a functional family each is separate and distinct, full functioning and able to take on all roles within the group if needed. There are distinct boundaries and acknowledgement of need and respect.
This gnostic idea of no boundaries reminds me of the over involvement model where the individual cannot tell the difference between their behaviour and other members of the group. It leads to very needy possessive dynamics and rejection of anything that talks about individuality or self assertion which is regarded as wrong.
Now people who live without good boundaries in their lives get drawn to similar models in faith, because they can relate to the dynamics.
Like yourself I like boundaries and identity, and understanding what is giving and receiving. Unfortunately Pauls language is very involved, "It is no longer I that live, but Christ who lives in me" could be taken as a gnostic view or as an emotional expression everything He does is motivated by the work Christ has done in Him, not literally he is a possessed body with Christ in spirit form controlling all his actions.