Ace,
Don't get discouraged. There will almost never be a verse posted that cannot be countered with a verse that, with the necessary mindset, can be said (and fairly legitimately) to state just the opposite.
I honestly have come to believe that the Bible is set up this way.
You see, it does not start with the Bible, this Christianity. It begins with belief. And there are two ways of believing. You can either remain in the "law", trying to do everything for Salvation on your own. Or you can step into a kind of "unknown" Spiritual realm, and trust totally in Jesus.
I have come to see that there actually ARE two sets of verses that either discipline can see as true (and be willing to defend to the death). It simply first begins with which belief you hold to. An especially scarry thing is that, depending upon your mindset, some of these "proof verses" can often be exactly the same verses.
I think it honestly DOES come down to the fact that you will "find the God your heart is looking for." There is a passage in the Bible that Speaks to God handing unbelievers over to follow a strong delusion. I think this never-ending battle over verses that seem to "prove" our beliefs is part of that delusion.
If you will notice, both "sides" are equally puzzled that the other parties just cannot see the pure and simply proof that is right there in front of them.