You have the Bible as your guide, thats your instruction how to live your life according to the way God sees fit. God doesnt send anyone to hell, if anything you send yourself based on the choices YOU make in your lifetime. Your parents give you rules to live by growin up , you knew as a kid if you did stuff you were specifically told not to do, you had consequences. You could either , A. Do what your told and its all good. B. disobey-get your priveledges took, or a whack on the behind. While God controls everything, wouldnt you want someone to love you because they choose it? Rather than because you made em? He wants us all to come to him with a pure love, because we WANT to serve, so i dont buy into the whole he chooses who gets to serve him and who dont bit. Im sure if he had his way we all would, its what he died for, so we could all have that choice of servin him and havin our sins forgiven, Im sure he also knows even tho all are given that oppertunity, not all will accept, and im sure it breaks his heart, given thats not what he wanted for us.So, yea I feel hes a very loving God, more than I ever deserved. The bible is pretty clear, love thy neighbor as thyself, love your lord God with all your heart mind and soul, you do these things, and humbly seek God, its all gonna fall into place. You CHOOSE to love the world above him, neglect his word, then like a kid growin up, you pay the consequences.