Yes, our righteousness must exceed the righteousness of the Pharisees.
Matt. 5:
20 For I say unto you, That except your righteousness shall exceed
the righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees,
ye shall in no case enter into the kingdom of heaven.
And what was their righteousness?
They Created their own Sabbath.
They Created their own High Days and "Feasts unto the Lord".
They Created their own images of God after the likeness of men.
They Created their own Law and definition of sin.
They transgressed the Commandments of God by their man made traditions.
They Rejected much of God's Word.
These are not my theories, they are Biblical Facts. I hope you don't belong to a religious franchise that does these things given what Jesus said about them.
I'm sorry you feel the way you do EG, I hope maybe someday you will consider.
You have a good night