The spirit of defilement is full of lies, but the real depth of it is in not seeing it in yourself. But the spirit of discernment sees it in others, and the spirit of awareness sees it in self. With such conviction in what they might say, they do not see the sin in it. Antagonism for example is not in the spirit of God, it is in the spirit of the self, carnal mind.
What you can often do is take their words to mean the opposite. For example:
I'm sure you are a good guy > I see you as a bad guy
Nothing personal > This is personal
This is not a game to me > This is a game to me
I care deeply > I don't care deeply enough
I hear story after story > I hear a few stories from people I assume are telling me the truth
Many speak in a kind of 'what they want you to think' way. They want to befriend you of course? They don't want to be enemies? Suppression of anger?
Love your enemies, see them as friends, and there are no enemies.
What you can often do is take their words to mean the opposite. For example:
I'm sure you are a good guy > I see you as a bad guy
Nothing personal > This is personal
This is not a game to me > This is a game to me
I care deeply > I don't care deeply enough
I hear story after story > I hear a few stories from people I assume are telling me the truth
Many speak in a kind of 'what they want you to think' way. They want to befriend you of course? They don't want to be enemies? Suppression of anger?
Love your enemies, see them as friends, and there are no enemies.