Why is the church so accepting of divorce and remarriage?

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Lanolin

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Not sure what is annoying you but people can be hypocrites about stuff like this.

Fornication/adultery is wrong whether you married or single. I don't think you get a free pass to rape someone or have sex with someone other than your spouse if you are married.

Jesus had self control, he never married, but he did TOUCH people, and people touched him. Because when he touched people, they got healed. And it didn't matter if it was a man or woman or a child. He didn't need to touch their private parts.
 
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JohnB said:
yet it happens all the time in the church. When was the last time you heard a sermon on divorce and remarriage? At the same time they tell singles what to wear, what movies or tv shows not to watch.
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What church?
Are you one of those who makes wide statements about those you have no clue what they do or believe.
Give us names and cities or just be quiet.
 
Lanolin

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Most of the church people I know, only remarried if they were widowed. They didn't remarry because they dumped and divorced someone and ran off with someone else.

I don't know if ministers check who they marry in church, if its a church wedding. But the churches I've been to, adultery is seen as an indicator of lack of faith. I'm sure it does happen in christian marriages, and can be forgiven, but mostly adulterers stay away from church. Once it's known they have done it - a lot of them keep it secret.

I know of one family that split cos the dad had an affair with someone and she had a daughter but he didn't end up remarrying the mother. The wife divorced him anyway but did not remarry. The husband/dad went to a different church and repented and is still single, but I don't think they will get back together. That's his cross to bear.
 
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Dino246 said:
Yeah... we all know the Law is really good at condemning people. Obviously you aren't a pastor who has sat and cried with the abused wife or the legally-scammed husband.

When you develop some compassion, come back and revisit this topic.
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Dino246 said:
Yeah... we all know the Law is really good at condemning people. Obviously you aren't a pastor who has sat and cried with the abused wife or the legally-scammed husband.

When you develop some compassion, come back and revisit this topic.
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Yes I am no pastor ,In compassion I stated that Jesus offers mercy for the divorced . Know this friend ,all are a variation of light in this side of life .only Jesus who is the Lamb without blemish is judge .
 
JohnB

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RichMan said:
What church?
Are you one of those who makes wide statements about those you have no clue what they do or believe.
Give us names and cities or just be quiet.
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Calvary Chapel, watched many sermons online and on tape from different pastors.
 
Bob-Carabbio

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JohnB said:
I get really annoyed at Christians who tell singles, even thinking about sex is a sin, YET, they have no problem with people getting married 2,3,4,5 times. Divorce and remarriage seems to be acceptable, but a single person even thinking about sex is a sin. Which is worse?
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Deal with 1 cor 7:27,28
 
JohnB

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I just read this Romans 14:22-23 "…Keep your belief about such matters between yourself and God. Blessed is the one who does not condemn himself by what he approves. But the one who has doubts is condemned if he eats, because his eating is not from faith; and everything that is not from faith is sin."......there are ways of looking at things, that I don't think are a sin, but to others it might be.
 
JohnB

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Bob-Carabbio said:
Deal with 1 cor 7:27,28
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Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion 1 Corin 7:8-9...I really should have heeded this advice in my 30's and 40's.
 
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I guess thats the good thing about going to a confessional church. You arent just gonna get a divorce with out the pastor stepping in. If ya do it anyway you will be barred from communion until you repent.
 
Magenta

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Cameron143 said:
It's a difficult position to be in when one desires a thing, even a good thing, and not being able to acquire it.
I do sympathize with your predicament. But sometimes we think we are ready for something, but if God were
to give it to us, we wouldn't get the most out of it. This can be particularly true of relationships.
Something that helped me was when God opened my understanding to a higher
degree concerning Psalm 23. Verse 1...The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
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Psalm 23:1
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Bob-Carabbio

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JohnB said:
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion 1 Corin 7:8-9...I really should have heeded this advice in my 30's and 40's.
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How come you ignored the part about being Divorced??
 
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JohnB said:
Calvary Chapel, watched many sermons online and on tape from different pastors.
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Funny... I follow Calvery Chapel too and like them, over-all. I'd recommend them highly.

I've heard some of them speak directly to the issue of divorce and re-marriage... it seemed to follow the Bible pretty well. Also, I have not heard them unduly talk about do/don'ts regarding singles. I guess that our experiences are vastly different? I wonder why that is?
 
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Ted01 said:
Funny... I follow Calvery Chapel too and like them, over-all. I'd recommend them highly.

I've heard some of them speak directly to the issue of divorce and re-marriage... it seemed to follow the Bible pretty well. Also, I have not heard them unduly talk about do/don'ts regarding singles. I guess that our experiences are vastly different? I wonder why that is?
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Calvary Chapel Costa Mesa Singles Pastors had very clear rules on dating. No one on one dating, only group dating. They pushed no physical contact until after marriage. I know, I attended their singles group in the 90's. They even told the Singles group, they are not a dating group, you're not here to find a date. They allowed married couples to attend the Singles group.
 
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Diakonos said:
Give honor where honor is due
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Pat robinson supported Newt Gingrich, even though he married 3 times and divorced his first two wives then they became sick. Not to mention the number of Pastors who supported Trump, no matter when he said or did. Sto[ supporting the man. You may support some of the ideas they have, but not when they go against scripture.
 
ResidentAlien

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Most Calvary Chapels use the "Moses model" of leadership. That is, the pastor is directly below God in the chain of command, as was Moses. The elders are there to support "Moses," the pastor. This is blatantly unbiblical. Christ is the head of the Church and we are all equal in Him.

There are a lot of Calvary Chapels out there though so it's conceivable someone's experience might be different.
 
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