As one friend said about my dating....John, I have never seen anyone put so much into dating and coming up with nothing. I was doing online dating, involved in singles group, even did Speed Dating, and clubbing.
Its been my observation through out the years, that folks who try so hard never do succeed. The one who succeeds is the one who leads an interresting life and meets people through the things they are involved in, and the people they meet while engaging in life.
I would go so far as to say that according to what i have witnessed all those dating events and programs actually hinder success.
I know people who finally gave up on all that dating stuff and got busy living life and met some one and got married.
Those dating apps, and programs, and scenes, take people out of the context of their life and turns them into monchromatic, desparate, sex hounds, with no social skills or personal life to offer someone to be a part of. Turns men into simps and women into revolving doors, and destroys confidence which aint attractive.
What makes men attractive is having a life, and confidently doing his thing.
Married men who arent looking have to tell women we are married all the time, and ya dont have to be traditionally handsome; just doing life, buying auto parts, picking up a belt for the lawn mower, stopping for breakfast on the way to hardware store, or sporting goods shop, at the thing you do car show, fishing, hunting, sport shooting, archery range, Ren fest, rodeo, horse show, trail riding, at the mudpark or van fest, or motorcycle ralley, music jam sessions, music shops, and the other million billion things that folks get up to, in just living their life.