ArtsieSteph's dad's cancer superthread
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Steph, I can offer this. You think you love your dad with all your being. Our ability to love is hindered by our flesh. God is Love. (See 1 John 4:8, 16.)
He does not have flesh so His love is pure. He loves your dad more than you do. You may think that not possible, but it is true. Trust God pertaining to all things concerning your dad. You can't go wrong.
He does not have flesh so His love is pure. He loves your dad more than you do. You may think that not possible, but it is true. Trust God pertaining to all things concerning your dad. You can't go wrong.
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Look at the title again. There are two people mentioned -- your dad and you.
Your dad might be learning how to jump fire hydrants with R.C. Sproul right now. (Reference: R.C. Sproul was a teacher of God's word who grew relatively old, and spent the lat year or so of his life attached to an oxygen pump. He said when he made it to heaven, he wanted to jump over fire hydrants again -- the thing he missed most doing in his final years. And R.C. died last year, so who knows if fire hydrant jumping has bored him yet? Maybe he just needed a newcomer to remind him it is time to teach others how to do that.)
How about you? You're still here. What do you need?
Your dad might be learning how to jump fire hydrants with R.C. Sproul right now. (Reference: R.C. Sproul was a teacher of God's word who grew relatively old, and spent the lat year or so of his life attached to an oxygen pump. He said when he made it to heaven, he wanted to jump over fire hydrants again -- the thing he missed most doing in his final years. And R.C. died last year, so who knows if fire hydrant jumping has bored him yet? Maybe he just needed a newcomer to remind him it is time to teach others how to do that.)
How about you? You're still here. What do you need?
P
Today I will visit my aunt for the last time. Cancer has taken it toll on this very loved women and she was given days to live. From there I go to visit my dad who's days are also numbered.
With me I will bring the gospel of hope and peace. I share this not for kudos or appluse but to encourage each and everyone who reads this thread.
For it is times such as these the Lord has us in to define who we really are and what we believe.
Human emotions has us stirred up as the mystery of death challenges us. Mixed with broken heartedness it's the most pain staking experience ever to lose a loved one.
Stay focused on the God of hope and may the peace that passes all understanding fill your hearts.
Steph, depleated, all those who shared in this thread it was a blessing to be a part of .
My prayers will continue to our God and may his light shine from above.
Steph if there's anything I can do please p.m. me. Thank you for letting me be a part.
Potter.
With me I will bring the gospel of hope and peace. I share this not for kudos or appluse but to encourage each and everyone who reads this thread.
For it is times such as these the Lord has us in to define who we really are and what we believe.
Human emotions has us stirred up as the mystery of death challenges us. Mixed with broken heartedness it's the most pain staking experience ever to lose a loved one.
Stay focused on the God of hope and may the peace that passes all understanding fill your hearts.
Steph, depleated, all those who shared in this thread it was a blessing to be a part of .
My prayers will continue to our God and may his light shine from above.
Steph if there's anything I can do please p.m. me. Thank you for letting me be a part.
Potter.
For any of you amazing people that followed daddy's journey and offered support, here is my father's obituary. https://www.dignitymemorial.com/obituaries/scottsdale-az/mark-russell-7835803
A little something that helped me when my father passed away. May it bring comfort and peace.
That Little Lonely Spot
Dad, your departure has caused what seems a grievous wound in my heart. Thankfully faith rushes in to bind it up tight and family and friends lend their comfort and solace. In a fashion we all suffer this loss together yet my part seems so great and hard to share. Faith, family andfriends gather with me in this Oh so dark an hour. Faith is our anchor securingus against the storm and it seems to grow stronger with the increasing intensity of the struggle. Yet it seems that even with all this strength we might yield and plunge headlong into the valley of pity, sorrow and despair. In this darkness there appears another who begins to lighten the path ahead. It is the future with its promise of healing and renewed joy.
Faith quietly whispers that the tears and grief of today will pass. Yes, says faith, there will always remain that little lonely spot and you will carry it the rest of your days. Family, friends and futures hope of tomorrow will begin to heal the wound which is now almost unbearable.
I am assured that one day I will draw from this little lonely spot a treasure trove of sweet memories and find rich wisdom to guide mysteps.
Even now through the tears and grief I am sobered to think that I too one day will in a heart tender and dear cause a wound so grievous tobear. If we love we can do no less and there is no avoiding the consequence. I only hope that they like I find a balm of good memories to speed the healing and soothe the hurt.
Dad I will miss your companionship.
Fair skies and following winds. Steady as she goes and on to the morn.
Still miss him and often think of him.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
That Little Lonely Spot
Dad, your departure has caused what seems a grievous wound in my heart. Thankfully faith rushes in to bind it up tight and family and friends lend their comfort and solace. In a fashion we all suffer this loss together yet my part seems so great and hard to share. Faith, family andfriends gather with me in this Oh so dark an hour. Faith is our anchor securingus against the storm and it seems to grow stronger with the increasing intensity of the struggle. Yet it seems that even with all this strength we might yield and plunge headlong into the valley of pity, sorrow and despair. In this darkness there appears another who begins to lighten the path ahead. It is the future with its promise of healing and renewed joy.
Faith quietly whispers that the tears and grief of today will pass. Yes, says faith, there will always remain that little lonely spot and you will carry it the rest of your days. Family, friends and futures hope of tomorrow will begin to heal the wound which is now almost unbearable.
I am assured that one day I will draw from this little lonely spot a treasure trove of sweet memories and find rich wisdom to guide mysteps.
Even now through the tears and grief I am sobered to think that I too one day will in a heart tender and dear cause a wound so grievous tobear. If we love we can do no less and there is no avoiding the consequence. I only hope that they like I find a balm of good memories to speed the healing and soothe the hurt.
Dad I will miss your companionship.
Fair skies and following winds. Steady as she goes and on to the morn.
Still miss him and often think of him.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
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For all who didn't know him, (and one of those people is me), this is Stephanie's famous Daddy.
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A message from my father, Mark[/h]
To who may all receive this message Jesus loves you:
I have lived my Christian life knowing that I am a sinner in need of a savior and God gave his Son Jesus Christ to die on the cross and rise again to forgive me of my sins. My Christian walk has been one of grace and works. My life has been blessed and stable which has allowed me to follow my calling and attend a church which has fed me spiritually my entire adult life.
My cancer diagnosis has rocked my world and it has motivated me to spend much more time in prayer and be in the word more than I have ever been in my life. If we are Christians to die is just a step into glory but my current adversity has put my mortality and the promise of heaven front and center. In my life death has been something that was always very far back in my mind. Please pray for me as I go through this adversity.
It has hit me like a ton of bricks that my love of Jesus needs to be stronger and everything in our life is based on our love of Jesus. We can thank him for his love towards us but our Christian walk is determined by how strong our love for him is.
I raised my family in a Christian home that was very pragmatic. We went to church and we prayed at home sometimes but I relied on my Church with its messages and church camps to minister to my family. Our prayers at home did not focus on developing a greater love for Jesus and loving what he loves. I felt the holy-spirit in church and relied on that to develop my love for Jesus and his word.
I now realize that I needed to actively encourage my children when they were younger to press into a deeper love of Jesus and that is something for which I am very sorrowful of and a time which I can never get back. I encourage and pray that each of you begin today to press into a love of Jesus beyond measure and you will in turn love what Jesus loves. If we are in love with Jesus all the other parts of living a life for Jesus fall into place.
I am thankful that we have a God of the now. I am actively seeking a greater love of Jesus. I have been blessed to see this need in my life and pass it on. I need Jesus today more than ever.
I know many of you have had life changing events of all kinds and are still working through changes. I am praying for you individually that you will start today to develop a deep abiding love for Jesus. I am also praying that Godly people will come into your lives to help you with your journey.
I love all of you so much and only want God’s best for you.
In Jesus love
Mark Russell
I have lived my Christian life knowing that I am a sinner in need of a savior and God gave his Son Jesus Christ to die on the cross and rise again to forgive me of my sins. My Christian walk has been one of grace and works. My life has been blessed and stable which has allowed me to follow my calling and attend a church which has fed me spiritually my entire adult life.
My cancer diagnosis has rocked my world and it has motivated me to spend much more time in prayer and be in the word more than I have ever been in my life. If we are Christians to die is just a step into glory but my current adversity has put my mortality and the promise of heaven front and center. In my life death has been something that was always very far back in my mind. Please pray for me as I go through this adversity.
It has hit me like a ton of bricks that my love of Jesus needs to be stronger and everything in our life is based on our love of Jesus. We can thank him for his love towards us but our Christian walk is determined by how strong our love for him is.
I raised my family in a Christian home that was very pragmatic. We went to church and we prayed at home sometimes but I relied on my Church with its messages and church camps to minister to my family. Our prayers at home did not focus on developing a greater love for Jesus and loving what he loves. I felt the holy-spirit in church and relied on that to develop my love for Jesus and his word.
I now realize that I needed to actively encourage my children when they were younger to press into a deeper love of Jesus and that is something for which I am very sorrowful of and a time which I can never get back. I encourage and pray that each of you begin today to press into a love of Jesus beyond measure and you will in turn love what Jesus loves. If we are in love with Jesus all the other parts of living a life for Jesus fall into place.
I am thankful that we have a God of the now. I am actively seeking a greater love of Jesus. I have been blessed to see this need in my life and pass it on. I need Jesus today more than ever.
I know many of you have had life changing events of all kinds and are still working through changes. I am praying for you individually that you will start today to develop a deep abiding love for Jesus. I am also praying that Godly people will come into your lives to help you with your journey.
I love all of you so much and only want God’s best for you.
In Jesus love
Mark Russell
[FONT="]It seems that I’m starting to go through that angry phase of grief. I keep finding myself become shorter tempered or more agitated at things that didn’t really bother me. Little things seem to do it the worst, when I can’t tell myself to calm down because there is no one’s feelings to consider.[/FONT][FONT="]My computer doesn’t work right. I wanna punch it. Solicitors ask for dad, and I want to shout, “HE’S DEAD, UPDATE YOUR RECORDS.” I do something wrong or incorrect, I kinda feel like smashing my fist against a wall.[/FONT][FONT="]It’s not so good.[/FONT]
Your family is going to go through its "Year of Firsts" – the time you go through all your usual family times ... only this year you'll be without your Father. It'll be bittersweet and I hope/pray your family is able to recall with fondness those times your Father enjoyed most.
Cry all you want ... even if you're at the grocery store and you see something that reminds you of your Dad. Let your tears flow and don't worry about what others might think as you stand in the middle of an aisle crying. This might help with your anger issues because if you do not let your tears flow, they'll come out in other ways and anger is one way (depression, over-eating, over-sleeping are others). And you will be amazed at people who reach out to help you through. People you have never seen before will stop to help you. It might take a while before you can talk about losing your Father. I have just begun to be able to speak about my husband without falling apart.
I also went through a period of time where I questioned why did my husband pass ... why didn't I go? My husband was a good man, a believer who stood up for biblical truth, he helped others in need (mostly those who are shunned by society).
I finally got to the point where I felt that it was better that he went first because I surely did not want him to be in the pain I found myself.
Just know that God holds you in His arms and He will continue to heal your heart. He knows your pain. Turn to Him when you feel anger welling up. Ask Him to help you. He is the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort.