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Wolves, Beavers, Gibbons (tree monkeys), Eagles and Swans are our Lord's examples of several monogamous breeds of animal within his creation...
I do believe that there are MEN who have the ability, desire and wherewithal to love ONLY ONE woman - unconditionally with all his heart to death do them part...
Of course NOT ALL MEN have this capacity nor desire...
There are men who can be monogamous with one woman in their lives for an entire life, while some are (or can be) monogamous to only one woman during different phases of their lives - maybe lost a beloved wife along the way...
If a man has 2 daughters, can he only love one of them? Imo, a man can love more than one woman just as a woman can love more than one man.. But in the marital sense, a man or woman are only allowed to love one. There are degree's or levels of love, and a person can love others without a physical or emotional connection that comes with a marital commitment... Or they can play the field if they're up for that headache.
I have never been married but the times I have been in a relationship (even before I knew a thing about Christ btw) I have genuinely loved the woman and have been faithful, not even flirting with anyone else.
I have always valued loyalty above all.
This is probably too much info, but I still miss one, and still love, unfortunately she isnt a Christian.
I believe that the Lord is trying to tell us to love all of your brothers and sisters in Christ, not just the ones we are more closer to and pay more attention too. I don't think that he was saying love this one person, or a different person if you feel that they are more important and deserve love instead of another person. As Christians, we are required to love even the people who are hard to love, like our enemy's. Thanks for your post!
Love is not feelings. Those emotional warm fuzzies are hormone driven lust. Love is to actively participate in and work toward someone's best interest, with out regard to ones own personal feelings.
The warm fuzzies, and feeling of satisfaction, and the feeling of close connection should be a result of mutual investment into the best for each other.
It would not be possible for me to have those feelings for any other woman than my wife because we have work so hard together and have gone through so much together. Our closeness is because a since of shared life experience.
Sure some young thang could come flaggin and waggin, and cause me to have the warm fuzzies but that's not love it's lust. She could even make me feel good about myself while she came around, that's not love either. That too is lust. This can happen to any man or woman, it causes affairs and cheating and destroys marriages and families. So when it invariably happens I think of the investment I have in a lifetime with my wife and I laugh and walk away knowing it's the devil who comes to steal kill and destroy.
Why do people not understand the distinction between love and lust? This has always baffled me, even before I was a Christian.
I think if you are totally satisfied and invested in a monogamous relationship you wouldn’t be looking for the opportunity to invest in another relationship. It would be like wanting to go to another restaurant after leaving your favourite all-you-can-eat buffet. It’s just gluttony.
A decade or so ago i was listening to the radio, a rock station. A woman DJ was on that was in her prime, so to speak, in the 1970's. Maybe it was Carol Miller, I am not sure. Regardless, she played the original version by Stephen Stills, and commented that, she essentially said in so many words, that the song tricked woman into having relations with guys, back in the day.
It sounded like either her, and/or one/some of her friends felt that the song was at least partly responsible for her or them being with a guy that they later regretted or were possibly angry about.