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Are your wife's relatives Roman Catholic? Just curioius about their religious background. 'Godparent' really isn't a thing in churches I go to. I think it's part of the RCC infant baptism ceremony and a big deal.
Anyway, I definitely think you should stand your ground. If it isn't a religious ceremony thing and your wife and you cannot come to an agreement, if she doesn't believe in submission and won't go along with you for that, you could just have a will drawn up letting your brother raise the children. If you both die and your brother has the will and that is all there is, the children may be able to go to your brother without the state making the decision. If you do not mention this to your wife, then she may not create a conflicting will. If you pass away first, what you put in your will won't really matter since they stay with your wife. That does not solve the relational issues in the family. Generally, I would hope a married couple would agree to this and be on the same page.
It might help if you had a conversation with your mother-in-law so maybe she would lay off of your wife. You could point to some issues besides the sexual perversion, like needing a mother figure in the home.
Anyway, I definitely think you should stand your ground. If it isn't a religious ceremony thing and your wife and you cannot come to an agreement, if she doesn't believe in submission and won't go along with you for that, you could just have a will drawn up letting your brother raise the children. If you both die and your brother has the will and that is all there is, the children may be able to go to your brother without the state making the decision. If you do not mention this to your wife, then she may not create a conflicting will. If you pass away first, what you put in your will won't really matter since they stay with your wife. That does not solve the relational issues in the family. Generally, I would hope a married couple would agree to this and be on the same page.
It might help if you had a conversation with your mother-in-law so maybe she would lay off of your wife. You could point to some issues besides the sexual perversion, like needing a mother figure in the home.
My wife’s father is a quiet and passive perfectionist. I’ve never seen him in a leadership role in his family. He mostly is just along for the ride bending to his wife’s decisions at times very begrudgingly.
Her mother is generally loud and obnoxiously boisterous at times. She is usually the one to take control of a situation when it arises while he takes a back seat.
Her mother does most of the talking at social events and will even tell stories that rightfully one would think should be shared by her husband.
She is a retired career teacher and he bounced between oil field work and farming most of his life and is about to quit working due to health issues.
In all the years I’ve known them. Ive never seen them stop to pray about anything. At all the family gatherings prayer never happens. Most of all the holidays are observed and celebrated as pagan. God and Jesus never come up in conversation at Christmas or Easter. It’s always been Santa Claus and the Easter bunny with no real biblical basis or even mention on those days. They never attend church unless it’s a wedding/funeral or something like a family member being honored in a church.