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Do you actually READ what the posts say?
The VERY LAST WORD she used in Post #330 was "dominanation"
She typed "interpretation and dominanation"
She CORRECTED HERSELF by reposting and clarifying that she mean DENOMINATION. She made a joke about how her dyslexia caused her to mix it up and that she had no idea what word she actually typed. (Which was a misspelled/invented word).
So, here is what happened.
1. She understood and answered the question honestly, but made a spelling mistake in her answer.
2. Others responded to her affirmation that she was engaged in this lifestyle.
3. She corrected the mistake she'd made in her post.
OH, and
4. You still stubbornly insist on your own view instead of actually READING WHAT THE POSTS SAY.
You are trapped in your biases and cannot even see the clearly given information that is provided to you...not by me alone, but by NUMEROUS CHRISTIANS on these boards.
That, is super interesting.
The VERY LAST WORD she used in Post #330 was "dominanation"
She typed "interpretation and dominanation"
She CORRECTED HERSELF by reposting and clarifying that she mean DENOMINATION. She made a joke about how her dyslexia caused her to mix it up and that she had no idea what word she actually typed. (Which was a misspelled/invented word).
So, here is what happened.
1. She understood and answered the question honestly, but made a spelling mistake in her answer.
2. Others responded to her affirmation that she was engaged in this lifestyle.
3. She corrected the mistake she'd made in her post.
OH, and
4. You still stubbornly insist on your own view instead of actually READING WHAT THE POSTS SAY.
You are trapped in your biases and cannot even see the clearly given information that is provided to you...not by me alone, but by NUMEROUS CHRISTIANS on these boards.
That, is super interesting.
Yeah, no worries, brother. I mean Tinman was a creepy psycho in Ted Dekker and Frank Peretti's novel "House", but that's cool. He was an interesting character. 
I don't know. It bothers me that Christians are encouraging such lifestyles. We still need to bring loving correction. That's part of the truth that is God's Word.
I don't know. It bothers me that Christians are encouraging such lifestyles. We still need to bring loving correction. That's part of the truth that is God's Word.
5 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.26 “In your anger do not sin”[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Eph 4: 25-26
Just bringing this clear post back that the OP is talking about BDSM and wanted clarification as to whether this was Biblical or not.
To all who posted it is NOT - I am in total agreement. This is a twisted and sick lifestyle, for people who are not stimulated by "ordinary" love in a marriage.
Call me ordinary, I guess.
P
Hi Joseph.
I'm not sure that it's that simple. The verse that you quoted seems to be contrasting marital relations with fornication/whoremongering and adultery and I'm not quite sure that it means that anything goes between a husband and wife in their marriage bed.
In any case, my objection is of a different sort and I've sought to spell that out for everybody here. Jesus taught that in the resurrection there will be no marriage, so this indicates to us that marriage is only for this side of eternity. Why, then, did God ordain it? Well, one major reason is to reflect the spiritual union between Christ and His church in the natural union of a man and his wife. With such being the case, may I ask you a couple of questions?
1. Does Christ find pleasure in inflicting pain upon His bride or binding her up?
If not, then can't you see how perverted it is for a man to find pleasure in the same in relation to his wife?
2. On the other side of the coin, ought the church to desire Christ to inflict pain upon her or to bind her up?
If not, then can't you see how perverted it is for a woman to desire the same from her husband?
In my mind, there's something terribly wrong internally with either the man or woman who desires to either inflict such upon the other or receive the same from the other. Furthermore, for somebody to basically boast in the same as the OP did in my estimation makes matters even worse in that it terribly perverts the picture of Christ's union with His church which God ordained from the beginning and seeks to justify the same as if it's God's definition of a submissive wife. It isn't.
That's my contention in a nutshell.
I'm not sure that it's that simple. The verse that you quoted seems to be contrasting marital relations with fornication/whoremongering and adultery and I'm not quite sure that it means that anything goes between a husband and wife in their marriage bed.
In any case, my objection is of a different sort and I've sought to spell that out for everybody here. Jesus taught that in the resurrection there will be no marriage, so this indicates to us that marriage is only for this side of eternity. Why, then, did God ordain it? Well, one major reason is to reflect the spiritual union between Christ and His church in the natural union of a man and his wife. With such being the case, may I ask you a couple of questions?
1. Does Christ find pleasure in inflicting pain upon His bride or binding her up?
If not, then can't you see how perverted it is for a man to find pleasure in the same in relation to his wife?
2. On the other side of the coin, ought the church to desire Christ to inflict pain upon her or to bind her up?
If not, then can't you see how perverted it is for a woman to desire the same from her husband?
In my mind, there's something terribly wrong internally with either the man or woman who desires to either inflict such upon the other or receive the same from the other. Furthermore, for somebody to basically boast in the same as the OP did in my estimation makes matters even worse in that it terribly perverts the picture of Christ's union with His church which God ordained from the beginning and seeks to justify the same as if it's God's definition of a submissive wife. It isn't.
That's my contention in a nutshell.
C
I was on YouTube earlier and I had it on AutoPlay and this came on and it really had me thinking of this thread and I wanted you all to watch it and really think about it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m587lrHu1lw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m587lrHu1lw
Just so you know, this thread is not about the Biblical submission of a wife to her husband.
It is about BDSM. This stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission and Sadism and Masochism.
"BDSM is a variety of erotic practices involving dominance and submission, roleplaying, bondage, and other interpersonal dynamics. Given the wide range of practices, some of which may be engaged in by people who do not consider themselves as practicing BDSM, inclusion in the BDSM community or subculture is usually dependent on self-identification and shared experience. Interest in BDSM can range from one-time experimentation to a lifestyle."
"BDSM has become an umbrella term for certain kinds of erotic behavior between consenting adults. There are various subcultures under this umbrella term and distinct differences between these subcultures. Terminology for roles varies widely within the various BDSM subcultures. Top and dominant are widely recognized for those partner(s) in the relationship or activity who are, respectively, the physically active or controlling participants. Bottom and submissive are widely recognized terms for those partner(s) in the relationship or activity who are, respectively, the physically receptive or controlled participants. The interaction between tops and bottoms—where physical or mental control of the bottom is surrendered to the top—is sometimes known as "power exchange", whether in the context of an encounter or a relationship."
You can read more here:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM
It is a type of "kinky" sex. Sorry to have to inform you!
It is about BDSM. This stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission and Sadism and Masochism.
"BDSM is a variety of erotic practices involving dominance and submission, roleplaying, bondage, and other interpersonal dynamics. Given the wide range of practices, some of which may be engaged in by people who do not consider themselves as practicing BDSM, inclusion in the BDSM community or subculture is usually dependent on self-identification and shared experience. Interest in BDSM can range from one-time experimentation to a lifestyle."
"BDSM has become an umbrella term for certain kinds of erotic behavior between consenting adults. There are various subcultures under this umbrella term and distinct differences between these subcultures. Terminology for roles varies widely within the various BDSM subcultures. Top and dominant are widely recognized for those partner(s) in the relationship or activity who are, respectively, the physically active or controlling participants. Bottom and submissive are widely recognized terms for those partner(s) in the relationship or activity who are, respectively, the physically receptive or controlled participants. The interaction between tops and bottoms—where physical or mental control of the bottom is surrendered to the top—is sometimes known as "power exchange", whether in the context of an encounter or a relationship."
You can read more here:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM
It is a type of "kinky" sex. Sorry to have to inform you!
Actually see post #330 or my post above #452. The OP came to ask whether there was Biblical justification for her lifestyle. Sadly, we have so mixed up submission in Biblical circles, that it became the issue, rather than BDSM. I heard about it watching CSI a few years back. Well, I heard about it before I was a Christian too, but was as repulsed by it then as I am now.
Mind you, the OP did couch her lifestyle in Biblical words like submission. But her signature really clued a few people into what she was actually talking about.
Mind you, the OP did couch her lifestyle in Biblical words like submission. But her signature really clued a few people into what she was actually talking about.
SirsSubmissiveWife,
You seem very happy to me. There is nothing sinful or "taboo" in anything you wrote here. You are a Christian married woman who submits to her husband, who, from what you've written, cherishes and appreciates you. You, and he, are indeed blessed.
I see you now live in the United States. You may or may not have been born here, which shouldn't matter. However, many women in this country, Christian or no, will have a hard time understanding your submissiveness to your husband. But don't let that discourage you from living the Christian lifestyle, according to God's word, that you two choose.
If what you have written is truth, I applaud you. I pray you and your husband will continue to love one another, and that that love will only grow through God's grace.
You are wise to keep with your daily devotions and prayers. Isn't it wonderful how that time spent in the Word and with Him is how we get into His presence and feel His Spirit's peace? Many are to busy to spend this time with Him each day, and then they wonder, "Why do I feel so -------." Some of these very people are quick to dole out their "wisdom" to others, others who do not know the truth, God's word, and are led, ignorantly, astray from the path to truth. Their untruth can affect future generations, if not corrected by the opening of their eyes and heart to the Word and all that is therein, which is the Light of Life.
God help us!
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I pray your child will be healthy and that there will be no complications. And I pray that your child will grow up to be a great child of God, knowing and living in His Truth.
God bless you and your husband, my sister.
You seem very happy to me. There is nothing sinful or "taboo" in anything you wrote here. You are a Christian married woman who submits to her husband, who, from what you've written, cherishes and appreciates you. You, and he, are indeed blessed.
I see you now live in the United States. You may or may not have been born here, which shouldn't matter. However, many women in this country, Christian or no, will have a hard time understanding your submissiveness to your husband. But don't let that discourage you from living the Christian lifestyle, according to God's word, that you two choose.
If what you have written is truth, I applaud you. I pray you and your husband will continue to love one another, and that that love will only grow through God's grace.
You are wise to keep with your daily devotions and prayers. Isn't it wonderful how that time spent in the Word and with Him is how we get into His presence and feel His Spirit's peace? Many are to busy to spend this time with Him each day, and then they wonder, "Why do I feel so -------." Some of these very people are quick to dole out their "wisdom" to others, others who do not know the truth, God's word, and are led, ignorantly, astray from the path to truth. Their untruth can affect future generations, if not corrected by the opening of their eyes and heart to the Word and all that is therein, which is the Light of Life.
God help us!
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I pray your child will be healthy and that there will be no complications. And I pray that your child will grow up to be a great child of God, knowing and living in His Truth.
God bless you and your husband, my sister.
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5 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.26 “In your anger do not sin”[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Eph 4: 25-26
Yes we do. While I understand your views on this, personally I think the bible is rather contradictory about this. Which is the point of my post. Noone is going to change anyone elses views, and I'm not trying to make a whole darn drama thread. I was, I suppose, seeking clarity myself in the biblical matters. But, also I suppose the bible leaves a lot to personal interpretation and dominanation.
Why do you have a problem with this couples sexual lifestyle? They are legally married. God's Word says if they are married that it is OK.
