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nice to see other introverts here.
personally, I don't see anything wrong with the idea of you being an introverted tomboy, the way you describe yourself. even for introverts it is important to have people you can trust, but it's not something you can force.
if people don't understand something because it's not the norm (extroversion is said to be the norm) they may only see it as a bad thing, when it has strengths and positive sides to it too.
So I wouldn't judge myself for having those tendencies if I were you. I wouldn't accept others' judgements or misunderstandings as true. However, I would avoid limiting yourself or labeling yourself and saying you will never grow to enjoy those things too. It's not bad to be the way you are now, but that doesn't mean God won't lead you into more and add more onto you. But that's if God sets you up and brings the right people... not when church or other folks push you to do it.
So why not pray and ask God if he wants to bring someone you can relate to and trust, if there's anything lacking in your heart. And if there's any hurt or woundedness in your past or in your bloodlines, that might turn you off to new kinds of relationships, maybe you can let the Holy Spirit work on it. I'm not assuming anything, but I used to be super reserved and although I still enjoy time to myself, I have found God healed me in some ways to do more and be more than I thought I could be.
Also if, being an introvert, you haven't communicated to these people how they're making you feel, I recommend you do, in a positive constructive way. If they're mature enough to handle it, let the know you need to do things your own way.
Nothing wrong with relating to guys but being a woman and married puts some boundaries on that. Don't give up on God bringing women across your path that can understand you -even if they're not completely like you-. and don't give up on being understood, just let God arrange it. God bless you with much future growth and personal internal freedom within Jesus, sister.
personally, I don't see anything wrong with the idea of you being an introverted tomboy, the way you describe yourself. even for introverts it is important to have people you can trust, but it's not something you can force.
if people don't understand something because it's not the norm (extroversion is said to be the norm) they may only see it as a bad thing, when it has strengths and positive sides to it too.
So I wouldn't judge myself for having those tendencies if I were you. I wouldn't accept others' judgements or misunderstandings as true. However, I would avoid limiting yourself or labeling yourself and saying you will never grow to enjoy those things too. It's not bad to be the way you are now, but that doesn't mean God won't lead you into more and add more onto you. But that's if God sets you up and brings the right people... not when church or other folks push you to do it.
So why not pray and ask God if he wants to bring someone you can relate to and trust, if there's anything lacking in your heart. And if there's any hurt or woundedness in your past or in your bloodlines, that might turn you off to new kinds of relationships, maybe you can let the Holy Spirit work on it. I'm not assuming anything, but I used to be super reserved and although I still enjoy time to myself, I have found God healed me in some ways to do more and be more than I thought I could be.
Also if, being an introvert, you haven't communicated to these people how they're making you feel, I recommend you do, in a positive constructive way. If they're mature enough to handle it, let the know you need to do things your own way.
Nothing wrong with relating to guys but being a woman and married puts some boundaries on that. Don't give up on God bringing women across your path that can understand you -even if they're not completely like you-. and don't give up on being understood, just let God arrange it. God bless you with much future growth and personal internal freedom within Jesus, sister.
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Hehe church people are always going to have their ideas of what the woman should do and her place in the household. Usually it's the traditional wife role in the house. Cleaning, cooking, taking care of the children, doing girly things as you mentioned and also having woman friends that you can talk to and confide in. This is all good and there is nothing wrong with that. However, the church can't put every single woman in the same bracket. All woman are different just as all men are different. You enjoy different things than a woman who's more "girly" that's fine. The church loves to talk about roles of a woman and what they should be in church...every family is different, people are different. Your husband married you for how you were and are so who cares lol. Don't feel bad when they say this stuff. Church people can be very judgey and have their own ideas of how woman need to be. God doesn't care how girly you are or how traditional your household is. Do what is good for your marriage and what works for you two not what the church "approves" of. Love you God's Beloved!
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I like girly things, but I do not have the gift of gab- to randomly talk about random things. And I'm not good at crafts- especially sewing, but I can draw, if I look at a copy (not trace). I would love to grow my nails, but they keep tearing. I've even tried nail glue and still can't get them to stay put. I have trouble finding friends too because worldly ones want me to drink, smoke, swear, and ignore my kids, I'm not doing that. And everyone at church has their own busy lives. My social group is my daughter and future daughter-in-law.
We can stay up till 3am talking and laughing. We go to the mall and hang out. We share pinterests a lot. And my son loves to cook. It seems either we are over their house, or they are over ours. If we go three days without seeing each other, that's rare. Even tonight, my son is out of town for work, so she's spending the night here. I don't know what I'd do without them. Sometimes I forget I have no friends, cause I have them.
It would be so awesome if the church owned one big hotel, and we could meet for breakfast every morning, and dinner every night.
We can stay up till 3am talking and laughing. We go to the mall and hang out. We share pinterests a lot. And my son loves to cook. It seems either we are over their house, or they are over ours. If we go three days without seeing each other, that's rare. Even tonight, my son is out of town for work, so she's spending the night here. I don't know what I'd do without them. Sometimes I forget I have no friends, cause I have them.
It would be so awesome if the church owned one big hotel, and we could meet for breakfast every morning, and dinner every night.
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We should make a club! You know that would be awesome. I could totally handle hanging with girls who want to go shooting, hiking, fishing or camping. I am so glad to find out that there are others that "break the mold" of traditional or stereotyped women. Now if we only lived near each other 
Amen! To the OP: God loves us for who we are. Despite all of our characteristics, our flaws, our "imperfections". God sees all of our imperfections as perfections. Your husband loves you for who you are as well. Do not worry about approval by the church, just know that you will always have approval from our Lord, and that's what matters. Accept your uniqueness, God loves it. Accept your differences, God loves them. Sometimes we can be our biggest critics, but God is above all of that. These are very earthly things, but our Lord is that of the supernatural, the loving, the perfect. It is quite a beautiful thing to reach that level of comfort in knowing that no matter what, you are not only accepted, but are loved unconditionally by our Lord! Continue being yourself and being happy!
the final straw!! LOL..... I've been trying to work my way through this whole thread, and now I can't stop laughing....
I gotta say, this has been, without a doubt, the most inspiring thread I've ever followed on this forum.
This is the best example of Godly women (you are ALL "ladies" to me, whether you like it or not) sharing and helping, in the love of Jesus.
I'm simply overwhelmed with love and admiration for ALL you ladies...
I'll shut up now, and continue trying to catch up..
I gotta say, this has been, without a doubt, the most inspiring thread I've ever followed on this forum.
This is the best example of Godly women (you are ALL "ladies" to me, whether you like it or not
) sharing and helping, in the love of Jesus. I'm simply overwhelmed with love and admiration for ALL you ladies...
I'll shut up now, and continue trying to catch up..
You need to find a club or group that share the same interests as you do. It is important to be yourself and to like yourself'
Trying to be someone else just to fit in never works. It only makes a person unhappy. I dont know how your husband sees things but my wife is not a bit 'girly' and I respect her just the way she is. I would hate to be Married to a Stepford Wife
Trying to be someone else just to fit in never works. It only makes a person unhappy. I dont know how your husband sees things but my wife is not a bit 'girly' and I respect her just the way she is. I would hate to be Married to a Stepford Wife