I can't speak for others,only what I said. I told her that I also met my husband online and took my time to get to know him. Thats not self righteous or holier than thou,it took time,patience and a lot of nasty comments and pressure from family who said I'd never get married. It took a lot of lonely weeks when he wasn't able to come and see me and I had no car to go and see him.So sometimes it was a full month before I saw him again. Its not easy to take our time but it ends in a better result.
Now she said ,in her own words,that she did not know her husband. So I AGREED and said,yes you did rush it. I said nothing about sex at all,when she did or didn't have it,even though she put those details out there,I said nothing about that.So for agreeing with her I get blasted and now mocked. She said I "judged" her,I hear that a lot on here,apparently people don't know what the word means. I did not judge her,I agreed with the details she gave.