Open marriage

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mailmandan

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To me, it's just whores and whore dogs who see "love" as 'getting some strange.' That may seem a little crude, but it's pretty accurate.
It certainly is a perversion of God's plan for marriage.
 
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makes me very sad to even think about. Prayers for the whole of it and everyone involved amen in JESUS who SAVED even a wretch like me amen
 
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I need help I'm so confused. My husband and I love each other so much and he is not a Christian (which he told me he was) but I have learned to accept it cause of how strong our love is. We recently have talked about an open marriage and i finally gave in and said fine for a month only cause I couldn't find anything online about it being against god. But i have been having second thoughts and I need to know if this is against what God would want..... every time I tell him I'm not sure about it he some how convince me it's ok and he will never love anyone more than me...
If an "open marriage" is a marriage where you or your husband are having sex with other people, then you are committing the sin of adultery.
 

Monnkai

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I need help I'm so confused. My husband and I love each other so much and he is not a Christian (which he told me he was) but I have learned to accept it cause of how strong our love is. We recently have talked about an open marriage and i finally gave in and said fine for a month only cause I couldn't find anything online about it being against god. But i have been having second thoughts and I need to know if this is against what God would want..... every time I tell him I'm not sure about it he some how convince me it's ok and he will never love anyone more than me...
take it from someone who's been in an open relationship. It leads to jealousy and hatred for the other person. It will lead you down a terrible path of pain. Feel free to message me if you need to talk. I have been through it before and I might know what your going through.
 

blue_ladybug

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Having an open marriage is a bad idea. It is adultery, which is something God looks upon as a sin. If you are both Christians, then you should already know that this will lead to nothing but trouble, and more trouble..
 

JosephsDreams

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At least most people here are not telling her to leave post haste. Thank God for that.
But yeah, it is a sin, the guy has issues, and the OP is in a serious crisis here with the marriage.
Seperating or divorce may be a option she may have to eventually consider if her husband, and he may be deserving of that term only in name, does not clean up his act.
 

JosephsDreams

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Is it snowing there BLUE? I am in Stratton with my kids for skiing and we are getting 12" to 15: today. I am not driving in this. I guess my kids are going to miss school tomorrow.
 

ROSSELLA

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I need help I'm so confused. My husband and I love each other so much and he is not a Christian (which he told me he was) but I have learned to accept it cause of how strong our love is. We recently have talked about an open marriage and i finally gave in and said fine for a month only cause I couldn't find anything online about it being against god. But i have been having second thoughts and I need to know if this is against what God would want..... every time I tell him I'm not sure about it he some how convince me it's ok and he will never love anyone more than me...
I'm sorry for what you're going through. Open marriages are against God. Exodus 20, which lists the Ten Commandments, forbids adultery. Adultery is sex with anyone who is not one's spouse. Even if the other spouse says it's okay, God says it's not.

Your husband may love you, but by being willing to have sex with other women, he is being selfish and putting his own feelings and desires first. Explain how you feel to him. If he continues to have affairs, he doesn't love you the way you love him. He may love you more than the other women, but he loves himself more than he loves you.
 

tourist

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An open marriage will destroy your marriage even if only for a day, let alone a month. If you both love each other you will not do such a destructive thing. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
 
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I need help I'm so confused. My husband and I love each other so much and he is not a Christian (which he told me he was) but I have learned to accept it cause of how strong our love is. We recently have talked about an open marriage and i finally gave in and said fine for a month only cause I couldn't find anything online about it being against god. But i have been having second thoughts and I need to know if this is against what God would want..... every time I tell him I'm not sure about it he some how convince me it's ok and he will never love anyone more than me...
So you couldn't find anything in the Bible about adultery?

I get he's not a Christian. Are you?
 

blue_ladybug

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Yeah it's been snowing heavy for a few hours now.. UGHH..

Is it snowing there BLUE? I am in Stratton with my kids for skiing and we are getting 12" to 15: today. I am not driving in this. I guess my kids are going to miss school tomorrow.
 

Angela53510

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So there is 100% agreement in this post, that open marrriage is bad, evil and destructive. Besides being sinful. People have given you Bible verses, too.

The thing is, up till about a generation ago, even non-Christians understood that this type of wickedness was sin. My parents were married 62 years when my father passed away. Never was this an issue. It was bad, wrong! Period. Yet my parents did not come to Christ till the last days of my father's life.

Which goes to prove that not only Christians but non-Christians understand how horrible what your husband is proposing, is. I hope you now understand that an open marriage is a deal breaker.

And as Lynn said, it is time for you to start reading the Bible, going to church, maybe getting in a Bible study and learn to walk with God. Being born in the church does not make you a Christian. Following Christ does. That is called being a disciple, and that is what Jesus told us to be and to make.
 

Ugly

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In the Husband's defense or in her offense, to simply ask "Are you a Christian", "Yes", "Oh Ok", is not a proper way to identify someone as a Christian and gauge their faith. If She further questioned him or attempted to casually discuss the bible with him I'm sure it would become self-evident he was not a christian. I see this excuse very often from women and it is not an excuse at all, you are just letting everyone know how little you factored God into your relationship.
Of course we have no idea to what extent this conversation and future actions and conversations went. This is a presumptuous statement. I've had friends who met their spouse at church and as members of the praise and worship team, yet went on to become abusive drunks. The only Real test of a person's faith and character is time.
 
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I need help I'm so confused. My husband and I love each other so much and he is not a Christian (which he told me he was) but I have learned to accept it cause of how strong our love is. We recently have talked about an open marriage and i finally gave in and said fine for a month only cause I couldn't find anything online about it being against god. But i have been having second thoughts and I need to know if this is against what God would want..... every time I tell him I'm not sure about it he some how convince me it's ok and he will never love anyone more than me...
There is no such thing as an open marriage, just unrestricted lust and complications.

People need security and intimacy. Men lie all the time and use women for their own
ends. A free cook and cleaner is a great asset for a serial adulterer.

And such a lifestyle destroys the soul of everyone who gets involved, because sex is
designed as a seal of an intimate caring relationship, while unrestricted sex is just
lust and psychological frustrations of youth working their way through to adult life
and delusions. And if you want to know what it does to the soul, see testimonies of
porn stars who go suicidal and end up with totally damaged self images and sexual
expressions. It is the kiss of death, and like driving a nail through your own hand.
 

chanchuinchoy

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Open Marriage???what does it mean? Sorry never heard of this
 

ROSSELLA

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Open Marriage???what does it mean? Sorry never heard of this
An open marriage is when both spouses agree that they are allowed to sleep with other people. They still remain married, and typically people involved in these relationships don't view the affairs as being unfaithful, because each has permission from the other spouse to have sex with people he/she isn't married to.
 

OneFaith

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I need help I'm so confused. My husband and I love each other so much and he is not a Christian (which he told me he was) but I have learned to accept it cause of how strong our love is. We recently have talked about an open marriage and i finally gave in and said fine for a month only cause I couldn't find anything online about it being against god. But i have been having second thoughts and I need to know if this is against what God would want..... every time I tell him I'm not sure about it he some how convince me it's ok and he will never love anyone more than me...
I am going to restrain my many shocked reactions to this unbelievable question, and ask you one thing- "What then is marital unfaithfulness?"
 
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Open marriage is in which the partners are free to pursue their own social and sexual lives. Say, "No",sister.

Do not be deceived; God cannot be mocked; A man reaps what he sows.

Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers.



 
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chancer

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is this question for real? How long have you been born again 3 hours?