should the age of consent be 14 or 15?

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tried to edit this... I should have said teenagers may think they are sophisticated (not YOU) as I know that the people I am speaking to in this thread are not partakers in premarital sex.
 
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Im 17, and really want to have gay sex. i think its more the comfort of it though thats appealing, the temporary feeling that someone loves you than the pleasure itself. im meant to be meeting a guy on tuesday. and yet im a christian. im freaked out kind of because i didnt think i was capable of this and yet God hasnt really provided the love i crave :(
 
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Much Love & prayers for our Lord and and savior in his righteousness to provide you with the love you so very much desire and just for you to feel his Holy spirit within and be still and know that he is God. Know that he loves you in spite of your weakness and know that he is right there beside you. Also know that satan is seeing you in your weekness and man oh man does he EVER want you to grieve God by going ahead with this. I can just see him and his little demons rubbing their hands if they have them together in eager anticipation of tuesday. Satan does this by his own will not by Gods will and it is our free will that gives satan license to tempt us and cause us to fall in the eyes of God. I pray you will get through this time of test & trial. I also pray that the Lord will reveal to your heart the spiritual implications of this highly anticipated encounter. Highly anticipated because satan placed that desire upon your heart. Satan is the poor paymaster my friend and I send you love and peace in Jesus name that you will be totally and completely washed white as snow from this desire for other men. Take it from someone who looked for love in all the wrong places, this is a HUGE mistake that will leave you feeling empty, used, sickened and alone. I have already prayed for you as I'm sure so many others on here will too. You are his most precious beautiful child & God knows you have the ability to rebuke satan as he try's his best to separate you from the will of the Father. He is your heavenly father and he knows every single thing about you... He DID NOT give satan permission to convince you to enter into a gay relationship, SO DO NOT for a minute think that that comes from the father with satan as a go between, ok. I will continue in prayer for you and I just really wish I could give you a day in the life of me, after having gone through what i've gone through in this life & come through to redemption & finally pursuing the will of God and ACTUALLY feeling the Holy Spirit within DAILY and talking to God throughout the day... actually feeling the Presence of the Lord. This was elusive to me too for the first 10 years of my christian walk & then guess what... I started pursuing the Lord in a whole new way & the more I pushed away satan the more God revealed himself to me. Salavation was always there but when you grieve the spirit.... welll the best way i can explain it is as my son 7 years old at the time explained the Holy Spirit he said " the Holy spirit is like a brick wall between you and the bad things you want to do like sin. you come to the wall and it stops you but still you can climb over the wall or go around the wall and sin. I take it one step further... everytime we stop at the wall that is the Holy Spirit that is convicting us of our sin... everytime we stop and turn away, we build up the wall & strengthen our relationship with the Lord... everytime we go around or climb over the wall, we weaken it. The wall is still there but the more we grieve the spirit the weaker our relationship with the Lord. I submit to you that you are a young man capable of strengthening that wall by turning away from your sinful desire & reinforce it with prayer & time spent in the word of GOD. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all his righteousness. Please Please Please, spend some time God before you make a decision that will throw you into heavy duty spiritual turmoil. God Bless you young Laddie & much Love to you.
 
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Im 17, and really want to have gay sex. i think its more the comfort of it though thats appealing, the temporary feeling that someone loves you than the pleasure itself. im meant to be meeting a guy on tuesday. and yet im a christian. im freaked out kind of because i didnt think i was capable of this and yet God hasnt really provided the love i crave :(


Please, please, I beg you dont do this. I pray that God will help you to know this is not the way to go. I have learned much to late that sometimes there are things you can do that are so bad you can never, ever undo them. Please dont do this.

Debbie
 
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Praise the Lord for you Debbie.
 
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Great response Debbie.

There is a member on here whose signature says '...I hate who I was....'

These poor kids are being set up to mess up their lives and be prey to predators.

They may think they are getting away scot free but they will all live to regret it and legitemately ask why they were not protected from themselves.
 
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Im 17, and really want to have gay sex. i think its more the comfort of it though thats appealing, the temporary feeling that someone loves you than the pleasure itself. im meant to be meeting a guy on tuesday. and yet im a christian. im freaked out kind of because i didnt think i was capable of this and yet God hasnt really provided the love i crave :(
Lad,

I wonder how old your 'partner' is.
I knew a 17 yo 'christian' guy who introduced a 40 year old man as his life's partner.

I should have said to him. 'How many life partners has he had already and how many more young 17 yo life partners will he make promises to after you age a bit?'

Never mind the fact that it is wrong - you are making plans to progressively destroy your soul - DO NOT DO IT


I bet anything you like you got to this stage in your life via masturbation and porn.

The blood of Jesus Christ is the only thing which can cleanse you of the contamination you are already experiencing. He has the power to save you from getting in deeper.
 
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Lad, if you genuinely belong to Jesus he will place one obstacle after another in your way. If you are determined enough, you will overcome them and be left with no excuse. Throw youself on God's mercy. He is the only one who can sort out the mess your life is already in and can save you from greater mistakes.
 

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Im 17, and really want to have gay sex. i think its more the comfort of it though thats appealing, the temporary feeling that someone loves you than the pleasure itself. im meant to be meeting a guy on tuesday. and yet im a christian. im freaked out kind of because i didnt think i was capable of this and yet God hasnt really provided the love i crave :(
Lad, don't meet this guy on Tuesday mate. Bad idea. I hope and pray that you will not pursue sexual relationships with men. This attraction that you feel is not natural and can be overcome with prayer.

God HAS provided the love you crave. God couldn't love you more! He loves you so much that Jesus was crushed for your sinfulness.

Don't trick yourself into thinking that sex will make you feel loved!!! God loves you - you just need to realise it and look at all that God has done for you.

Don't turn away from God and do sinful things. Also don't rely on your feelings. God is present regardless of whether you can feel Him or not. Read the book of Ephesians to see how much God loves you.

If you ever need to talk let me know mate.
 
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thank you to all who commented. i appreciate it. and id like to let you know that it was going to be tonight that i was going to meet him. I was going to sleep in the sleepout so that i could sneak out at midnight without waking my dad and sister to meet this guy i hadnt met b4 to 'do the deed' HOWEVER I met with my mate this afternoon who has lost her virginity and she, without realizing it made me realize that my virginity is worth far more than a one night stand. So i will not be meeting with him and i will not be giving away my purity and most precious part of myself to some random. thankyou thankyou *bows* lol. I will continue to hope and pray that God will reveal his amazing love to me so that i will continually be convinced of it and im going to get back on track with God, because really he never left me, i left Him cos Ive found that this all started (feeling this way, getting the 'how you doin' email from the dude etc) all happened on Sunday which was when i experienced the MOST AMAZING church service ever, so obviously Satan didnt like me being that close to God so brought all this about. Please pray for my protection from the Evil One. Thanks, Lots of Love, Lots of Hugs and God Bless you all :)
 
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I just had premarital sex a few hours ago

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aww. well it doesnt matter *shrugs* The love of God extends through every mistake we may make :)
 
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aww. well it doesnt matter *shrugs* The love of God extends through every mistake we may make :)
Do you think God would mind if I did it more often? 'Cause I really enjoyed myself...
 
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To misamisa. Your 18 years old, and your a christian right. what business do you have asking if god minds if you have sex with a guy when you two are not married.
 
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To misamisa. Your 18 years old, and your a christian right. what business do you have asking if god minds if you have sex with a guy when you two are not married.
Well, I've already done it several times, and I really enjoy it to be quite honest. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and I honestly believe I will go on to marry this man.

I have told myself over and over that I will not do it again until we are actually married, but it's hard once you're in the heat of the moment.

So, I was wondering if God would mind if I continued, or if I should try harder to stop until we are married. If I should stop, then I would like some tips. It's just so hard once we've been kissing and get really into it.
 
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i am thinking ourside my self

i am telling u from my surroding that all the girls are happy about it

all the boys are happy about it

they think - great at last ive lost my virginity

no one thinks about the emotional side - coz it is nothin to fear, to them sex is just a moment of pleasure

so dont say i am only thinkn about muself.
Still it is very wrong. You are still a child being 11, 12, 13, 14 and 15. I even think 16 is waay to young as well. Today's world is meant to destroy and pollute minds with the wrong views on maturity. That girl being 11 years old saying it was great having sex, she will later have a lot of mental issues to be dealing with later. Also taking abortion shows that she isn't even mature having sex, people that have this know that there might happen a pregnancy. Even though she wouldn't have taken abortion, still it doesn't means that she is mature for being a parent.

It is all sick to be seeing young teenagers destroying their lives and opening up for their sexuality even before they are being ready for it. Having sex is meant for enjoyment, yes, but also to make kids. It is inside of marriage too. If you aren't ready to marry, you aren't ready for any sex either. Being a child, is very precious moments also helping you to grow into creativity with your mind, learning to socialize through playing etc... When children feel like they need growing up faster, and become an adult at 11 years old, then something wrong is going on in their minds. There are sure kids that might seem more mature than other kids, but still, they keep on being a kid, and should be treated and seen like a kid.
 
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Well, I've already done it several times, and I really enjoy it to be quite honest. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and I honestly believe I will go on to marry this man.

I have told myself over and over that I will not do it again until we are actually married, but it's hard once you're in the heat of the moment.

So, I was wondering if God would mind if I continued, or if I should try harder to stop until we are married. If I should stop, then I would like some tips. It's just so hard once we've been kissing and get really into it.

There is something named lines. If you both know that kissing will lead you to sin, then stop with it till untill you are married. God isn't pleased by you having sex outside of marriage, and you know it is wrong, so why continue when God wants you both to wait untill you get married?
 
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thank you to all who commented. i appreciate it. and id like to let you know that it was going to be tonight that i was going to meet him. I was going to sleep in the sleepout so that i could sneak out at midnight without waking my dad and sister to meet this guy i hadnt met b4 to 'do the deed' HOWEVER I met with my mate this afternoon who has lost her virginity and she, without realizing it made me realize that my virginity is worth far more than a one night stand. So i will not be meeting with him and i will not be giving away my purity and most precious part of myself to some random. thankyou thankyou *bows* lol. I will continue to hope and pray that God will reveal his amazing love to me so that i will continually be convinced of it and im going to get back on track with God, because really he never left me, i left Him cos Ive found that this all started (feeling this way, getting the 'how you doin' email from the dude etc) all happened on Sunday which was when i experienced the MOST AMAZING church service ever, so obviously Satan didnt like me being that close to God so brought all this about. Please pray for my protection from the Evil One. Thanks, Lots of Love, Lots of Hugs and God Bless you all :)
Thank God for answered prayers as you were on my heart & in my prayers & in the prayers of others on here. I wish i could just give you a hug and let you know how proud I am of you... u r building up your relationship with God! Much love to you young man.