The sin of refusing sex

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If women dont think they are supposed to have sex with their husbands thats fine. Just tell men that when you date them instead of lying. It appears to b most womens plan have sex with a guy for a few years and completely cut him off. My ex wife told me she never wanted to have sex the rest of her life. Funny thing she was cheating on me? Fascinating. And the neighbor buddy of mine said there were many different trucks spending the night after we were done. Its almost like she did want to have sex but loved manipulation and emotional abuse more?
 

TheIndianGirl

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If women dont think they are supposed to have sex with their husbands thats fine. Just tell men that when you date them instead of lying. It appears to b most womens plan have sex with a guy for a few years and completely cut him off.
A lot of women are actually indifferent about having sex, below is an interesting article on this. However, there is still the expectation/desire for women to have children. So after having children they show less interest in sex as their mission has been accomplished.
https://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/i-feel-no-sexual-attraction-should-i-still-pursue-marriage

However, some women do enjoy sex well into their elder years. Before, in the older times, it was taboo for an elderly woman to enjoy sex. So, part of the reason why a woman shows disinterest as she gets older is that she is dealing with that taboo and pressure from society (esp. if she is from a different culture).

On your ex-wife, I am totally guessing here, maybe she was seeking emotional connection and/or dealing with loneliness and it came out in the form of sex.
 

TheIndianGirl

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My ex wife told me she never wanted to have sex the rest of her life.
I have a friend who told me this about her ex-husband - that she never wanted to have sex with her husband. They had marital problems so I think that was the reason. She said she has high sex drive so it wasn't about the sex.
 

kaylagrl

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If women dont think they are supposed to have sex with their husbands thats fine. Just tell men that when you date them instead of lying. It appears to b most womens plan have sex with a guy for a few years and completely cut him off. My ex wife told me she never wanted to have sex the rest of her life. Funny thing she was cheating on me? Fascinating. And the neighbor buddy of mine said there were many different trucks spending the night after we were done. Its almost like she did want to have sex but loved manipulation and emotional abuse more?
Women get married and have the same issue. That's the point of the thread. You marry, the two become one. If you don't, you're breaking your marriage vows, man or woman.
 
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Yes, it's commanded in the word of God. So it's a sin. You almost never hear this taught in church or hear it preached. Nowhere does the Bible tell husbands to "do these 10 things" or "talk to your wife about it" either. To husbands it only says "love your wives". Sometimes, however, "loving your wife" isn't enough. So the Bible commands the Godly (not the feministic) "aged women" to "teach the younger women to love their husbands, to love their children". Why would that work? Perhaps for 3 reasons #1 Aged women are more mature emotionally, spiritually, and mentally: They are wiser. #3 Because it's another woman doing the teaching, instead of some man or husband teaching only because "he wants sex". #3 "Aged women" have already experienced the troubles and the joys of refusing or not refusing.

Also, why does the verse say, "teach them to ...love their children"? Don't most wives put the children first? I'm not sure what all of it entails but consider this: A child is not getting the love and the happy home they so desperately need when Mom and Dad are at constant odds with each other over sex. So if Dad learns to love Mom, and Mom is taught to love Dad enough that there's no conflict over sex, WOW, methinks there would be far fewer divorces and children without a father in the home.
 

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If women dont think they are supposed to have sex with their husbands thats fine. Just tell men that when you date them instead of lying. It appears to b most womens plan have sex with a guy for a few years and completely cut him off. My ex wife told me she never wanted to have sex the rest of her life. Funny thing she was cheating on me? Fascinating. And the neighbor buddy of mine said there were many different trucks spending the night after we were done. Its almost like she did want to have sex but loved manipulation and emotional abuse more?
Thanks to social media and dating apps, this gives men and women more opportunities to be unfaithful or replace a partner with rapid ease.
 

JohnDB

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Thanks to social media and dating apps, this gives men and women more opportunities to be unfaithful or replace a partner with rapid ease.
Nope...
Because sexual partners are people with feelings.
They bring with them a laundry list of history and family members...
Your "encounter" with them might be brief...but it still will have lingering effects. It's never "one and done" sex.

People talk like that happens but it really doesn't.
 

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I would consider it a sin to withhold sex if it were being self centered or as a punishment for one to get their own way. But do not feel that in this verse it is considered a sin. Just a warning it will cause marital issues. Also perhaps may cause your partner to sin. But in all actuality we are held accountable for our own decision to sin.
 
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Nope...
Because sexual partners are people with feelings.
They bring with them a laundry list of history and family members...
Your "encounter" with them might be brief...but it still will have lingering effects. It's never "one and done" sex.

People talk like that happens but it really doesn't.
"Nope" to what exactly?
This is a fact of modern society and the digital age.
Everyone knows individuals that are guilty of this.
 

JohnDB

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"Nope" to what exactly?
This is a fact of modern society and the digital age.
Everyone knows individuals that are guilty of this.
I know many people who have tried "one and done" but it NEVER works out to be that way. They get entangled much much more than they ever wished to be. And it always ends in a disastrous mess.