What do you think about sharing household chores?

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Gojira

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Do you think married couples should share household chores? I'm curious to know what other people think about sharing household chores in married life.
No problem at all. I mean, I think that's only fair. If I was married, and my wife cooked, I'd wash the dishes. I'd let her grocery shop while I did the laundry. Boom. Not hard.
 
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Do you think married couples should share household chores? I'm curious to know what other people think about sharing household chores in married life.
Might be better to remain flexible on that so there isn’t any tension. Maybe just do the chores as they come, whoever gets to them first, but don’t create a problem out of it if the other isn’t working as hard as you.

I think one of the reasons couples fight is if they feel like the other is increasing their burden. Don’t let that root of bitterness take hold. The reality is people get busy and become mentally/physically exhausted. Don’t be afraid to take a day off and just don’t do any chores if you can afford it.
 

Dude653

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Also if you have kids, they can help with household chores instead of sitting on their butts playing video games all day
 

Dino246

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Not joking at all . Love your wife as Christ loves the church . Unless she wants something unsafe !
If the husband is to love the wife as Christ loves the Church, then he is to tell her "No" when her requests are inappropriate, not to jump and then ask "How high?", which Christ certainly does not do for the Church. Let's not confuse sappy, misguided misconceptions of chivalry with biblical wisdom.
 

Lanolin

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I have observed that its usally the husband takes care of everything outside of the house and the wife does all the inside.

But I also have observed that sometimes both are lazy and dont do anything OR are too busy running their business to care about chores. They then pay their children to do them, but many just get them to work for free.
 

Dude653

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There's no one size fits all prescription on how to run a household. Each family should do what works for them
 

GardenofWeeden

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When I was married, I stayed home with the girls. Since he worked outside the house, we decided he would take care of outside things, mainly. He did a lot of the shopping, took care of the grass, cars, and snow removal when we lived in Indiana. I took care of the housekeeping, laundry and cooking, and I was mainly responsible for educating, as well as, the general care of the girls. It worked for us, mainly since he didn't think I cut the grass in straight lines, and I didn't like the way he folded clothes, especially towels (haha) .

One tip, though, I learned the hard way, BOTH of you need to be involved in paying the bills, savings and preparing for retirement. I let him solely care for this, after a HUGE blowout we had about how I handled the bills, and when he passed I had a rude awakening. Make sure both of you know what's going on, are involved in the decisions, and know where all the accounts are, where the documentation is, and all the passwords and login info. Don't be like me and learn too late that it's all a house of cards.
 

Robertt

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If the husband is to love the wife as Christ loves the Church, then he is to tell her "No" when her requests are inappropriate, not to jump and then ask "How high?", which Christ certainly does not do for the Church. Let's not confuse sappy, misguided misconceptions of chivalry with biblical wisdom.
you seem to assume that jumping high is wrong... ... why is it wrong? is it becasue she is a woman ?
 

Dino246

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you seem to assume that jumping high is wrong... ... why is it wrong? is it becasue she is a woman ?
A man who is always at the beckon call of his wife is a man who will lose his wife's respect.
 

Lanolin

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High jump or long jump

Or bungy jump
 

Dino246

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Not after respect , after love and happiness ? Goes two ways
Agreed that it is mutual. However, happiness is not a biblical command; respect is. Why act in a way that will make it difficult for your wife to respect you?
 

Robertt

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Agreed that it is mutual. However, happiness is not a biblical command; respect is. Why act in a way that will make it difficult for your wife to respect you?
A commandment is respect ?
 

JesusLives

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Everyone who lives in the house should do their part. If you see something that needs to be done do it if it is bothering you. I don't breathe very well and I can't do cleaning like I used to Tourist helps me so much at times I feel guilty. I do the best I can but truth be told I am at the stage that I should probably hire someone to come in and clean at least once a month.
 

Nehemiah6

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Do you think married couples should share household chores?
That's a given. But is cooking a chore or is it a delight? And since married couples have children, how come you did not include them?
 

Kireina

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I was raised in a household where my mother cooked and cleaned after my father 😊 She cooked,she washed the clothes,prepared the table for my father and cared for my father when he was not feeling well.

If I get married I'll do the same I'll cook,I'll clean the house,I'll wash the clothes,prepare the table for my husband and I'll take care of him when he is sick. It doesn't matter if I have work or if I am a housewife...I'll do all those things because I love my husband I want to take care OF my husband ☺ but I will definitely appreciate a husband who will help me with the household chores...


If he doesn't...well at least my husband needs to compensate me lol 😂

Kidding aside 😅 No big deal for me who does this or that...because for me when you cook or you wash the clothes or you clean the house for your man or woman it is not a chore but a service of love...my way of showing love to my husband ... 😊
 

tourist

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I'm all for it. My workday does not end when I punch out to go home. Among my household tasks are grocery shopping, taking out the trash, getting the mail, feeding the cats and changing the litter pan, and dishwashing. Occasionally I cook breakfast or dinner. I do my own laundry too. My wife handles the finances, cooks, planning the menu for the week and her laundry. Even though I am the head of the household my wife is not my personal slave expecting her to wait on me. Hers is the opinion that I value most.
 

tourist

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Kidding aside 😅 No big deal for me who does this or that...because for me when you cook or you wash the clothes or you clean the house for your man or woman it is not a chore but a service of love...my way of showing love to my husband ... 😊
I feel the same way towards my wife.