Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

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blue_ladybug

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She's an unfit mother, and obviously can't handle taking care of him whether he's fussy or not.. I agree with Locopony, get a paternity test done ASAP.
 

Locoponydirtman

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My suspicion is that she got pregnant by somebody else, she wants to go be with him, and she wants you to foot the bill, because he is a deadbeat.

That is why she is talking all that mess about being friends and everything and hanging out.
 

Locoponydirtman

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I'm sure that there ain't none of this that you wanted to hear. The sad thing is some folks are just trifling,
 

Jimbone

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You know... I really am struggling to believe that she is a Christian, that she knows Him... and if she has committed adultery then scripturally you are free to leave and re-marry one day someone who is not abusive...
in my prayers
God bless
This is the truth, and Jesus said we will know them by their fruit. It is clear she is not in Him, can't be. She can't be in Christ when she is seeking to feel the spiritual void with the excitement of the flesh. She can't be born again and cling to sin so hard.

I feel the need to be clear here, it's not some slip that I would say this about. If cheating happen, and even if she no longer wanted to be with you it could be handled "better", but her continuous stay in sins bed strongly suggest she is not saved and does not know Jesus. That's the problem is she is seeking to fill that void by the flesh as we all do, but with our eyes open by the grace of our King, we know the flesh can NEVER satisfy. It's so sad and tragic because of the wake of disaster and heartache she leaves behind her to chase something that will only end the same way. I praise God for fathers like you man, and I pray He guide you to all peace. My prayers are with you brother.
 
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Update

I did a Paternity test and I am the Father.

My wife started back at work and now my Buddy is in a at home daycare. I work from the house. She doesn't like being alone so she would be in the room with my and the baby. I can't get any free time away from her other than work. If i have a event that i'm doing or anything she invites herself along. Even when i had to drive to get paperwork across town she will join me. It's fine and it was great we spent time when we were Married and she was faithful but it's just hard for me to look at her the same. I still sleep in her room either in her bed or on the floor.

We still get along other than if her cheating situation is brought up. That is getting worse :( The cheater had his mom buy him tickets to come for V-day. Obviously my wife's mom and I would not let him stay here. She is staying with him and it sucks :( So i will have lots of baby time this weekend because he will be with me. It seems like i'm numb to it now. after she makes bad decision by bad decision it's just the norm now.

Our home dynamic is strange, even the other day her mom asked me if she stopped cheating and we were back together because my wife still acts like we are best friends and has me do things that you would not do with someone who isn't you husband. (not sexual things) Her Mom is still supportive of me and tells everyone I'm a great dad. She is pretty upset about this weekend as well. But she won't tell my wife that.

Memorial day is our official move date. I'm counting down the days. I can't wait to go back to WA. She will have to live with me for a year but we will have much more room there. I just know when this is all over it will be weight off my chest. I just hope she doesn't change her mind about moving

I'm still doing well. I had some church members over Sunday and this weekend i'm doing the announcements at church so I'm getting more active. I signed up for a disc (frisbee) tournament in two weeks so i have something to drive for and spend some time improving at.

Baby is doing great. He can do real smiles now and stick his tongue back at me. I take him everywhere with me so he travels a lot. We got baby pictures
 

Jimbone

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Update

I did a Paternity test and I am the Father.

My wife started back at work and now my Buddy is in a at home daycare. I work from the house. She doesn't like being alone so she would be in the room with my and the baby. I can't get any free time away from her other than work. If i have a event that i'm doing or anything she invites herself along. Even when i had to drive to get paperwork across town she will join me. It's fine and it was great we spent time when we were Married and she was faithful but it's just hard for me to look at her the same. I still sleep in her room either in her bed or on the floor.

We still get along other than if her cheating situation is brought up. That is getting worse :( The cheater had his mom buy him tickets to come for V-day. Obviously my wife's mom and I would not let him stay here. She is staying with him and it sucks :( So i will have lots of baby time this weekend because he will be with me. It seems like i'm numb to it now. after she makes bad decision by bad decision it's just the norm now.

Our home dynamic is strange, even the other day her mom asked me if she stopped cheating and we were back together because my wife still acts like we are best friends and has me do things that you would not do with someone who isn't you husband. (not sexual things) Her Mom is still supportive of me and tells everyone I'm a great dad. She is pretty upset about this weekend as well. But she won't tell my wife that.

Memorial day is our official move date. I'm counting down the days. I can't wait to go back to WA. She will have to live with me for a year but we will have much more room there. I just know when this is all over it will be weight off my chest. I just hope she doesn't change her mind about moving

I'm still doing well. I had some church members over Sunday and this weekend i'm doing the announcements at church so I'm getting more active. I signed up for a disc (frisbee) tournament in two weeks so i have something to drive for and spend some time improving at.

Baby is doing great. He can do real smiles now and stick his tongue back at me. I take him everywhere with me so he travels a lot. We got baby pictures
We love you brother, and I don't know how God is going to use this to glorify Himself to you, but brother I see His Spirit all over you. I pray you find rest in the chaos, and my He bless you and you child forever, and I'll be praying still.