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I think you need to go back and read those Bible stories because you're remembering and / or interpreting them pretty incorrectly. So let's go through a very brief history of love, marriage, and Bible. First off, this idea that you have to or should be "in love with" or feel some attraction to a person to make that person a good marriage partner is only about 200 years old. Really it just started up around the time of Jane austen and other classic romance writers of that period; before that people (at least people who were prominent and important enough to get stories told about them) were much more likely to marry for position, power, money, or political alliances.
Second God's choice of David had nothing to do with how he looked, in fact in explaining his rejection of David's oldest brother (and by implication choice of David) we get the rather famous 1 Sam 16:7 -But the LORD said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The LORD doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” You could say it was Saul who was chosen because he looked like a king, and look how that turned out.
Esther was beautiful but probably didn't become queen just because of her looks. The less sanitized version of that story is something more like Xerxes former wife refused to come and be on display for a room full of dunken men so she was fired as queen and banished. Xerxes went off to war and got his butt kicked by the Greeks ( I believe that included 300 Spartans at a little battle no one's ever heard of in a place called Thermopylae) and consoled himself by coming home and rounding up all the pretty single young ladies in town for his harem and having sex with each one of them so he could decide which one he liked best and declare her the new queen. Anyone still want a love story like Esther's?
Samson had a thing for Philistine women. They seemed to have a thing for betraying him and he ended up blind and a prisoner because of it.
Joseph was sold into Egyptian slavery by his brothers. Bible says he was good looking and it got him falsely accused by his master's wife and imprisoned. After attracting the attention of Pharaoh and being promoted, I'm not sure how much choice he had in if he was going to marry or who to marry (probably one of those political alliance marriages). But it sure was better than being stuck in prison.
I won't say it's impossible for everything to line up and you to feel immediately attracted to and in love with a person and actually go on to have a long and fulfilling relationship with that person, but that is extremely rare. And I would side with those who assert that this mythology of romantic love as something bigger than two people that fates them to be together and live happily ever after does more to destroy relationships than strengthen and improve them. Best anyone in the modern age can do is realize that relationships require a lot of work, sacrifice, compromise, and commitment and become the kind of person who can fulfill such responsibilities once in a relationship (and then choose who to be in that relationship with wisely).
Ok whatever if u dont like my opinion that fine. but u dont have to make a huge agrument about it or make a big deal about it. Im just simply expressing my own thought and opinion which people can respect and related to.
I understand that, my manner is different and i get that. I can see how some words i use can be out of context, however misunderstandings happen everywhere.
This is a text forum and we are n various places in the world, that is what causes the confusion.
So with that said, it would be helpful to be more open to the discussions instead of shredding each other apart.
I mean that towars everyone, myself included that is why i wrote my responce.
Words without verbal words can be mistaken very badly because not everyone sees everyones point of view.
That is why one time i posted my voice on here thru youtube.
However we should as a whole get a long, then we should understand and be more open to each other
On my part? Never yelled or even got mad i pulled away by my own doing. When i was at the doctor i had it planned out to explain wht i meant and to apologoze for anything i may have said wronf.
I have done that but not in the forums the person and i are not mad we carried on a great conversation as brother and sister in Christ should.
And trust me i will not put a camera on my life just to tell u guys everything, i do have some privacy.
I write how i write and feel how i feel to a solid degree.
I write what i am lead to write by God's spirit.
I also change the subject alot to avoid any miscomings. Meaning this, if anyone tells ke something theb i change the subject that dont mean i dont care because i do it means why go down that dark road that broke ur hearts in the first place?
In time things coulda been said and expressed as a whole but it was not God's time to expeeas things that hurt a person the most.
I get that because I never feel right aaking until God places it in my heart to do so.
A person's business is their business. It is up to them male ir female to explain in their own way no matter what to make themelves feel more relaxed to the conversation.
I had that twice it seems frim here i wont go into detail but we should all as a whole as questions without jumping to conclusions.
Not everything ahould be done in the open thats why i went to chat.
And i did take the person off ignore after i thaught it all out.
ANd their responce was kind they explained and i explained.
And we both agree that to judge by apperences is to know the demeanor of the person as a whole and not by the psysical good looks but as to see them thru thir self emptions.
That is the understanding i have from the conversation maybe they do too.
TBH there wasnt any drama at all or any argument at all. there wasnt even yelling either. You guys are making it as if it was opera. If there was argument right now. There would have been World War 3. we will all be fighting and saying offense things to each other. so that totally different. It just simple disagreement how we each expressed our thought/viewpoint/perspective while we give our reasoning and valid answer in a civil manner. this was actually more like a debate we were having about outer apperance. And does outer apperance play a role in a realtionship through personality.
Writer already appoligez and message me. I already explain to him what I mean by judging people apperance. Which he kind of understand and agree a little bit.