drule--
I was thinking about your situation today and how much I can relate to it. In my case, it took me 16 years to get myself unattached from the person, and sadly enough, the last link was cut last just year (the person and myself hadn't spoken in many, many years, but there was still someone else I heard from--maybe once a year--who still knew his family and it killed me to even hear anything about them.) The more I thought about your posts the more intensely I could remember what it felt like. I was in holy hellish agony the entire time and from your original post, you are too.
It's like a drug you don't know you're better off without until you get it out of your system. You hold on to it because of the "high" you get--and don't think you can live without--by hanging on to her. And the withdrawal symptoms are killer, I know. I always say that time in my life ripped my soul out and I've spent all these years trying to grown one back.
You're well on your way to spending that much time agonizing over this girl. From your original post, it's almost been a decade already.
None of my posts were meant as criticism or to be "mean". All I've been trying to say is, "Please don't do what I did, don't torture yourself like that."
And, you could miss out on a lot of wonderful people in the meantime. I know the people here on CC have helped me immensely, and as Cinder said, I hope you'll stick around and get to know some of us. We're not trying to cut you down. We're trying to spare you the consequences of what many of us have already done.
I was thinking about your situation today and how much I can relate to it. In my case, it took me 16 years to get myself unattached from the person, and sadly enough, the last link was cut last just year (the person and myself hadn't spoken in many, many years, but there was still someone else I heard from--maybe once a year--who still knew his family and it killed me to even hear anything about them.) The more I thought about your posts the more intensely I could remember what it felt like. I was in holy hellish agony the entire time and from your original post, you are too.
It's like a drug you don't know you're better off without until you get it out of your system. You hold on to it because of the "high" you get--and don't think you can live without--by hanging on to her. And the withdrawal symptoms are killer, I know. I always say that time in my life ripped my soul out and I've spent all these years trying to grown one back.
You're well on your way to spending that much time agonizing over this girl. From your original post, it's almost been a decade already.
None of my posts were meant as criticism or to be "mean". All I've been trying to say is, "Please don't do what I did, don't torture yourself like that."
And, you could miss out on a lot of wonderful people in the meantime. I know the people here on CC have helped me immensely, and as Cinder said, I hope you'll stick around and get to know some of us. We're not trying to cut you down. We're trying to spare you the consequences of what many of us have already done.
