Are we guilty of becoming bitter towards "pretty people?"

[Mo0448]

well let us not forget that beauty is in the eye of the beholder...and that a first impression personality wise plays a big role I mean it does for me...speaking honestly I am more attracted to a "plain" looking person that has a great personality than a pretty very attractive woman that's dumber than rocks or has NO personality...looks fade over time personality doesnt.

Shame on you Steph! As a pretty beautiful gorgeous person I resent your remarks I guess I can forgive you haha

 

[Ric]

We know it. Women want security, men go for looks. As judged by the outward, success is measured so.
Don't hate or envy the beautiful or rich.
God - (Jesus as the personification), does neither judge by appearance or wealth.
Another sanctification point that all believers must go through.

 

[Fenner]

My Mom is a beautiful Woman. Everyone always commented on how pretty she is, and why wasn't she a model blah, blah, she never felt pretty. I remember my Mom at my age 44 trying to get wrinkle remover, she even used scotch tape once. She always looked good. When we'd go one vacation it could be weird because Men of all ages would treat my Mom like eye candy and hey, that's my Mom. I even had one date tell me that he knew as I aged, I'd stay hot like my Mom has. He was a pig.

Sad thing to me is that people didn't make remarks like, wow she's intelligent and hard working and she's a great artist. She was the best Easter egg hinder I've ever known and after my Dad died she was the most resilient person I've ever seen. She's 77 now and actually got Botox a few years ago. She wants a face lift. It's nuts. My Aunt and I discussed this once and I said when you're told over and over how gorgeous you are and no one tells you your other qualities you feel your value is your body and your face.

She knows how talented and wonderful I think she is, I just wish she could see it herself.

 

[Born_Again]

I do feel beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I have seen women, that at first glance you may shy away but then they smile and their eyes sparkle. You think "wow!! she is really pretty" This also can mean they are a sweet and kind person you really should get to know, at the least.

 

[Descyple]

I hope no one here on CC is bitter towards me because of my captivating prettiness and abundant good-lookingness (I know good-lookingness is not a real word, but attractive people have earned the right to make up their own words!!!).

We of the Pretty-Boy Elite (that is the name of our official organization) would like to inform the world that in addition to our perfect faces we also have sensitive hearts and emotions that can be hurt and wounded just like any one else's.

I submit the video below of Jason Bateman expressing his deep-felt pain for not being nominated as last year's "Sexiest Man Alive" contest (won by Chris Hemsworth). This video is proof that we hurt as well as dazzle!!!

Don't hate us because we are beautiful, envy us because we are beautiful (wait, I can't end this post with that line, I will come back after five minutes and edit that line out!!!).


[video=youtube_share;5ka8mZy0TsA]http://youtu.be/5ka8mZy0TsA[/video]

 

[Kaycie]

I have been both pretty and pretty ugly, and I've seen the contrast of how people treat you accordingly. Yes it is a shallow world. I can honestly say that I've never had that problem, I treat people the same, and I'm not bitter if someone is more attractive than me. However, because marriage is a physical relationship, I do agree there has to be some attraction there, at least in the beginning. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I have been both pretty and pretty ugly, and I've seen the contrast of how people treat you accordingly. Yes it is a shallow world. I can honestly say that I've never had that problem, I treat people the same, and I'm not bitter if someone is more attractive than me. However, because marriage is a physical relationship, I do agree there has to be some attraction there, at least in the beginning. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Me too! Its amazing how different people treat you when you've got your looks going for you.

 

[IBDesmond]

I was gonna start a new thread but since mine have a tendency to attract certain people (mentioning no names), and then sooner or later they get closed....i'll just comment here but....

I have a question:
What's wrong with liking someone for their physical appearance? What's wrong with wanting to get to know someone because you like their physical appearance?


I'm just gonna place them two questions there before I say anything else.

 

[didymos]

I was gonna start a new thread but since mine have a tendency to attract certain people (mentioning no names), and then sooner or later they get closed....i'll just comment here but....

I have a question:
What's wrong with liking someone for their physical appearance? What's wrong with wanting to get to know someone because you like their physical appearance?...

Because

...the LORD does not look at the things people look at.
People look at the outward appearance,
but the LORD looks at the heart." (1 Sam 16:7 / NIV)


That's why the outward appearance doesn't matter that much to me,
although I'm absolutely GORGEOUS.

 

[IBDesmond]

That's true, but if outward appearance was insignificant, God wouldn't have made us so diversely in our aesthetic qualities.

 

[Lynx]

I am a great believer in learning from the mistakes of others. I have observed from others that if one chooses a partner based on outward appearance the end result is almost always bad. At this time I have not the data on hand for formulating a theory as to why this approach so often fails, but I can observe that it is a profitless approach and I can choose another selection method.

Professor Lynx' next lecture will be Tuesday at 10:00pm. =^.^=

 

[didymos]

That's true, but if outward appearance was insignificant, God wouldn't have made us so diversely in our aesthetic qualities.

What's important for God should be deduced from scripture, not from our own perception of the world. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

 

[IBDesmond]

I am a great believer in learning from the mistakes of others. I have observed from others that if one chooses a partner based on outward appearance the end result is almost always bad. At this time I have not the data on hand for formulating a theory as to why this approach so often fails, but I can observe that it is a profitless approach and I can choose another selection method.

Professor Lynx' next lecture will be Tuesday at 10:00pm. =^.^=

I agree whole heartedly. I just feel like people on CC think it's shallow to be attracted to someone or talk to someone because you're attracted to them. There's nothing wrong with that. HOWEVER, if you refuse to talk to because you don't find them attractive then yes...you're definitely shallow. AND, if you're only in a relationship with someone because you're physically attracted to them then that's wrong too. But for me, it's kind of a good place to start. Being physically attracted to someone is important to me because I'm a very visual guy. That's how God made me. Yes God looks at the heart of man but that doesn't mean that we can't have an appreciation for the physical appearance of someone. For example, in Isaiah, the prophecy of Jesus states that there was nothing about him that would attract us to him (Isaiah 53:2)...why? Because God knows that we would have been more inclined to follow a man who was a bit more "handsome". Also the bible tells us that when God restored Job's life, he gave him daughters who were the most beautiful in all the land. The bible didn't have to tell us that but since physical appearance has someone an importance to us, that's why I believe it is mentioned.

If you started talking to someone purely cos they're a smoking hottie, there's nothing wrong with that. But if you're only vibing with the cos they're hot and you're not connected on a deeper level, have nothing in common, nothing to talk about, etc etc and you only see them a trophy friend or a bit of eye-chipotle, then seriously reassess yourself

 

[thecreationtutor]

most "pretty" people, are crazy, babies, and just all around unpleasant once you actually get to know them

Not all, but the majority - find an average looking person that has good character

 

[ArtsieSteph]

"I noticed that pop culture lets girls that are pretty really demand a lot." Do you believe that? Because honestly at times I find myself believing it :/

 

[secularhermit]

As long as they think they are young or / and pretty... I´ve seen woman playing that way, forgetting time asked for its toll.

I needed a picture like this, few decades back:

 

[djness]

Because

...the LORD does not look at the things people look at.
People look at the outward appearance,
but the LORD looks at the heart." (1 Sam 16:7 / NIV)


That's why the outward appearance doesn't matter that much to me,
although I'm absolutely GORGEOUS.

If find this one example interesting because of the dozens of verses that point out the good looking chosen of the Lord.
Not really a stunner of an argument given how many beautiful people God picked to do his work.
The Beautiful People of the Bible | Dr. Claude Mariottini – Professor of Old Testament

Posted on March 2, 2012by Claude Mariottini​

In his study of 1 Samuel 25, “Ancestral Motifs in 1 Samuel 25: Intertextuality and Characterization,” Journal of Biblical Literature 121 (2002), p. 627, Mark E. Biddle wrote: “Hebrew narrative does not often describe people of either gender in terms of their physical beauty.”
Although narrative texts do not offer much detail about the physical characteristics of individuals, the biblical writers declare that several people were either beautiful, handsome, good-looking, and had other attributes that express human beauty.
This characterization of individuals is not unique to the Hebrew Bible. For instance, theEpic of Gilgamesh speaks of the “beauty of Gilgamesh” (VI:6). Zenobia, the Queen of the East,” who ruled in the ancient city of Palmyra, was know for her incredible beauty. Aphrodite was the Greek goddess of beauty.
Below is a list of the beautiful people of the Bible. The list, however, does not include much detail about the physical characteristics of the men and women who were called beautiful by the biblical writers. Maybe each one of these individuals should be studied in detail. This study would reveal that most of the beautiful people of the Bible were either kings, queens, or descendants of royalty.
These are the beautiful people of the Bible.
Women
Sarah
“When he was about to enter Egypt, he said to his wife Sarai, ‘I know well that you are a woman beautiful in appearance’” (Gen. 12:11).
Rachel
“Leah’s eyes were weak, but Rachel was beautiful and lovely” (Gen. 29:17).
Tamar, Absalom’s Sister
“David’s son Absalom had a beautiful sister whose name was Tamar” (2 Sam. 13:1).
Tamar, Absalom’s Daughter
“There were born to Absalom three sons, and one daughter whose name was Tamar; she was a beautiful woman” (2 Sam. 14:27).
Bathsheba
“It happened, late one afternoon, when David rose from his couch and was walking about on the roof of the king’s house, that he saw from the roof a woman [Bathsheba] bathing; the woman was very beautiful” (2 Sam. 11:2).
Abigail
“The man’s name was Nabal, and his wife’s name, Abigail. The woman was intelligent and beautiful” (1 Sam. 25:3).
Abishag the Shunammite
“So they searched for a beautiful girl throughout all the territory of Israel, and found Abishag the Shunammite, and brought her to the king” (1 Kings 1:3).
Vasti, Queen of Persia
“King Ahasuerus . . . commanded . . . the seven eunuchs who attended him to bring Queen Vashti before him with her royal crown. He wanted to show off her beauty to the people and the officials, because she was very beautiful” (Esth. 1:10-11).
Job’s Daughters
“In all the land there were no women so beautiful as Job’s daughters”(Job 42:15).
The Royal Princess (Jezebel? See here)
“Then the King will desire your beauty; Because He is your Lord, bow down to Him” (Psa. 45:11).
The Beloved
“I am black and beautiful, O daughters of Jerusalem, like the tents of Kedar, like the curtains of Solomon” (Song 1:5).
Esther
“Mordecai was the legal guardian of his cousin Hadassah (that is, Esther), because she didn’t have a father or mother. The young woman had a beautiful figure and was extremely good-looking” (Esth. 2:7).
Kings
Saul
“ [Kish] had a son whose name was Saul, a handsome young man. There was not a man among the people of Israel more handsome than he; he stood head and shoulders above everyone else” (1 Sam. 9:2).
David
“One of the attendants spoke up, ‘I have observed a son of Jesse the Bethlehemite who is skilled in music; he is a stalwart fellow and a warrior, sensible in speech, and handsome in appearance, and the LORD is with him’” (1 Sam. 16:18).
Ahab? (See here).
“You are the most handsome of men; grace is poured upon your lips; therefore God has blessed you forever” (Psa. 45:2).
The King of Tyre
“Son of man, lament for the king of Tyre and say to him: This is what the Lord GOD says: ‘You were the seal of perfection, full of wisdom and perfect in beauty’” (Ezek. 28:12).
The Messianic King
“Your eyes will see the king in his beauty” (Isa. 33:17).
Other Individuals
Moses
“Now a man from the family of Levi married a Levite woman. The woman became pregnant and gave birth to a son; when she saw that he [Moses] was beautiful, she hid him for three months” (Exod. 2:1-2).
Joseph
“Now Joseph was handsome and good-looking” (Gen. 39:6).
Eliab, David’s Brother
“But the LORD said to Samuel, ‘Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for the LORD does not see as mortals see; they look on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart’” (1 Sam. 16:7).
Absalom, David’s Son
“Now in all Israel there was no one to be praised so much for his beauty as Absalom; from the sole of his foot to the crown of his head there was no blemish in him” (2 Sam. 14:25).
Adonijah, David’s Son
“Neither did his father rebuke him at any time, saying: Why hast thou done this? And he also was very beautiful, the next in birth after Absalom” (1 Kings 1:6).
A brief survey of the beautiful people of the Bible will reveal that out of the twenty-two people mentioned in this list, fifteen of them are either directly or indirectly associated with the royal household. They are either kings or queens, or wives, sons, or daughters of kings

 

[djness]

I'm jealous of pretty people, I've constantly been passed over in life by the opposite sex because of it and now have grown into a person who does the same thing. I'm just a domino in the wreck.

I will say this thought about the whole beauty is in the eye of the beholder saying. I used to think that was something ugly people were told to be comforting. As the years have gone by and I have seen my friends marry women who i do not find attractive at all I have come to realize it is true and I am still single.

 

[justin777]

I feel like beautiful women tend to be arrogant I don't even know if it's wrong to think that because i've had so much experience with that being the case.

 

[ServantStrike]

"I noticed that pop culture lets girls that are pretty really demand a lot." Do you believe that? Because honestly at times I find myself believing it :/

I'd say there can be a propensity for both attractive men and women to get away with more than an average or unattractive counterpart might get away with. But it's mostly in social settings. Except in the entertainment industry - where appearance is 90 percent of the job, and other select industries where personal appearance is 70 percent of the job (think some types of sales work), in the working world people kind of have to perform sooner or later or it doesn't matter how good they look. So, you could end up with a candidate that gets hired but ends up being one of the first ones let go when times are lean.

This thread kind of confuses me though. I'd say that for a good 80 percent of us out there - and this is often a long, slow, painful road, but it's possible to change our appearance for the better.

It's not easy, but it's possible. Weight can be lost, hair cuts can be changed, diets can be changed (for acne and the like). I'm making some broad sweeping generalizations here, but I'm standing by them - a vast number of people have at least one or two things they can do to influence their appearance.

But none of that can take place if we're too busy focusing on other people. If you compare yourself to others, you're always going to come up short. Just work on being a better you and the confidence that follows change will show. People gravitate towards confidence.

And there are several women who have posted in here who I thought were good solid 7's and 9's. Not even sure what they're worried about at all. No really and truly - some of you have broken mirrors.


*shrug*