Are we guilty of becoming bitter towards "pretty people?"
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It would make sense that a Chris would like the post another Chris posted. I should start a thread opining about the rep point that got away. 
Wait no, scratch that. No, it's a terrible idea.
To be honest I'm glad it was well received. I tried to word it as pleasantly as possible because I knew a lot of people wouldn't like to hear the answer I gave - work on looking better.
There is a painful gulf between recognizing the problem and fixing it. And I know it very well myself as I'm overweight at the moment. It's been a year of heavy excercise and only now am I starting to see results (and the weight still hasn't come off, I'm just bulkier and some of the fat has turned to muscle). At a half a pound of weight loss a week (which is my ideal target), I'm still a full year away from looking really good without a shirt on, and two years away from looking as good as I possibly can. It's a decision I've made because I enjoy throwing around heavy weights more than I do starving the weight off faster. But I'm confident in my own skin and I know I actually look pretty good considering all the extra weight I carry around. It took a year though.
Wait no, scratch that. No, it's a terrible idea.
To be honest I'm glad it was well received. I tried to word it as pleasantly as possible because I knew a lot of people wouldn't like to hear the answer I gave - work on looking better.
There is a painful gulf between recognizing the problem and fixing it. And I know it very well myself as I'm overweight at the moment. It's been a year of heavy excercise and only now am I starting to see results (and the weight still hasn't come off, I'm just bulkier and some of the fat has turned to muscle). At a half a pound of weight loss a week (which is my ideal target), I'm still a full year away from looking really good without a shirt on, and two years away from looking as good as I possibly can. It's a decision I've made because I enjoy throwing around heavy weights more than I do starving the weight off faster. But I'm confident in my own skin and I know I actually look pretty good considering all the extra weight I carry around. It took a year though.
I've been waiting for you to chime in. My Daddy always told me, beauty is in the eye of the beer holder.
You told me that she was the greatest thing
That ever happened to a man.
You said this was it, she was the one,
And I'd still be in love when the morning comes,
But, Jack Daniel's, you lied to me again.
I used to count on old Jim Beam,
But he kept letting me down.
He'd line me up with a rodeo queen;
Next day, she'd be looking like a rodeo clown.
Jose Cuervo couldn't find me a beauty,
And Johnny Walker failed when he said he could.
Yeah, all of you fellows are real smooth talkers, but
Your eyesight's not too good."
OR
"I sobered up
And I been thinkin
Girl ya ain't much fun
Since I quit drinkin"
No, these are not in my music collection. >.> But the guys at work listen to country on the radio.
I disliked this one lady of my acquaintance, she was tan, blonde, and skinny. She looked like a model. While I wished I looked like her, I didn't dislike her because she was pretty. I disliked her because she was drama-prone and led on my best friend, and treated him like garbage. I may get jealous that I don't look like somebody, I never hate them for it. I do get annoyed when they use their looks for Dishonest and bad intentions.
I've been waiting for you to chime in. My Daddy always told me, beauty is in the eye of the beer holder.
I guess beer has an ingredient in it that helps regenerate and repair damaged optical nerves (yeah, that sounds clinical enough to deceive myself!!!).
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Beauty is perception. What is attractive to one, may not be attractive to someone else. I define beauty in many layers and measures. I have a very over weight friend who is loud, obnoxious and single. You would think she (by societies standards of "pretty") she would be single because she can't get a man who would look past her being overweight, loud and obnoxiousness. Fact is, she has had many dates and it has never been a problem for her to have men fall in love with her upbeat humor and deep perspective on life. She just has commitment issues. So, to me, it's beyond looks. In hindsight, it always will be.
Just my two cents. For what they're worth
Just my two cents. For what they're worth
Adorable anime characters... Japanese culture currently has a fascination with all things kawaii. Personally I think they should go back to a fascination with beauty and refinement, but it's their culture so whatever trips their trigger.
You're still young enough to get away with acting kawaii, but don't get in the habit. When you get older and you still have a habit of acting that way you'll be burikko, and nobody likes burikko.
You're still young enough to get away with acting kawaii, but don't get in the habit. When you get older and you still have a habit of acting that way you'll be burikko, and nobody likes burikko.
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Oh I know but she's hideous. A flame proof suit is needed to come within proximity of her (hey I have one of those, I'd better bury it before she gets any ideas)!
People have flaws, both inside and outside. In a serious relationship, those flaws might even be attractive. When two people finally let their guard down completely and just come out with what their flaws are, neither party is going to be perfect.
I mean, a lot of women end up with stretch marks and scars from having children. That's not a bad thing - they are a reminder of the children you had, and frankly it's just more to play with for a husband who really loves his wife. I've got a crap load of stretch marks from when I got really heavy. I still haven't lost all the weight yet, but even after I do, the only time anyone is going to see them is if I go swimming. And I'm only going swimming with a woman I'm really serious about because of it. If she runs for the hills, that's her problem, because it was meant to be a complement that I trusted her not to judge me for what happened in my past, but instead realize how I turned around my future.
Maybe I'm in one of my occasional bouts of idealistic fancy, but the fact is people age. No one looks good forever. If you cant learn to love an imperfect person, you're going to end up miserable, and probably alone. Blemishes indicate life experience, and life experience indicates a requisite level of increased maturity, and maturity is pretty hot.
As long as we're all working on our scars, I think the right person shoudln't be able to fault us for them, and they may even be to our credit. Wallow in them and they are unattractive. Embrace them and do what you can to change them and they are the marks that life left on you that you refused to let drag you down.
I would not have felt this way 6 months ago about all of this, but I've been working on my scars and praise Jesus, he's given me the confidence to get past them (with lots of really heavy weights).
People have flaws, both inside and outside. In a serious relationship, those flaws might even be attractive. When two people finally let their guard down completely and just come out with what their flaws are, neither party is going to be perfect.
I mean, a lot of women end up with stretch marks and scars from having children. That's not a bad thing - they are a reminder of the children you had, and frankly it's just more to play with for a husband who really loves his wife. I've got a crap load of stretch marks from when I got really heavy. I still haven't lost all the weight yet, but even after I do, the only time anyone is going to see them is if I go swimming. And I'm only going swimming with a woman I'm really serious about because of it. If she runs for the hills, that's her problem, because it was meant to be a complement that I trusted her not to judge me for what happened in my past, but instead realize how I turned around my future.
Maybe I'm in one of my occasional bouts of idealistic fancy, but the fact is people age. No one looks good forever. If you cant learn to love an imperfect person, you're going to end up miserable, and probably alone. Blemishes indicate life experience, and life experience indicates a requisite level of increased maturity, and maturity is pretty hot.
As long as we're all working on our scars, I think the right person shoudln't be able to fault us for them, and they may even be to our credit. Wallow in them and they are unattractive. Embrace them and do what you can to change them and they are the marks that life left on you that you refused to let drag you down.
I would not have felt this way 6 months ago about all of this, but I've been working on my scars and praise Jesus, he's given me the confidence to get past them (with lots of really heavy weights).
it make sense to me that we should look properly when facing other people when socializing, dealing, and "contirbuting for balance in our enviroment." I know that it is written also that we should wash our face when facing other people such as people around you. like this! and this, and this, and this!! i'm not saying you should turn yellow.
! and this, and this, and this!! i'm not saying you should turn yellow.