I think there are standards and then there are "stipulations". Standards are what we live our own lives with and also what we expect from each other. Things we hold ourselves and others up TO. "Stipulations" are things we hold each other up against. Then there are "preferences". *sigh* All I know is, is that if we hold ourselves accountable for our own actions, accept others for who they are and allow ourselves to grow and change as we become familair with reasons/changes that made others who and how they are, we should be able to get along. Standards are good....stipulations set people up---those who make them, and those the people who make them come in contact with---for a hard time of it.
MahogonySnail, while I find your list of reasons a person may not want to marry a virgin to be true reasons for a standard, I have to agree with Kay_Kay and say shame on you for calling Dread_Zepplin's comments on this, "stupid". We each have our opinions, and even when we don't agree with each other, we can be civil.
o.k. now I have to ask this......
Having been married for over 24 years, maybe I am just not "in touch" with the dating world anymore (thank God!!! hahaa) but....what do you guys/gals DO?? Ask each other if your virgins on the first date????? What I guess I am getting at is, is how do you write a person off from your even considering ever dating/marrying them based on this imformation, when you haven't even dated them yet?? And how do you know that once your dating, falling in love etc. that you couldn't ever "forgive" a past mistake such as drugs, sexual experience, etc......until you are in this situation?? Just food for thought....