Could you date a girl taller than you?

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AsifinPassing

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gypsygirl said:
i don't know why not. but ultimately, it depends upon the girl. and the guy. i'd have happily thrown out my "preferences" for someone who forced me to re-think/re-consider the ideal.

as a girl who's in the "taller" range (5'8") my first serious boyfriend was exactly my height, and i dated guys (briefly who were close to my own height. the problem i grew to have with guys around my height were their own issues and insecurities with it. for example, that boyfriend would always whine about my heels and heeled boots, which seemed so silly and petty.

as a side note, i think a guy who has the confidence to date a woman who is his height or even taller attractive. because i've come to believe that it's not usually the height issue that bothers the majority of women, it's the insecurity and other issues that accompany guys who are bothered by it and make it known.

also, i have had a couple girlfriends who were in the 6 foot range and i think they were a little more realistic about guys and height, seeing slight-ish differences as no big deal. in fact my 6'1" girlfriend married a guy who i think is a couple inches shorter than her.

finally, i've noticed that so much of this issue about height expectations is largely about their own security or other things that are highly personal. often, women look to men's heights as a reflection upon their own femininity. i've seen girls who are both short and taller than average allow this quality to shape their preferences. the more mature/secure the woman is, the less likely i would expect her to care about minor differences in height. it's a whole different story when you've got differentials of greater than 5-6% or so.
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So about these 6ftish friends of yours...



^_~ ...jk... ...mostly... =3
 
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I think I would want a taller guy than me, just because I want him to carry me inside the house when we first step in after marriage :rolleyes: but since I'm 5,3 I don't think that would be a difficult find. LOL
 
garet82

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If its become could you date a bit taller than you?
 
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mariaangelozzi

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AsifinPassing said:
So about these 6ftish friends of yours...



^_~ ...jk... ...mostly... =3
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Yes indeed it is a mans own insecurity. They feel they can not intimidate a taller woman and they them selves are very shallow and insecure with themselves. Love, like, or any other kind of feeling should not be based on the persons size it should be based on their heart, and all the wonderful qualities that they portray.
 
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NotmebutHim said:
One of my coworkers is a few inches taller than me. She's rather attractive too. But given the circumstances, I can't just walk up to her and ask her out. I just assume that she is married or otherwise taken.

Plus, office romances are kinda frowned upon and I don't want to go down that slippery slope............:)
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That's what makes it exciting. If she is not wearing a ring on her ring finger the odds are she's not married. Before asking her out you have to warm her up to the idea first.
 
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Mitspa

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mariaangelozzi said:
Yes indeed it is a mans own insecurity. They feel they can not intimidate a taller woman and they them selves are very shallow and insecure with themselves. Love, like, or any other kind of feeling should not be based on the persons size it should be based on their heart, and all the wonderful qualities that they portray.
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Could be part of the issue? But I think those that pretend appearance does not matter are not really being honest...do you? :)
 
mailmandan

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I'm 6' 3" tall, so that would be a very tall girl! Yikes! :eek:

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More often than not, men will not date a woman who is taller than him. It goes against the instinct that a man is bigger built thus he has to be taller in order to protect the family he has from incoming danger.

This shouldn't stop a person for going against the norm, however. If you're attracted to a woman who is taller then I'd say go for it. Many tall women feel like men more often reject them due to their height anyway - I say that since I'm one of those taller women.
 
mailmandan

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JustAnotherUser said:
More often than not, men will not date a woman who is taller than him. It goes against the instinct that a man is bigger built thus he has to be taller in order to protect the family he has from incoming danger.

This shouldn't stop a person for going against the norm, however. If you're attracted to a woman who is taller then I'd say go for it. Many tall women feel like men more often reject them due to their height anyway - I say that since I'm one of those taller women.
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My wife and I are friends with a married couple and he is 5' 10" tall and she is 6' 0." Love trumps height difference. ;)
 
Lynx

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JustAnotherUser said:
More often than not, men will not date a woman who is taller than him. It goes against the instinct that a man is bigger built thus he has to be taller in order to protect the family he has from incoming danger.

This shouldn't stop a person for going against the norm, however. If you're attracted to a woman who is taller then I'd say go for it. Many tall women feel like men more often reject them due to their height anyway - I say that since I'm one of those taller women.
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Eh? What dangers are incoming? At least... what dangers (that being taller could help with) are incoming? Being taller doesn't help with the mortgage or gossip against you or losing your job or...
 
JacobGilbert

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It would be hard for me to find a girl taller than me im 6'3 XD
 
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Lynx said:
Eh? What dangers are incoming? At least... what dangers (that being taller could help with) are incoming? Being taller doesn't help with the mortgage or gossip against you or losing your job or...
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As society evolved, it had more to do with invaders within tribes and older societies having more confrontation. Nowadays it's not so much the case, at least within western society. But the instinct is still within us that dates back from the centuries.
 
PopClick

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Yah, but wouldn't the guy just want to be taller/bigger/stronger than the danger? Not necessarily taller than the person he was trying to protect? Shoot, a strong girl could actually be of some use in a fight. It doesn't compute, to me.

I say this as someone who has no issues with her particular size. :p
 
Lynx

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JustAnotherUser said:
As society evolved, it had more to do with invaders within tribes and older societies having more confrontation. Nowadays it's not so much the case, at least within western society. But the instinct is still within us that dates back from the centuries.
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This could be the topic of an interesting discussion though. DO people still respond to instinct? Does instinct override logic? If so, in what cases?

However I personally disagree about instinct applying in this case. Why would I instinctively want a woman shorter than I?
 
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Lynx said:
This could be the topic of an interesting discussion though. DO people still respond to instinct? Does instinct override logic? If so, in what cases?

However I personally disagree about instinct applying in this case. Why would I instinctively want a woman shorter than I?
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It does to some extent. There has been standards that were universally common as to what guys find attractive in a woman as well as what women find attractive in a man so that they can strive to produce good offspring, which leads to the generations that strive human existence. While roles are different, it still holds onto some structure that helped shape the human existence as we know for it to be. There has always been exceptions, which I've never tried to refute.
 
mailmandan

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JacobGilbert said:
It would be hard for me to find a girl taller than me im 6'3 XD
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I hear you. I'm 6' 3" and one time I was standing in the check out line at Walmart and there were two young women (college age) in front of me and they were both the same height or slightly taller than me. It freaked me out a little bit but what really freaked me out was the size of their feet! I wear a size 12 shoe and they both had bigger feet than me!
 
Lynx

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JustAnotherUser said:
It does to some extent. There has been standards that were universally common as to what guys find attractive in a woman as well as what women find attractive in a man so that they can strive to produce good offspring, which leads to the generations that strive human existence. While roles are different, it still holds onto some structure that helped shape the human existence as we know for it to be. There has always been exceptions, which I've never tried to refute.
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Well I don't TRY to be an exception. It's not like I intentionally observe societal norms and deliberately go against them... I just do what I want and I wind up being an exception. :(
 
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