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Tinuviel said:
Correct me if I'm wrong ladies, but from what I've heard from women (and men!) women might not be as interested in online relationships? It is very hard for me to get involved with someone online, and I haven't even felt an interest in romance with someone online! From what I've heard from friends they've have similar feelings. For me, I think it is the lurking fear that they might not be who they say. Even when I know and trust someone, I still hesitate to really open up about myself online because...who knows?

That's just what I've seen and experienced, anyway :)
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I think this goes both ways. Both men and women can feel insecure about whether who they are talking about is really who they say they are.

But, it is possible for anyone to gain that trust. All about time and openness.
 
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I saw this thread earlier, so I went to the play store, and downloaded 6 different dating site apps. Not much going on there. 2 of the apps are for Christians. Christian mingle has got to be the worst. I have never looked at online dating since I've been married for 11 years.
If you're into obese women with tattoos everywhere, face piercings, and multiple children.......... go for it.
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My current gf has two children. My gf before that had one. Before that two. Before that three. Others I've dated have as well.
A number of my gf's have been heavier.
While not my personal taste there's nothing wrong with tats or piercings.
Many amazing women have one or more if these things you tried to label as negatives. Have to love the judgmental tone and putting people down for their tastes or things they may have no control over. Give my sympathies to your parents and wife.
 
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My current gf has two children. My gf before that had one. Before that two. Before that three. Others I've dated have as well.
A number of my gf's have been heavier.
While not my personal taste there's nothing wrong with tats or piercings.
Many amazing women have one or more if these things you tried to label as negatives. Have to love the judgmental tone and putting people down for their tastes or things they may have no control over. Give my sympathies to your parents and wife.
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Totally agree with this. We can't judge people by their past, especially while not even knowing why they are there. I mean I am a single father of three. I didn't choose this, but my ex abandoned us, just up and left all of us without a word. No contact sense beyond telling police to quit looking.

I am far from perfect, but what did I do to deserve that? What did my children do? We don't know what put people in the position they are in. Have nore grace and love like ugly says.

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Oh, I almost forgot. Try online mobile gaming apps, that's where my wife met the guy across country she has been having a long distance relationship with.
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Tommy. That stinks. I'll pray for you guys.
 
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Ugly said:
My current gf has two children. My gf before that had one. Before that two. Before that three. Others I've dated have as well.
A number of my gf's have been heavier.
While not my personal taste there's nothing wrong with tats or piercings.

Many amazing women have one or more if these things you tried to label as negatives. Have to love the judgmental tone and putting people down for their tastes or things they may have no control over. Give my sympathies to your parents and wife.
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I think he was joking... also, he said in the next post his wife is cheating via a online rela., so he may be a little raw.
 
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I will be blunt, I am sick of hearing people say this is not a dating site on here. Like what, are they scared of two people meeting each other?
Also, my good friends 38 year old daughter met a very nice Christian man last year on Christian mingle and they are getting married this summer.
Some people here have health or confidence issues or other emotional stuff going on and they are self talking themselves into scenarios that need not exist.
Last, so many people, shock of shocks - even Christians, are not always honest about their intentions. To many people that say they are not interested or never getting married again are not really being entirely truthful.
A lot of hurt and lonely people here, and so it does not seem I am singling out this site, all over the place too.
I am not excluding myself, so no thinks I am being overly critical. I have been there also.
 
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As far what a previous poster said about meeting with unattractive woman (I think he said it in a joking manner, btw) , when I was younger and single I was shallow, so I did not date any woman that looked like that.
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When I got older and was dating in between marriages, I purposely went against type and dated woman with many different looks, some of them way below average, and from many different cultures.

I pleasantly discovered that some of the most honest and genuine and "real" women that I dated were the ones who were below average regarding looks. In fact after that I generally shied away from more attractive woman as I concluded that more than a few of them had attitudes because of their great beauty. Which was a real turn off to me.
 
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The way that you guys talk about females is so outdated,I have yet to see any female intimidated or scared of anything,you would think that is a good thing and in most instances it would be a good thing but not in this instance.

Maybe your profile is the problem.

Do you want to meet LOTS and LOTS of females? List that you don't like commitment are very good at sex and have lots of money.

You will have them chasing you in droves.
 
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You shouldn't need a dating sight anyways,in today's world there is NEVER a time when a single female ISN'T looking for some new "fun".
 
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imfinallyfree said:
You shouldn't need a dating sight anyways,in today's world there is NEVER a time when a single female ISN'T looking for some new "fun".
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what?

what God loving man would waste his time with a female looking for "new fun"?

maybe im hearing you wrong

but the type of female youre talkin about

doesnt sound christian
 
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imfinallyfree said:
The way that you guys talk about females is so outdated,I have yet to see any female intimidated or scared of anything,you would think that is a good thing and in most instances it would be a good thing but not in this instance.

Maybe your profile is the problem.

Do you want to meet LOTS and LOTS of females? List that you don't like commitment are very good at sex and have lots of money.

You will have them chasing you in droves.
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Hmmm...it sounds like you've been hurt before...maybe someone did something that caused you to feel/think like this...I don't have much to say but don't spend your time looking back or nurturing this kind of hurt... keep moving forward because if we put a wall in front of us and never allow ourselves to be opened up in any possibility we will lose out the opportunity to find someone that will genuinely care for us... :)

God bless you.
 
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imfinallyfree said:
You shouldn't need a dating sight anyways,in today's world there is NEVER a time when a single female ISN'T looking for some new "fun".
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Speaking of poor views of women. See it's guys with this kind of attitude we virtuous christian women are trying to avoid, because we know they'll end up viewing us as entertainment or a product that exists to serve them. It's not fear, it's a self respect that says... "Ain't nobody got time for that".
 
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loneman said:
THIS IS NOT A DATING SITE THOUGH!
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tourist said:
That's just your own personal opinion.
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Gotta side with loneman on this one. CC (specifically CC singles) is not a dating site and we want to keep it that way. But let's define some terms here.

A dating site is a site specifically set up and designed to connect individuals romantically; it may be structured similarly to other social media sites ( I assume based on what I've heard) but the questions, the information given, and the attitude of the people using that site is focused solely on finding someone to have a romantic (and often quickly sexual, especially if we're talking not christian sites) relationship with. People don't go on dating sites to just make friends.

CC by contrast is a much broader community and we're primarily focused on discussions, socialization, and camaraderie. Many of us want to keep the broadness and the fellowship in our forum. I think Lynx has come up with the best "not a dating site" stock response which is that people do meet and start dating here, but usually those relationships are born out of being part of the community, not out of coming here specifically looking for a date. So yes dating may happen, but no this is not a dating site.

That's not opinion, that's the way people think and define things (at least I think it is, someone do correct me if I'm showing my ultra logical freakishness again?).
 
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There must no decent dating sites out there anymore! Christian or other wise. I'm on a few and the only replies I get are from scammers! Where have all the Christian Ladies gone?
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So my question isn't what Christian Single Sites, or even CC in relationship to dating on this site represents. But rather who you are in relationship to God and dating. Let's face it: Here at CC, whether it is a dating site option or not, if one chose to pm respectfully; and that other party also chose to pm back respectfully and so on and so forth, ill-regardless of its rules or intentions two people just became friends; Biblical standards not withstanding.

But what I would ask you in this process of other Christian sites etc is are you becoming the man the ladies are praying for and posting on their threads entitled: "Dating Sites," while saying things on it like, "So, why ladies, are there no real godly men on Dating Sites these days?"

Are you anxious about this issue? Are you asking, seeking, and knocking on God's door about this for your life? Are you exercising your sensitivity to the intuition of your spirit to receive the answers given by the Holy Spirit when He is ready to establish your steps concerning dating and a relationship with another?

Hey, if you are on a hunt for woman. It won't work anyway regardless of the tendencies of the Site.. If you are on the Hunt for Christian woman it won't work either. But if you are in the practice of being the man God wants you to be for her sake, I believe God won't hold woman back from noticing.

I personally wouldn't worry about Christian Single Sites if your mentality is, "Got to get me some fellowship wit dat sweet thing." Now, don't get me wrong, you may have absolutely no connection to that mentality, but as a general rule is what I am saying.

I would just worry about being right with God, and show His demeanor in you with that women, and all these other things will be given you.Whether you meet In Churches, in parks, at work places, in any place on the planet actually, even Christian sites.

There will always be non-Christians in Christian labelled places,(Hmmm - :rolleyes: right?!) so don't sweat it, just look for the one who is practicing being the woman a godly-man is looking for and if you have been doing the reverse order of the same thing, you will be like magnets connecting from afar. Maybe not as far as another country, but within the same room at least, unless you are writing or texting or etc etc (too many secular systems to include there)...Smile. So, be anxious about nothing and know God will provide as you live first for Him. Try places you enjoy going to - period, not even labelled a Single Site at all, the right one usually shows up when you least expect it, in a place you least planned for.

 
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Please excuse me for being abrasive,I was just saying that in today's world most females go about their everyday life with the mindset of looking for someone new.

They do this for decades so I mean come on,there has to be reasoning behind it....as flawed as it is.
 
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I'd like to meet one of these virtuous Christian women that you speak of,even in the Christian dating sites you'll find the same females that are in many other sites.
 
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imfinallyfree said:
Please excuse me for being abrasive,I was just saying that in today's world most females go about their everyday life with the mindset of looking for someone new.

They do this for decades so I mean come on,there has to be reasoning behind it....as flawed as it is.
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well ya

pretty much everyone
male and female alike

are untrustworthy in every matter when they dont follow Jesus
 
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No it's not that.

I just have the ability of logic reasoning,my reasoning tells me that the eventual extinction of God's greatest creation (us) has got to be a bad thing.

Think logically....what is going to happen to ANY mammal species when the female half of that species consciously decides to stop procreation because it's no fun? What with the responsibility and whatnot.
 
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hahaha


may God bless you
 
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