Deal breaker, besides other then not being a Christian.
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true, but since the humans participating in this union has their own baggages, history, circumstances, weaknesses, strengths, etc, the "path" towards "Christ-like" becomes very unique for each individual. thus, it also takes another unique individual to fit the "jigsaw puzzle" that we are as individuals. this is where our "criteria" came from.
even "shallow" criteria that most people "judge" or frown upon like he must be muscular, at least 7 feet tall, her skin must be white and smooth, unblemished, or be curvaceous with cup D, etc, that's also the unique qualities that must be addressed.
many people believe that these "shallow" qualities as sinful and ignore these completely thinking that these will go away. truth is, it's not gonna go away, and instead becomes an opening for satan to tempt you. if you address all the criteria, including the "shallow" ones before getting married, choosing the one that will make you happy, no matter how "shallow" the criteria is, you have covered your openings, and satan would have that much more difficult time to successfully tempt you.
even "shallow" criteria that most people "judge" or frown upon like he must be muscular, at least 7 feet tall, her skin must be white and smooth, unblemished, or be curvaceous with cup D, etc, that's also the unique qualities that must be addressed.
many people believe that these "shallow" qualities as sinful and ignore these completely thinking that these will go away. truth is, it's not gonna go away, and instead becomes an opening for satan to tempt you. if you address all the criteria, including the "shallow" ones before getting married, choosing the one that will make you happy, no matter how "shallow" the criteria is, you have covered your openings, and satan would have that much more difficult time to successfully tempt you.
Ok first off idk why you would want a D cup js., second no its not im not saying its sinful at all it's not i don't think but it is selfish and i get what you're saying but i think it's incorrect we need someone to feel those spaces for us specifically yes but only in the areas we have to have them in because the Lord wont give us more then we handle. But we need them to fir in those areas where we disagree with their life when it comes to things like hobbies or whatevs because it sanctifies us. And God will make you love that person that's the point he will give you someone who YOU WILL love butt they are gonna fail in the areas you most wanted them to be good in so you learn to love people regardless of their circumstances or whatevs. Now everything won't suck to you i want to stress that you're gonna be attracted to them somehow he will make them for you but dont have "deal breakers" other then Christian yea prefering a D cup is ok or whatevs (if you like that for some reason) ,please dont get mad at me im just joking i dont want to get death threats because i dont like D cups women are dangerous, but you have to understand most of that stuff is simply just selfish and God doesn't want you to be that way and that includes me there are thing's that i want and don't want in a wife im just not expecting her to reaxh all of my expectations because that's not how God does things and im prepared to deal with things i disagree with so I'm not gonna put my standards OVER 9000! Nah im gonna have some preferences and she has to be Christian because not getting with anyone because they dont have the biggest bust is just stupid lol (or the smallest whatever you like ig, maybe cutting boards are your thing).
no, I did not mean I want the D cup, it's just an example of the "shallow" criteria that I'm sure many guys have. and maybe it's E or F? not sure, just randomly picked an alphabet for the cup, hahaha. and I'm also not saying that you yourself think it's sinful. what I said in my post was many people find it sinful, not you specifically.
you're saying it's selfish? absolutely. we're dealing with humans here. at the end of the day, every human is selfish. I'll even argue that God is selfish, right? the criteria to enter HIS kingdom is this and that and some of those. but..but..but.. how about if it's like this, surely there's some room for negotiation....NO, MY kingdom, MY rules......well, you get the idea.
what I believe how it works is God will make you meet many people, you decide whom you want. lets say you meet person A, but, say she's B cup (hahaha, again, just an example), now, you have to know your own self, is this just a "oh, whatever" miss on your criteria, or do you think it's enough to annoy you that it's possible it will make you "regret" choosing her. if it's the latter, better pass her and wait for the next one. but the key here is, if you reject, it's not you're gonna be alone forever, but you'll need to wait longer. so, whether it's a deal breaker or not, you'll need to ask yourself.
as for me, the deal breaker is not virgin anymore (other than not a christian). D cup would be nice though...
you're saying it's selfish? absolutely. we're dealing with humans here. at the end of the day, every human is selfish. I'll even argue that God is selfish, right? the criteria to enter HIS kingdom is this and that and some of those. but..but..but.. how about if it's like this, surely there's some room for negotiation....NO, MY kingdom, MY rules......well, you get the idea.
what I believe how it works is God will make you meet many people, you decide whom you want. lets say you meet person A, but, say she's B cup (hahaha, again, just an example), now, you have to know your own self, is this just a "oh, whatever" miss on your criteria, or do you think it's enough to annoy you that it's possible it will make you "regret" choosing her. if it's the latter, better pass her and wait for the next one. but the key here is, if you reject, it's not you're gonna be alone forever, but you'll need to wait longer. so, whether it's a deal breaker or not, you'll need to ask yourself.
as for me, the deal breaker is not virgin anymore (other than not a christian). D cup would be nice though...
no, I did not mean I want the D cup, it's just an example of the "shallow" criteria that I'm sure many guys have. and maybe it's E or F? not sure, just randomly picked an alphabet for the cup, hahaha. and I'm also not saying that you yourself think it's sinful. what I said in my post was many people find it sinful, not you specifically.
you're saying it's selfish? absolutely. we're dealing with humans here. at the end of the day, every human is selfish. I'll even argue that God is selfish, right? the criteria to enter HIS kingdom is this and that and some of those. but..but..but.. how about if it's like this, surely there's some room for negotiation....NO, MY kingdom, MY rules......well, you get the idea.
what I believe how it works is God will make you meet many people, you decide whom you want. lets say you meet person A, but, say she's B cup (hahaha, again, just an example), now, you have to know your own self, is this just a "oh, whatever" miss on your criteria, or do you think it's enough to annoy you that it's possible it will make you "regret" choosing her. if it's the latter, better pass her and wait for the next one. but the key here is, if you reject, it's not you're gonna be alone forever, but you'll need to wait longer. so, whether it's a deal breaker or not, you'll need to ask yourself.
as for me, the deal breaker is not virgin anymore (other than not a christian). D cup would be nice though...
you're saying it's selfish? absolutely. we're dealing with humans here. at the end of the day, every human is selfish. I'll even argue that God is selfish, right? the criteria to enter HIS kingdom is this and that and some of those. but..but..but.. how about if it's like this, surely there's some room for negotiation....NO, MY kingdom, MY rules......well, you get the idea.
what I believe how it works is God will make you meet many people, you decide whom you want. lets say you meet person A, but, say she's B cup (hahaha, again, just an example), now, you have to know your own self, is this just a "oh, whatever" miss on your criteria, or do you think it's enough to annoy you that it's possible it will make you "regret" choosing her. if it's the latter, better pass her and wait for the next one. but the key here is, if you reject, it's not you're gonna be alone forever, but you'll need to wait longer. so, whether it's a deal breaker or not, you'll need to ask yourself.
as for me, the deal breaker is not virgin anymore (other than not a christian). D cup would be nice though...
- smoking/drugs/snuff/daily-weekend drinker (just a turn off)
- lack of hygiene
- dislikes and/or mistreats animals
- constantly negative
- controlling (goes hand-in-hand with insecure)
- moves too fast
- consistent at not sticking to their word (repeatedly telling you they are going to do something but doesn't or always breaking plans without contact)
- lying
- insecure (has to be reassured all the time - is needy/clingy)
- a "Sunday Christian" (goes to Sunday service/worship but doesn't live for the LORD)
- manipulator
- lack of hygiene
- dislikes and/or mistreats animals
- constantly negative
- controlling (goes hand-in-hand with insecure)
- moves too fast
- consistent at not sticking to their word (repeatedly telling you they are going to do something but doesn't or always breaking plans without contact)
- lying
- insecure (has to be reassured all the time - is needy/clingy)
- a "Sunday Christian" (goes to Sunday service/worship but doesn't live for the LORD)
- manipulator
