Deal breaker, besides other then not being a Christian.

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Your list makes me think you've been on "plenty of fish."
Haven't been on there myself, but I've dated or attempted to date people who were. My last couple relationships the only real lesson I learned is "YOU NEED TO BE WITH A CHRISTIAN". A real one, not the I have been indoctrinated since childhood but don't really understand it or have real faith that supersedes their worldly beliefs.

But rather than be alone I attempt a relationship with the unbelievers, because I was an unbeliever and it didn't seem to make me a bad person unfit for a relationships, I never cheated and wanted a wholesome family life. I guess at my age I have to accept if they haven't become a Christian by now the spirit isn't so strong in them.
 

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Not liking ponytails duhh

Not liking food

Not wanting to get fit (WE ARE GONNA EXERCISE)

Not being tsundere

No fr though uhhh other then obvious Christian stuff idk i mean those things up there are like preferences (ill make you exercise...) but deal breakers are hard marriage is about unconditional love so kinda hard to make a deal breaker and still love her. Unless its against the word obviously then no... Just no. God uses your deal breakers to make you love people more and be more like Christ so hey maybe you want girl who lovesss anime but God makes your wife the exact opposite so you can lobe her through the crap you dont like about her its for sanctification not just happiness. So why even think of deal breakers? He's totally gonna give you a spouse that drives you crazy in areas you most wanted them to please you or whatevs but you'll be in love so you'll learn to love her through it unless your a chick then him. So deal breaker people let it go God ain't gonna give you a tsundere short girl who loves to eat and has a six pack xD.
 

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some of you must have heaps of dating options to have lists, some of us live in areas with almost no christians, so it seems laughable to me to actually have any dealbreaker besides being a true christian, that already wipes about about 90% of potential single population.
 

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some of you must have heaps of dating options to have lists, some of us live in areas with almost no christians, so it seems laughable to me to actually have any dealbreaker besides being a true christian, that already wipes about about 90% of potential single population.
Lol truuu id say more like 95% tbh then you still have to factor in age, practical stuff, location, gender (for guys its probably easier), and most importantly Gods will so by the time your done finding a wife, im a dude, isn't the easiest thing if i just started looking for one but regardless i still have standards i just don't expecf someone who i like in the most important areas because i dont think thats God's will anyway so I'm just gonna chill and wait for my spouse, if i ever get one, its not like ill die without one its not that deep.
 
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not a virgin. that's definitely a deal breaker (provided you yourself is still a virgin, otherwise, it;s just too hypocritical)
 

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A smoker can say au revoir
I'm speaking for me only, while yes a Christian is good, I don't want that over the top old school type christian who believes stepping on earth is a sin, you guys know what I'm talking about. I can't handle that, we would clash on the first day
I'm okay with being feisty, and having some fierce fire inside them but I can't stand rude girls, you know "mean girls". I hate bullies and hate just being mean to someone for no reason
 

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Obviously if a girl says "hi I was born a man", yeah I'm out of there faster than Barry Allen
I honestly don't like girls with short hair, just my preference
A girly girl who criticizes and puts down everything I like, for example Video Games, anime, comic books
If a girl says "you have to chose me or watching that Football game" I hate ultimatums so shes out
 

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A smoker can say au revoir
I'm speaking for me only, while yes a Christian is good, I don't want that over the top old school type christian who believes stepping on earth is a sin, you guys know what I'm talking about. I can't handle that, we would clash on the first day
I'm okay with being feisty, and having some fierce fire inside them but I can't stand rude girls, you know "mean girls". I hate bullies and hate just being mean to someone for no reason
But mean people are greattttt xD idk i wouldn't say mean is attractive more intimidating really but kinda mean? Idk how to explain stuff I'm failing in words.
 

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I guess there are different areas like personality, behaviours and attitudes. If they really live their faith then being rude, uncaring, self absorbed, negative, ungrateful and hateful shouldn't be there. I find people who find a problem for every solution very tiring. Self pitying yet unmerciful people drain the life out of me. We have so much to be grateful for despite how difficult life can be, so those who refuse to see their blessings and live to complain are not for me.
I'm allergic to cigarette smoke so that is out. I love humour and need laughter in my life. It is a great way to get perspective. A sense of humour and fun is necessary. Someone who can't be emotionally connected and withholds approval as a means of control is a no go. Hygiene is a must. I accept flaws but intentional acts to "even the score" or intentional pay back is ugly and a deal breaker. It kills trust. Lastly there has to be respect and a desire to care for each other rather than have a power battle. Bottom line is that their faith has to be real. If it is then we share the same values.
 

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Would you feel the same about someone who didn't have a choice in that? Many women have been through experiences not of their own choosing.
 

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The Bible says “outside are the dogs”. I believe animals should not live inside. I’ve experienced from other people’s pets- fleas, hair everywhere, druel, muddy paw prints, poop, pee, worms, vomit, bites, scratched and torn furniture, and watched them spend hundreds of dollars on shots, pet food, etc. and them treating them like they are more important than human beings. I seriously will not live like that. I will also not put up with smoke, drunkenness, easily angered, abusive, loud music, or eating raw / undercooked meat.



 

Yeraza_Bats

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The Bible says “outside are the dogs”. I believe animals should not live inside. I’ve experienced from other people’s pets- fleas, hair everywhere, druel, muddy paw prints, poop, pee, worms, vomit, bites, scratched and torn furniture, and watched them spend hundreds of dollars on shots, pet food, etc. and them treating them like they are more important than human beings. I seriously will not live like that. I will also not put up with smoke, drunkenness, easily angered, abusive, loud music, or eating raw / undercooked meat.
Can you show where the Bible says that?
 

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The Bible says “outside are the dogs”. I believe animals should not live inside. I’ve experienced from other people’s pets- fleas, hair everywhere, druel, muddy paw prints, poop, pee, worms, vomit, bites, scratched and torn furniture, and watched them spend hundreds of dollars on shots, pet food, etc. and them treating them like they are more important than human beings. I seriously will not live like that. I will also not put up with smoke, drunkenness, easily angered, abusive, loud music, or eating raw / undercooked meat.



Yeah, people who treat animals like humans, or better, have some kind of mental problem. I see dating site profiles for womwn who call themselves dog mammas.... pass.
Good luck with the rest of your demands, raw meat is awesome, and every man knows it.
 
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I will also not put up with smoke, drunkenness, easily angered, abusive, loud music, or eating raw / undercooked meat.
I think this is personal preference as I believe there's no such restriction in the bible (or is there?)
sushi is quite good, some people, me included like to eat steak medium rare
 

Tommy379

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I think this is personal preference as I believe there's no such restriction in the bible (or is there?)
sushi is quite good, some people, me included like to eat steak medium rare
Cooking it just takes all the nutritional value out of it.