Do men have a issue marrying "up"? I.e., woman better educated then them & w/ higher

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JosephsDreams

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My sister is 11 years younger then me, so she is not even close to the last years of the upper end ages in the study. Still about 20 years ago she divorced her husband mainly because he had no ambition.
 
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JosephsDreams said:
My sister is 11 years younger then me, so she is not even close to the last years of the upper end ages in the study. Still about 20 years ago she divorced her husband mainly because he had no ambition.
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I suppose she chose what is more important . God or world.
 
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Is divorcing your spouse being obedient to God?
 
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Do you have a link to that study, JosephsDreams?

I ask because the description in the original post makes it sound like the question isn't really whether men have issues with marrying up..im curious to see what the survey entails.
 
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JosephsDreams said:
My sister is 11 years younger then me, so she is not even close to the last years of the upper end ages in the study. Still about 20 years ago she divorced her husband mainly because he had no ambition.
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Thats really sad. I hope that whoever I end up with (if I do) would love me for me, and not conditionally.

I can understand providing for each other, but not being "enough" for someone isnt a good reason to divorce someone you promised to be with for the rest of your life imo. I dont see the difference between this and divorcing a woman cuz shes just not as attractive as she used to be.
 
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Amberlight said:
I suppose she chose what is more important . God or world.
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Yeah, she was not saved then and is still not now.
We keep praying...
 
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Hellooo said:
Do you have a link to that study, JosephsDreams?

I ask because the description in the original post makes it sound like the question isn't really whether men have issues with marrying up..im curious to see what the survey entails.
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Let me see if I can find it. You can look too. Try NY Times, woman staying single due to shortage of educated me
 
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I married up but things are starting to even up. An ideal marriage is not necessarily 50-50. It can be 60-40, 70-30, 80-90 etc. Our marriage started out at about 65-35 in her favor but now I would say that it's narrowed to 52-48. I would rate my 11 year marriage to my late wife at 95-5 due to her severe declining health and her adult son who seemed incapable of holding a job and I had to support. Even so, I do not regret marrying her because I knew the personal cost to myself if I were to marry her and accepted it. It must've been love. But it's over now.
 
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JosephsDreams said:
Can't say I agree with sentence numbers 6 and 10.

In general, men and women, it seems higher education levels leads to increased separation from God. Ego? Pride? Irrational rationalization?
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I don’t think so. I think that is the perception by the masses. At my secular university, there were many professors who were atheists or agnostics. There were also professors who were Christians. My geology professor was quite brilliant and a Christian. She was an old Earth Creationist. At the time, I had become an atheist as science clearly points to an old Earth and micro evolution. Learning from her, I was able to find out how to square science with faith.

Einstein was a theist. CS Lewis was a Christian, there have been others.

I have seen enough in my life to know that women who are not so bright are considered more attractive than women who are too clever for their own good. “Men don’t make passes at girls with glasses.”- Dorothy Parker
 
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[h=1]Men are now ‘marrying up’ more than women: study[/h]Men are now ‘marrying up’ more than women: study
BY Joe Dziemianowicz
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS
Monday, August 28, 2017, 2:06 PM

[h=2]“The pattern of marriage and its economic consequences have changed over time," says the co-author of a provocative new study.[/h] (aldomurillo/Getty Images/iStockphoto)
BY Joe Dziemianowicz
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS

Monday, August 28, 2017, 2:06 PM
Look who’s social climbing.
Men are now “marrying up” more than women due to significant increases in highly educated — and paid — females. That’s the gender-upending finding of University of Kansas sociologist ChangHwan Kim.
“The pattern of marriage and its economic consequences have changed over time,” said Kim, who specializes in such subjects as social stratification. “Now women are more likely to get married to a less-educated man.”
The research, published in the journal Demography, is based on U.S. Census data from 1990 and 2000 and the 2009-11 American Community Survey. Kim and co-author Arthur Sakamoto, of Texas A&M University, focused on education and earnings of people 35-44 years of age.


They found that the number of highly educated unmarried women exceeds the number of single men in the same boat. Consequently, women are more likely to be married to a less-educated man — and earning a higher income than him.
When it comes to wives bringing home more bacon, Kim notes that “men don’t complain a lot about this.”
That’s because, he added, the actual quality of life is determined by “family income rather than by personal earnings. It seems fine for men because their wife is now bringing more income to the household.”
This shift in hypergamy — wedding someone from a higher social strata — illuminates a change in the marital tie that binds.
“Marriage is now becoming more egalitarian and becoming equal,” Kim said. “If you look at gender dynamics or from a marriage-equality standpoint, that is a really good sign.”
 
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Intellect is in my top 3. I like glasses and masters.
 
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