it gets hard, some of us live in places with very few christians, it severely narrows your dating options if you are limited to who goes to your church, or even christian dating sites i've looked on have <10 women within my age range and location.
I have met some very nice non-christian women who have expressed interest that I have had to turn down and it was incredibly hard after being single for so long. I would have been in a relationship years ago if I had not limited my options to christians.
i'm almost 35, I don't know how much longer I can try and remain chaste when I see no one else around me bothering too.