thanks for your post.
i didn't intend to condemn anyone for this, and i'm sorry if you feel condemned by my words. what i did hope to do is provide a bit of a spotlight on the topic, and perhaps some dialogue, since i witness this quite a bit.
you know, while i may sound like i've got it together enough to observe or complain about this, the truth is, i've dealt with issues related to perfection and self-criticism for the majority of my life. however, through God, i have overcome my own shackles of abuse and ugly history as well as much of my issues with insecurity
so i know a little bit about what i write, from both perspectives. and i see the people i'm talking about with acceptance not judgment.
i really do believe that much of this behavior is about being self critical, even having a negative thought life in which we can tend to overly focus on our insecurities.
for some people, the negative self-ridicule is not even realistic, but negativity gauged on an impossible scale. to give you an example--i'm talking about the average-sized women who are constantly referring to themselves as fat. or guys that are great catches walking around saying, "no woman will love me because i'm too nice".
whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, that's self-shaming behavior that has no place in the mind or heart of a Child of God.
as to the rest of the stuff, even if your assessments are accurate, focusing so much on the negative often leaves people with that being their primary, even lasting impression of who they are. as a christian, i think that leading with our negatives can be at the expense of leading with the joy, peace and confidence we have in Christ.
i'm not saying be dishonest, puff yourself up, or put up a front. but be prepared to show the image of who we are: purchased with the blood of a crucified savior, forgiven, loved before we loved Him, fearfully and wonderfully made, and the list goes on and on.
i think we need to aspire to live worthy of our redemption and calling, in thought, word, and deed.