Dressing Modestly

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AsifinPassing

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I've seen forums like this about modesty for years now, and eve ranted in one or two...but...NOW...I have seen beyond the problem to find an answer!! Are you ready?

Just move somewhere that is EXTREMELY cold!! Everyone will have to be bundled up to keep from hypothermia, frost bite, etc...

Any lust issues past that are yours to deal with...

Now that we've solved this mystery, let's turn to discussion on clean, sustainable energy... *flips papers at table*
 
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adekruif

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Are you ready?

Just move somewhere that is EXTREMELY cold!! Everyone will have to be bundled up to keep from hypothermia, frost bite, etc...

Not always, I've seen kids wear flip flops and shorts outside when the temperature was hovering around 0 Degrees F. 0_o <--- No joke.
 

Fenner

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Laffin' my buns off..ummm..for some reason Fenner,I can't ever imagine you w/out common sense...least of all showin' off yer' buns like that. Yer' too cool for school to do something so silly. :cool:

P.S. even though I'm not a fan of Wal-Mart,I still am a fan of you! (does that sound creepy? lol...'cause it was meant to be nice,not creepy)

That's very nice thank you. I'm a fan of you too. It's the mutual admiration society. I wouldn't let a hint of a bun hang out, that's nasty. If you have to show skin move to a nudist colony or some places in Europe.
 
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hopelovely

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we should have a open heart to all kind's of people Love is the Key :)
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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That's very nice thank you. I'm a fan of you too. It's the mutual admiration society. I wouldn't let a hint of a bun hang out, that's nasty. If you have to show skin move to a nudist colony or some places in Europe.
*packs bags,books airline ticket...er...HEY! wait a second....Yer' not gettin' rid of me that easy. :p
 
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Arlene89

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I used to be the girl who went to church, provocatively dressed and darting towards the single men with a spring in my step. At that point I had just come back to Christ, but still carried some old heart issues that caused me to continue being that way. I was well aware of the affect I had on men, I was well aware of what I was doing. At that season in my life my heart was still holding on to the ideas and thought processes of the world and I let lust rule my life. When I dressed myself with revealing tops and short skirts, I felt equipped and had some sense of power and control. The control made me feel comfortable, which made me feel beautiful.

Now, looking back, I am so glad that I did not enter into a relationship at that point. I had so much maturing to do, and my heart wasn't ready to be faithful to any man. It took a loving and godly friend to point out what I was doing and it hurt her to point this out. She worried that she hurt me and she fasted and prayed that I would see my true value. She wanted to see me free from the bondage I was in. I was so adamant that I was an object, I failed to even think I was a gift, a worthy mystery for someone to solve. My body was constantly revealed to all, but I never thought that it could be an undiscovered territory for someone to travel their fingertips along, or that my body was a map of scars and imperfections someone would one day come to know like the back of their hand. I never though that to understand and know me (in a physical sense) is an adventure. The feelings of unworthiness and 'cheapness' were evident in the way I dressed. This may not be the case for every woman, but it was very true to me.

I was a stumbling block to many men in my old church. Not all men will be affected by a women who dress in a matter that is revealing, but it is the case for most. Studies confirm that men are very visual and that certain images would run through their mind several times without them even knowing it. Why bother being a stumbling block? Why cause your brother or sister in Christ to fall? Because 'society says this...'? The old me was proud and would regurgitate feminist arguments until I was blue in the face, but now, the new me, wants to oppose the ideas the world has blinded me with for so long.

I think its about time we stood tall and created a counter-culture to the world. We are meant to stand out. We are meant to be set apart. We are meant to arouse the curiosity of non-believers and to set a standard. I've had enough of the ideas and perception that this world raises on some holy pedestal. Its about time we raised our eyes up to God and to return to His word, the bible has to say so much about how we dress and how we are to be conducted around and with fellow Christians. We need to stop blending bible and world views until it suits us. When you take in the Word and obey it, you will be surprised how much law and loving boundaries sets you free.

I now wear clothes that do not go above the knee. I wear singlets under tops that have low cuts. Finally, finally I feel beautiful because I am saving my physical body for my future husband. My body will be a gift for him to gaze upon and to enjoy. I am not worried whether I am a stumbling block to others, I don't constantly worry about what I am revealing therefore I am so completely comfortable.

Just to confirm, I don't judge women who wear dresses where the neckline meets the hem line of the dress. How can I judge when I did the exact same thing? But I so want people to break free from that because I remember what it was like to be that person. So CW, if I were you, I'd pray for that girl to have a revelation about her self worth and who she is in Christ. I would also like to encourage you to pray whether she is the right one for you. You can do what I did, which was be your own God and look for your future spouse or girlfriend through your own strength and based on you own ideals, or you can allow God to bring forth that someone that would support, compliment and lovingly be there for you in a way that glorifies God and honours you.

-Arlene
 
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Arlene, your post was so well-written and really gives us a better understanding (and compassion) for girls who struggle with this. If we can look at girls with modesty issues as people who need to understand their WORTH in God's kingdom (which is really the underlying problem) how can we not offer them love?

I am thankful that your friend approached you in love and care when speaking to you of these things. I myself can be so quick to judge, and not see the sense of of needing control or power to feel beautiful underneath. Your words have helped me. Thank you for sharing this testimony.
 
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Arlene89

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Thank you, Grace-Like-Rain and for everyone else's encouragement! I am so immensely blessed to have that girl I mentioned as my best friend. When she brought the topic up about my clothes, it was very hard to swallow. But she lovingly encouraged me and spent a whole night reading scripture to me about who I was in Christ. I felt like the veil was being lifted from my eyes just hearing the Word spoken to me and over me.

Literally, a day or two later, I got rid of 2/3 of my wardrobe. I must have thrown out several hundred dollars worth of clothes. Two weeks later I was blessed with a permanent, well-paid job and had my wardrobe full again within 2-3 months. Probably a third of my new clothes were 25-50% off the original price, it seemed that when ever I went to purchase clothes, they were mysteriously cheap. I gave up the old clothes to the Lord, and he blessed me seven fold. I now have designer labels I never would have imagined I would ever own. Not that the clothes should define me nor is my world central around clothes, but I am constantly reminded everyday about the kind of God I love and serve.
 
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Although I am an advocate for dressing modestly and despise seeing people these days walking around half naked or men in tight womens clothing *shudders* there is also the question 'what is dressing modestly?'

Some people take 'modestly' as being 100% covered pretty much - but looking back at the Israelites in Egypt..





The men really only wore waist garments casually and the women had garments that revealed their upper shoulders area as well as lower legs - just like a lot of modern dresses are these days.
 

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Nautilus

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yeah upper shoulders and lower legs are still fairly modest. And for men its like a day at the beach prety much. not seeing this egyptian thing's point
 
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ServantStrike

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yeah upper shoulders and lower legs are still fairly modest. And for men its like a day at the beach prety much. not seeing this egyptian thing's point
Yeah...

But it appears the Eyptians knew that NO ONE could rock a speedo.
 
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Is there a stardard for modestly ? How do you measure what you as an individual say is modest as oppose to someon else view on what is modest be it in different cultures . Is is stardard or do we measure modest according to our society and country . Just asking
 
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Is one of those Egyptians carrying a microwave oven? Whoa... I always knew something was up with those guys...
 
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Jullianna

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Is one of those Egyptians carrying a microwave oven? Whoa... I always knew something was up with those guys...
I think the kids riding the donkey have fan fingers too...

And...umm...aren't those the four women from the Robert Palmer videos?

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marrion

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just for the record God actually did not allow adam and eve to use only fig leaves to attempt to hide there nakedness. Gen(3:21).[SUP]21 [/SUP]Unto Adam also and to his wife did the Lord God make coats of skins, and clothed them.
it seems that there always seems to be a debate and sometimes arguing over dress code of women when it comes to church.
we never find such debate or arguing when it comes to our respective places of work.
Think about it wether it be a policeman,fireman,bus driver,pilot,retail store worker,restaurant employees etc no one hardly ever complains because they have a level of respect and understand it is up to the employer to decide how they want to be represented and most employers want their employees to dress in a specific uniform and look decent and covered up.
Also the employees know if they do not conform to the specific dress codes they may be fined or fired.
why is it when it comes to Gods instructions on outward appearance we have endless debates and arguments?
Gods instructions on clothing for men and women are very clear.(I Timothy 2:9,I Corinthians 11: 16, I Peter 3:3,Deuteronomy 22:5,Exodus 20:26; 28:42,Exodus 28:2).
The problem is that this is not being taught in modern day Christianity because the pastors,preachers etc are afraid of offending people and losing their meal ticket.
They also lie and tell people that God is ONLY concerned with the heart which is a lie from satan to send souls to hellfire and torment.
matthew 18:7 reads:7Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh!luke 17:1 reads: One day Jesus said to his disciples, "There will always be temptations to sin, but what sorrow awaits the person who does the tempting!
I think it is clear that there is a punishment for anyone who causes another to stumble and one of the easiest ways to cause a Christian brother to stumble is for women to dress suggestively exposing parts of their body which are only meant to be seen by their current or future husband.
we should not take this lightly and I would advise any professing Christian woman who tells another Christian woman that she should wear whatever she wants to take a closer look to see if she is in the faith.
This is not the time to play around.
May God grant us the grace and wisdom to accept and live by his guidelines of holiness both inside and out in Jesus name amen!
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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The way a woman dresses says a lot about her.

If she looks like lil kim at the VMA's with just star fish covering her stuff... your gonna wanna keep moving.
 
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simplechick

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That's the way style is some people like it others don't .so if you don't like my clothes just ignore
 
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Jullianna

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I say we should just accept peoples style I mean that's the way it happens plus I like wearing different clothes if I wear long shorts and all that crap people will think ur a old person lol
The wise Christian doesn't accept a thing just because that's the way it happens. God calls us to a higher way of doing things for our own good and for the good of those around us.

It's also never a good idea to live your life around what other people think, but what God thinks. Anyone who thinks you are an old person for dressing modestly is clearly not the brightest crayon in the box. Look for a deeper, richer color. It's worth it.
 
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ServantStrike

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That's the way style is some people like it others don't .so if you don't like my clothes just ignore

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