Dressing Modestly

[CW]

Look at her character, is she flirting with every second boy she meets.
She might be looking for a husband, so be careful with girls like that.
Does she dress like that to attract men, or because its just normal for her family to dress that way, thats the big question.
Just act normal around her,(if you can't resist lust then stay away) and see how she holds her own.
If you were to marry to her, would she still be like that after marriage? Its hard to know.

Yes crazyteen i think this is the case with looking for a husband. And again sure theres nothing wrong with that. I do think she flirts with many people haha. Its not like i could not be this way, but i dont like leading people on lol. Anyhow, again this is NOT an issue of my lust, or me lusting over her!!

If you were to marry to her, would she still be like that after marriage? : i would say i have no sweet clue ... im not married to her hahaha! But I would say no? Im not sure but hopefully not. There are people who are generally just flirtatious .. i like to call them headaches . Ive dated headaches before... not going to play that game again lol. But these things are figured out in both the friends and dating stages! You would definitely want to be confident in the answer before MARRYING her!!

 

[Mammachickadee]

Okay, as a man, I need to interject. Believe it or not, males CAN control themselves. It is a choice. Just because something catches our eye, DOESN'T mean we have to look at it! We can just as easily quickly look away. If we don't dwell on it and nurture it, it DOESN'T have to grow into a sinful thought or action. It's nice if others feel compelled to help men not stumble, but the truth is, if a man WANTS to, there ain't a darn thing you can do about it. Wear a freaking suit of armor, it won't matter, if a man wants to think of you inappropriately, he will.

Ladies, just help the girls and young women to grow in their walks with God, provide nurturing so that they may gain a strong self esteem, and teach them to be the woman that a Godly man will want to marry. Let us men take care of the boys and young men. We've been there and know when a smack upside the head is needed (metaphorically) and when to guide and direct. Males are capable of restraint.

Amen. Thank you for the nail-on-the-head testimony.

 

[simplechick]

I don't dress too bad but not all guys go for modesty I mean I want a guy that likes modesty,but all the hot guys like the short shorts and bikinis .when I move out I wear what I wanna wear .my cousins have hot bfs one of them rubed his hand on my butt did not like that but the rest of them r cute and nice.

 

[Jullianna]

Keep in mind that if you are picking a guy based upon whether he is hot/cute, you can't condemn him later on if he is shallow and not interested in knowing about the Lord if you took off a bunch of clothes to meet him.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

I don't dress too bad but not all guys go for modesty I mean I want a guy that likes modesty,but all the hot guys like the short shorts and bikinis .when I move out I wear what I wanna wear .my cousins have hot bfs one of them rubed his hand on my butt did not like that but the rest of them r cute and nice.

If all they like is your body then do you really want them? There are lots of modest outfits that look stylish and chic. In time you may realize that it's better to be respected, cherished, and thought well of than to be lusted after for your body. Self-respect is attractive. Beauty fades. Bodies age. When those things are gone you are left with your character, and he with his.

 

[xXErraticEmilyXx]

I feel as if it depends on the heart. For instance, some people model nude in art classes to help students learn to draw and paint realistic human beings. On the other hand, the body can be used to encourage lusty desires. Just like words can be used to influence another person positively or negatively, so do so many other things like our bodies. Words have the power to build up or destroy, even though they are simply sounds/characters and have no real meaning, and we can choose by our hearts what we will do- build up or destroy. God speaks the language of our hearts. Maybe you can pray about it. God is willing to listen and help you out.

 

[Liamson]

You guys are all so positive. I almost feel like not posting here but what the hey.


I agree with Emily but, thats not why I want more modesty....

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

You guys are all so positive. I almost feel like not posting here but what the hey.


I agree with Emily but, thats not why I want more modesty....

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!! MY EYES!!!

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

I hope this thread doesn't evolve into picking on people for how they dress,or because of their body types...

Not to be Capt. Bringdown...but if a parent doesn't teach their child boundaries on acceptable dress,then they will grow up wearing whatever they please. Somtimes I think we expect everyone to have common sense. Unfortunately,I think it needs to be taught. lol

I don't really find what the two women in the picture are wearing offensive. I think they are just more than likely so comfortable in their skin that it doesn't cross their minds that maybe partially exposed buns might not be the way to go when out shopping. I do in fact find it more offensive that they choose to shop at Wal-Mart,rather than wear proper fitting shorts.


(btw..Liamson,I'm not tryin' to dog you for posting the pic)

 

[Fenner]

I know what you're saying I Tore and I don't think we should make fun of anyone who's overweight or oddly shaped. However, if your butt cheeks are hanging out, no matter how comfortable you are with your body or no matter your shape, I think common sense would say, "No". Maybe their parents didn't teach them modesty but I still think an adult should know better.

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

I know what you're saying I Tore and I don't think we should make fun of anyone who's overweight or oddly shaped. However, if your butt cheeks are hanging out, no matter how comfortable you are with your body or no matter your shape, I think common sense would say, "No". Maybe their parents didn't teach them modesty but I still think an adult should know better.

I agree...you certainly would hope beyond all hope an adult would.

 

[Fenner]

I'm just mad because someone took a photo of me walking around Wal-Mart like that, lol.

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

I'm just mad because someone took a photo of me walking around Wal-Mart like that, lol.

Laffin' my buns off..ummm..for some reason Fenner,I can't ever imagine you w/out common sense...least of all showin' off yer' buns like that. Yer' too cool for school to do something so silly.

P.S. even though I'm not a fan of Wal-Mart,I still am a fan of you! (does that sound creepy? lol...'cause it was meant to be nice,not creepy)

 

[kenthomas27]

Captain Bringdown that cracked me up.

 

[MissCris]

So...I was going to say here that if everyone would just be ninjas, nobody would be dressed immodestly. However, whilst searching for a pic of a ninja, I discovered that apparently a female ninja COULD choose to have various body parts nearly hanging out while wielding nunchucks and kicking butt.

I would think that would be...I dunno, inconvenient. You know, speaking out of all my experience of being a ninja and a woman. I don't want to be tugging my clothes back into place when I'm fighting the bad guys. Or good guys. Whoever it is I would be fighting. In my imagination.

 

[fourleaf]

There are a couple of young ladies at my church who dress in a way that bothers me sometimes. It worries me for them. I don't think they realize the impact what they are wearing has on the men around them (of ANY age). That can spell trouble for them that they are not prepared to handle. They hear guys talking about what they think is attractive on a woman and they think that's what they should be wearing. I don't think we do a very good job teaching young women these things to be honest.

The young lady you are speaking of might be very much like some of the girls at my church, whom I know to be VERY innocent minded and who love the Lord and His people with all of their hearts. Try to see beyond her clothing to the person she IS before you decide. You might miss something very precious otherwise.

I have always been a tomboy who enjoyed kidding around with my friends, most of whom were guys. I probably still do. I don't see it as being flirtatious, but I can see how others might. Something to think about...

I also hope that the young ladies who are reading this forum will take your post to heart and give some thought to what they are wearing. I probably should give more thought to it myself. We probably all should. Thank you for posting.

Thanks Jullianna. Personally I wore blouse paired with skinny jeans and flats at church. I know for most Christians, skinny jeans cannot be classified as modest but that's the modest clothing i have and would wear in church. The thing is most women go for what's what in the market and sometimes they fell for something for someone inappropriate but we shouldn't judge people on what they wear. It's always the soul that most matter.

 

[rachelsedge]

I dress stylishly, but modestly. I've had two different friends at church (both females) approach me and say that they appreciate my modesty and that is something they like about me. I'm not trying to brag, I guess it's just an encouragement to those out there, men included, who dress modestly and feel like it's pointless. It's not like I WANT to dress immodestly, but in my modesty, I sometimes wondered if other Christians or people in general even cared.

I don't know what my point is there. I guess to not be discouraged, even if it goes unnoticed or if you're criticized for it. There ARE people who appreciate it and value it, whether or not they voice it.

Not that you should dress based on whether or not other people care, because it is a heart issue as well. However, I will say that most girls who dress immodestly, know it. I do believe there are some truly innocent minded girls out there who don't know any better, as Jullianna point out, but the majority of girls know, even if it's just in the back of their mind, that they are dressing for that kind of attention when they dress immodestly.

 

[AAAPlus]

I don't dress too bad but not all guys go for modesty I mean I want a guy that likes modesty,but all the hot guys like the short shorts and bikinis .when I move out I wear what I wanna wear .my cousins have hot bfs one of them rubed his hand on my butt did not like that but the rest of them r cute and nice.

You are displaying yourself, like a piece of meat. Therefore, you will find a guy who is looking for a piece of meat and treats you like one.

 

[Nautilus]

So...I was going to say here that if everyone would just be ninjas, nobody would be dressed immodestly. However, whilst searching for a pic of a ninja, I discovered that apparently a female ninja COULD choose to have various body parts nearly hanging out while wielding nunchucks and kicking butt.

Apparently women in most fantasy settings like knights, pirates, or ninjas are able to survive with far, far less armor than their male counterparts.

 

[MissCris]

Apparently women in most fantasy settings like knights, pirates, or ninjas are able to survive with far, far less armor than their male counterparts.

That's never made any sense to me! These big, burly dudes are covered head-to-toe in armor, and they die...and the women are flashing bits of animated skin all over the place, and living? Whaaaat?