Girls would you give a guy a chance that struggles with porn as a boyfriend?

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freakingout said:
I'm at 2, and I've been there for years without getting worse.
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Orrr, it's like drinking. Some can do it without becoming addicted. My husband explained alcoholism this way, "Some people have a glass or two and they're fine. I keep drinking, because it's never enough. Enough is when I wake up the next morning and have no idea where I am or how I got there."
 
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We are made to be helpers not maidens. Like said is he wants to work on it Id help but I wont let someone going making excuses etc. If someone wants to change, sometimes we need someone to stay strong at our side. I am not motherly I am just being me. :p After getting out of a hole he may be able to get up, if not the woman is always free to go. Its baout iving chances and not taking Gods place. Sometimes we have people around for a season, sometimes for a lifetime
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I would agree that we need help to stand. But in the marriage relationship, its much differen. Especially when you're not married yet. Not to mention that you're not taking into account that thechances of you making it to the alta pure, are slim to none.

What you think you know, is no match for deceitful charm. Don't ever forget that.

You are being motherly though. Our mothers used to take our rock music tapes away from us and trashed them. We still listened to rock music and all the more.

And now our daughters don't want to listen to us and they suffer.

Trust me, I've been a guy longer than you. This is much bigger than you!

Do you know how many accomplished Man of God have went down and are currently going down over this? It would scare you. They are failing even seeking to get God's help. This is so much greater than a supportive woman's help.

With all due respect young lady, you're young and naive. Have nothing to do With a guy that you have to save. Jesus and only Jesus can save.
 
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Orrr, it's like drinking. Some can do it without becoming addicted. My husband explained alcoholism this way, "Some people have a glass or two and they're fine. I keep drinking, because it's never enough. Enough is when I wake up the next morning and have no idea where I am or how I got there."
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That's right, that's why we"lay it aside, Hebrews12.

Not legalism, just wise living m
 
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lv2ski said:
I would agree that we need help to stand. But in the marriage relationship, its much differen. Especially when you're not married yet. Not to mention that you're not taking into account that thechances of you making it to the alta pure, are slim to none.

What you think you know, is no match for deceitful charm. Don't ever forget that.

You are being motherly though. Our mothers used to take our rock music tapes away from us and trashed them. We still listened to rock music and all the more.

And now our daughters don't want to listen to us and they suffer.

Trust me, I've been a guy longer than you. This is much bigger than you!

Do you know how many accomplished Man of God have went down and are currently going down over this? It would scare you. They are failing even seeking to get God's help. This is so much greater than a supportive woman's help.

With all due respect young lady, you're young and naive. Have nothing to do With a guy that you have to save. Jesus and only Jesus can save.
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I don't think Demi has EVER been a guy..lol.. So you're both correct and incorrect in saying that you've been a guy longer than she has.. :confused:
 
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blue_ladybug said:
I don't think Demi has EVER been a guy..lol.. So you're both correct and incorrect in saying that you've been a guy longer than she has.. :confused:
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LOL, I didn't see that before now...too funny;) ROFL;)
 
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I grew up in a time when there was no such thing. It was understood most guys liked their "girlie magazines," and the female version came along, so there were gals into them too. Most of the IRL people I know check out porn on a fairly regular base.

I honestly think "porn addiction" is something like "don't dance, don't chew, and don't date those who do." It's a Christian thing imposed over the real commandments, because it's a lot easier to give up on "sin," if you rewrite the law down to a short-list, than deal with the fact that there is no one perfect, including yourself. It's a way of proving one is better than another, rather than deal with God in our lives.

The modern short-list invented is
1. Thou shalt not smoke.
2. Thou shalt not eat junk food. Thy body is a temple, so blahdeblahblahblah. (All stuff on how to live just right.)
3. Thou shalt not look at porn.
4. Thou shalt debateth these things and rapture, ad nauseum.
5. Thou shalt blame everyone who disagrees with these things, as the cause of the world's decline.

Sorry, you were born in the wrong era, but if you find a church not so hung up on the short-list, you're likely to find someone who assumes you sin, and loves you anyway, because they do too.
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What is IRL?
 
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blue_ladybug said:
I don't think Demi has EVER been a guy..lol.. So you're both correct and incorrect in saying that you've been a guy longer than she has.. :confused:
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well they did mess my school papers up..t said I was a guy..I didnt know I was until I was told they had to make me a girl again..does that count too? hehehe
 
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Demi777 said:
well they did mess my school papers up..t said I was a guy..I didnt know I was until I was told they had to make me a girl again..does that count too? hehehe
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These days? Yeah probably.

What the government paperwork says often has a way of trumping reality.
 
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Once again, does anyone else have a banner that says "share" that shows up when they're on a thread?
 
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lv2ski said:
I would agree that we need help to stand. But in the marriage relationship, its much differen. Especially when you're not married yet. Not to mention that you're not taking into account that thechances of you making it to the alta pure, are slim to none.

What you think you know, is no match for deceitful charm. Don't ever forget that.

You are being motherly though. Our mothers used to take our rock music tapes away from us and trashed them. We still listened to rock music and all the more.

And now our daughters don't want to listen to us and they suffer.

Trust me, I've been a guy longer than you. This is much bigger than you!

Do you know how many accomplished Man of God have went down and are currently going down over this? It would scare you. They are failing even seeking to get God's help. This is so much greater than a supportive woman's help.

With all due respect young lady, you're young and naive. Have nothing to do With a guy that you have to save. Jesus and only Jesus can save.
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First of all we arent necisiarily talking about marriage relationships. I am sure youve been a man longer than for sure tho I dont care about that fact.
Second, with all due respect you are narrow minded and despising the youth of me calling me naive (which is against the bible) as you have no idea what Ive been through and seen so i hope and pray that God will open your eyes and make you stop judgeing so you wont be judged. Have a nice day
 
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Ultimatum77 said:
Well there is a naked trump mannequin running around the U.S....so it's technically appropriate....
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I'm so glad I didn't know of this....wait...I do know now...
 
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Orrr, it's like drinking. Some can do it without becoming addicted. My husband explained alcoholism this way, "Some people have a glass or two and they're fine. I keep drinking, because it's never enough. Enough is when I wake up the next morning and have no idea where I am or how I got there."
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I want to get it to a 0. But I really don't have anything to fight for. Right now it just feels like I'll be alone forever.
 
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Demi777 said:
First of all we arent necisiarily talking about marriage relationships. I am sure youve been a man longer than for sure tho I dont care about that fact.
Second, with all due respect you are narrow minded and despising the youth of me calling me naive (which is against the bible) as you have no idea what Ive been through and seen so i hope and pray that God will open your eyes and make you stop judgeing so you wont be judged. Have a nice day
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Seriously Demi, you're cognitively about 50 years old.
 
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blue_ladybug said:
I don't think Demi has EVER been a guy..lol.. So you're both correct and incorrect in saying that you've been a guy longer than she has.. :confused:
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I thought you'd like that, but don't let that distract you from the point. Especially older sisters.

Side note, I have 4 daughters, ages7-25, so the thinking of girls is always on my dashboard. I get to watch the cause and effect of their decisions all the time. When it comes to boy/men ones. Lots of pain, bc us dad's are dumb and we don't know anything about the male gender.
 
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