Girls would you give a guy a chance that struggles with porn as a boyfriend?
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I think people are too caught up in the need to be in a relationship. You should take a step back and worry about important things in your life right now, like getting closer to the Lord and escaping from the bondage of sin.
There are more important things in life to worry about than being all caught up in the fantasy of a romantic relationship : p I think when we let the "need" to be in a relationship rule our lives, we set ourselves up for sorrow. Stop worrying about what you dont have and keep your thoughts on the things you already have : p Work on yourself and do right right now, maybe that can come about later, but if you place it as your absolute need right now youre gonna be disappointed : p
There are more important things in life to worry about than being all caught up in the fantasy of a romantic relationship : p I think when we let the "need" to be in a relationship rule our lives, we set ourselves up for sorrow. Stop worrying about what you dont have and keep your thoughts on the things you already have : p Work on yourself and do right right now, maybe that can come about later, but if you place it as your absolute need right now youre gonna be disappointed : p
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I think if he was willing to talk to the pastor for counseling and get past the issue I wouldn't see a problem with it. Its when we keep our struggles private that is when satan wins. With support and Gods help a person can overcome any sin,but they must be willing to admit their struggle and give it to the Lord.
If single, I would work to clean it up my act before getting in a relationship.
If attached, I would consciously make a decision to clean up my act with accountability partners. A few weeks in, I would tell my wife what that "Bible Study" was really all about.
Your mileage may vary depending on the kind of woman you are with and the severity of your problem.
If attached, I would consciously make a decision to clean up my act with accountability partners. A few weeks in, I would tell my wife what that "Bible Study" was really all about.
Your mileage may vary depending on the kind of woman you are with and the severity of your problem.
Of course you would rather involve her. Because you are not really asking for her support, but you are, in reality, attempting to place some of the responsibility for your actions on her.
I cannot soft-pedal this. It is not right.
Be a man about this, and take 100% of the responsibility for what you have chosen to become involved in. Only after months of working on this (Absolutely NOT just a few weeks!), then, and only then, can you consider asking her to be your cheerleader, NOT a running-back on the field of YOUR battle. She is not responsible for your actions.
I cannot soft-pedal this. It is not right.
Be a man about this, and take 100% of the responsibility for what you have chosen to become involved in. Only after months of working on this (Absolutely NOT just a few weeks!), then, and only then, can you consider asking her to be your cheerleader, NOT a running-back on the field of YOUR battle. She is not responsible for your actions.
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The key to recovery is taking it one day at a time. You can't worry about tomorrow. Even Jesus says that. Focus on today. You know what you can do today? Schedule an appointment. Letting go of your electronics. Getting an accountability. You can't think that you're going to be alone the rest of your life. You have no idea what's going to happen. What you do know is that you're alive right this moment. so what are you going to choose to do with this moment?
Yeah. You can thank society for that. People like to think there's a soulmate waiting out there somewhere. When in reality, no such thing exists. And Paul said it's good for America to be single. If this world had an odd number of people, rather than even, then one person is bound to stay single because relationships are meant for two people. You can't have a three way.
I think that it’s great to discuss these things if you have a relationship with someone, but I think these threads get like this because there is this idea that women don’t struggle with some of the same temptations, as men do. We might not watch porn, but we like to look at hot guys even if we’re in a relationship with one. If we were to prefer looking at other hot guys over our boyfriends or husbands, would that be ok? So, the problem with these discussions is that men seem to think women once they get into a relationship, they don’t deal with any temptations of lust.
Yes, walking with Jesus in holiness is what we have to do married or single. Living married is more difficult than living single. We must walk that out first. Marriage will be harder if you don't.
Don't forget, God Is in control. He can prevent something from happening, as well as He can cause something to.
Your iniquities have turned these things away, And your sins have withheld good from you.
Jeremiah 5:25 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/jer.5.25.NKJV
Don't forget, God Is in control. He can prevent something from happening, as well as He can cause something to.
Your iniquities have turned these things away, And your sins have withheld good from you.
Jeremiah 5:25 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/jer.5.25.NKJV