Guys, Why Will You Only Marry Some Supermodel Instead of a Proverbs 31 Beauty?

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Bridget_Left_China

Bridget_Left_China

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seoulsearch said:
In other words, I seem to qualify as one step up from hideous! :)
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#1-Pffft. and #2- I receive the same back-handed "compliments". We should start back-handing in return... ;)

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Since ancient times in the Middle-east younger women were always preferred and married because they stood the best chance of producing many children; children are considered a treasure with regards to being the ones to perpetuate the family lineage.
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God has, in his infinite wisdom, kept me single for 38 years. Perhaps I wasn't meant to have children? I have thought on this for some time. I know God is in control of everything, though. Including the womb. Maybe not all hope is lost after all.

Ladies, if you're the type that someone would describe as having 'a great personality', you are not for me. If you wouldn't approach me in a social situation, it would be best that you not approach me here, either.
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And I think the proper subtext to glean from this is:
"If you aren't hot enough to interact with me at a party when I'm surrounded by those in my same 'league', then don't bother doing it here either." Pfft. I got yer league right here.
 
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Thanks for the support, guys--I really appreciate it!! But... I only seem to appeal to... guys I'm not attracted to in return... Turns out to be a friend thing... Many of you out there probably know the drill!

(Dashadow--I'm NOT saying this to offend you at all but I am generally attractive to much older men and I don't feel comfortable with that at all. When I was 12 and at a Christian school, a teacher had a crush on me. He was twice my age. Which, yes, was 24... and God kept me from any harm... But it has forever made me cringe when older men find me attractive--one of the reasons I am still single is that this seems to be the most general population to which I appeal.)
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I don't know what you're not comfortable with. If you think it was an attempt by me to come on to you, I'm afraid that's your misunderstanding and your problem. And I mean that without offense. :)
 
seoulsearch

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dashadow said:
I don't know what you're not comfortable with. If you think it was an attempt by me to come on to you, I'm afraid that's your misunderstanding and your problem. And I mean that without offense. :)
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No, DS, it's not a problem at all, so nothing for you to be afraid of.

I wrote what I did in case you were offended when I said I'm not attracted to older men is all (as some older men do get offended by this and have even told me that my attitude is "unChristian.")

And no, I didn't take that as you hitting on me.
 
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No, DS, it's not a problem at all, so nothing for you to be afraid of.

I wrote what I did in case you were offended when I said I'm not attracted to older men is all (as some older men do get offended by this and have even told me that my attitude is "unChristian.")

And no, I didn't take that as you hitting on me.
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Oh, I'm not afraid. :) But I wouldn't call your behavior "unChristian". I would call it unappreciative. I was just giving you a general compliment and you basically turned it into a bit of an ego trip. And I'm afraid that might hinder you in your search for the type of relationship you seem to seek. I'll be praying for you sister. :)
 
seoulsearch

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dashadow said:
Oh, I'm not afraid. :) But I wouldn't call your behavior "unChristian". I would call it unappreciative. I was just giving you a general compliment and you basically turned it into a bit of an ego trip. And I'm afraid that might hinder you in your search for the type of relationship you seem to seek. I'll be praying for you sister. :)
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Not an ego trip, Dashadow. And it's not unappreciative if it wasn't asked for in the first place. I do thank you for your opinion though. My not being attracted to older men is simply a preference, not a matter of ego at all. As I stated earlier, older men have tried to talk to me all my life, starting about about age 12, which has made me uncomfortable with their attention. And I'm sure God understands that. I know you meant well and that part of your intent I do appreciate.

As for what I might need or what prayer is best for me, I'm sure God will lead you, seeing as it's up to Him. :)
 
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Liamson

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I'm going to start off by saying that I don't like the word Hot. Cause most women that get described as Hot are simply disgusting Prawns. (See: Pam Anderson)


I think in general Attractive people have less emotional baggage than unattractive people. Unattractive people have been told that they are ugly, by themselves mostly, for so long that they are looking for someone to come along and prove them wrong. Almost like saying, "Fall in love with me, I dare you... Yeah, I didn't think so, cause you are just like everyone else."

Attractive people are attractive because it bubbles from the inside out. Its not a dress size or a facial symmetry or a height or a number on a scale. It is the ability to accept what God has given us and continue to live the life that we have been given, without getting hung up on all the things we aren't.

An Unattractive person smiles to Mask the pain and to fit in. But an attractive person smiles because they are happy.

An Unattractive person focuses on what everyone else is and has and does, because they are full of jealousy. But an attractive person cherishes the moments they get with the people who surround them.

Like I'll use Queen Latifa as an Example. She is attractive because of who she is, not her dress size.

Wynona Judd is not terribly thin but, she is still attractive.
 
seoulsearch

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Thank you, Liamson, for finding women other than Kate Upton and Megan Fox attractive.

We women of the CC forum clap in appreciation!!! (At least, I do.)
 
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I didn't post on the thread about the rich/well-dressed guy vs the righteous man because arwen said what I was thinking. I'm thinking pretty much the same thing here.

Can we say that all rich, well-dressed men are ungodly?
Or that all godly men are ugly slobs?
Or that all attractive women are the anti-proverbs 31 woman or can't have personalities?
Or that an interesting, fun-loving godly woman can't be attractive?

I'm not understanding the question. Maybe I'll just go over here and read for a few more pages and it will make sense. :)
 
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I think it's okay to want to be physically attracted (in some way) to the one you pursue but yes, you shouldn't be selfish about it. Physically, I have a thing for eyes, smiles and hair. She must be a Bible-believing Christian. Personality wise - honesty and trustworthiness, kindness and a fun-loving spirit are important to me (and everything that goes along with that) and I'd like her to share some of my interests. That said, I've never dated, so I really don't know what I'm looking for.
 
rachelsedge

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I didn't post on the thread about the rich/well-dressed guy vs the righteous man because arwen said what I was thinking. I'm thinking pretty much the same thing here.

Can we say that all rich, well-dressed men are ungodly?
Or that all godly men are ugly slobs?
Or that all attractive women are the anti-proverbs 31 woman or can't have personalities?
Or that an interesting, fun-loving godly woman can't be attractive?

I'm not understanding the question. Maybe I'll just go over here and read for a few more pages and it will make sense. :)
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Agreed. I know some wonderful, beautiful women who love the Lord and serve Him daily, which only makes them more beautiful! :)

Attractiveness is somewhat subjective. What I'm attracted to, other girls may not be, and vice versa. Attractiveness, even physical, can grow or diminish based on how well you know the person. There was this one guy at college that I thought was FINE, but the more I came to know him, the less he appealed to me, until eventually I was disgusted at myself for ever being attracted to him. On the flip side, another guy I was introduced to (via Facebook, the one I was supposed to be set up with in South Dakota), I thought was just okay when I first added him, but the more I have chatted with him, the more attractive he is to me.

Looks matter. But if you aren't attracted to anything else in that person besides their looks, then it's going to be a shallow, short-lived relationship.
 
DuchessAimee

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It's like most of you said, attractiveness is subjective. Personally, I've been attracted to a range of looking guys (good looking to me). I don't really have a type. I'm thinking that most men also have a broad range they are attracted to as well.

Personality is really important, and being a Bitter Betty or a Contentious Cathy isn't going to keep a man around long at all. And it shouldn't! Solomon mentions awful women a lot. The most memorable to me goes something like, "It's better to live on the roof than live with this woman."

Personally, I think I'm pretty. I'm not a model, nor have I ever wanted to be one, but I know I'm attractive. However, I'm not so arrogant that I believe every man wants me. I know some men are attracted to me and some aren't. That's fine with me because I'm attracted to some men, but other men I'm not. It's just the way it goes.
 
Loveneverfails

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Jullianna said:
Can we say that all rich, well-dressed men are ungodly?
Or that all godly men are ugly slobs?
Or that all attractive women are the anti-proverbs 31 woman or can't have personalities?
Or that an interesting, fun-loving godly woman can't be attractive?

I'm not understanding the question. Maybe I'll just go over here and read for a few more pages and it will make sense. :)
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My thoughts exactly.

There is physical beauty and inner beauty. Men are wired to greatly appreciate outward beauty, and that's not a bad thing. A man should delight in the beauty of his bride! But I believe most men who are truly "after God's own heart" are aware that inner beauty is far more important than outer beauty, especially when it comes to choosing a life-long partner. Solomon wrote a whole lot about the woes that come with marrying a woman only for her looks.
That said, hypothetically speaking, if there is more than one woman with Christ-like behavior and a wonderful personality, but one of them is more physically attractive in the personal opinion of a certain man (beauty is in the eye of the beholder!) what's wrong with him choosing to pursue her above the rest? I see nothing wrong with that. :)

I also wholeheartedly agree with those who say that physical attractiveness is subjective. If my future husband was the only man on earth who thought I was beautiful, that'd be enough for me. :)
 
maxwel

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Because we have brain damage?
 
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Yeah, what Arwen and Jullianna said, though i didn't really read Arwens, and only a little of Julliannas. But i probably agree with them both based off the bit i saw, haha.

Personally i refused to come into this thread, or the 'womens version'. I have a question to both OP. Who are the men on this site only looking for 'supermodels' that you are directing this to?
And for the other, who are the women on this site only looking for 'rich' men?

You're making these generalizations, and basically the sense is that this is what you are saying about the people on here. Otherwise why are you asking on here?

And before anyone points an accusing finger, i only came into this thread because i saw a post on my home page by someone else i thought was interesting. Otherwise i would not have come in.
 
seoulsearch

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I noted this about the women's thread as well, Ugly--that the way the question was worded, it just assumed everyone was lumped under one generalization.

I'm not sure if you read all of my original post, but I wrote in my first post that the reason I worded this thread this way was because I was doing a spin-off of Green's thread. And, I also put a disclaimer in my second post stating that we all know not every man is like this at all, but that I thought writing a paraphrase of Green's thread might spark some interesting conversation, as it had in the other thread.
 
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I'm not the supermodel-marrying type, seeing as they are out of my league. I don't know what a Proverbs 31 beauty is, but I don't think I could get one of those, either.
 
leelee

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the whole "league" is shallow though. If someone thinks they look to good to be with me then they are not out of my league, I am out of theirs. in fact if they think a relationship built on looks is going to work then I am playing a totally different sport.
 
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I noted this about the women's thread as well, Ugly--that the way the question was worded, it just assumed everyone was lumped under one generalization.

I'm not sure if you read all of my original post, but I wrote in my first post that the reason I worded this thread this way was because I was doing a spin-off of Green's thread. And, I also put a disclaimer in my second post stating that we all know not every man is like this at all, but that I thought writing a paraphrase of Green's thread might spark some interesting conversation, as it had in the other thread.
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So eye for an eye? Bottom line is people see the title and see its no different. Not all will want to read both new posts. The titles alone are a turn off.
 
seoulsearch

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Ugly said:
So eye for an eye? Bottom line is people see the title and see its no different. Not all will want to read both new posts. The titles alone are a turn off.
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Eh.

No worries Ug. You asked the question so I just thought I'd answer again is all. And, I totally agree--what we choose to read or not read/answer to is totally up to us. Take care.
 
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I just want to know this...
If I start a thread called "SUPERMODELS ONLY: APPLY WITHIN" will I get slammed for copyright infringement? lol
Looking for a woman who has a SUPER love for the word of God & MODELS herself after Jesus!
Please give a brief description of why you think you are worthy to be on the arm of iTOREtheSky
and keep it to less than 100 words ladies...there are other's waiting to apply. LOL
Yeah...NOT!:rolleyes:
 
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